2 lovely poems, both my children are healthy and reading poems like these make me appreciate that fact, i hope my next baby is as healthy too, it does take a special kind of person to raise a disabled child, my uncle is deaf and spastic and he is turned 50 now and its like my nan still has a child on her hands, she is 72 now and at a point in life where she should be enjoying her latter years. seeing how hard things are for her now makes me appreciate my healthy children and realise just what families who have disable children go through
We are not to be felt sorry for- its odd , as a mother of a four yr old son who has multiple disabilities, it is us who know the purest most uncontitional love. I at one time before i had my son, if i were to see a family who had a child who had a disability, it is only human to feel pity and think their lives were difficult. I now see some parents with children without disabilities that are so busy they dont treasure every smile every step every word. Our son is an angel. He has made us better people. Now you see people look at you the same look of pity at times but it is those people who don't yet know that level of joy and you actually feel fortunate
I completely agree.
It's funny this popped up again today, it's been sometime since I posted this and James has since had a diagnosis of Autism and he has been found to have some problems with his eye's that he has to have surgery for.
A friend wrote us an email last week saying she was very sorry to hear about James and was glad that we had been blessed with Sam (our youngest). She mean't well but all I could think was I have been blessed with both James and Sam; James is no less a blessing to our family because of his difficulties, I feel very lucky to have James as my son.
That was beautiful, thank you.
I have a HUGE lump in my throat after reading these. SO well written. I'm glad these popped up today. When you posted this, I had no idea I was facing uncertainties and difficulties with my baby. It's not easy and I know we don't have it as bad as some, but these were refreshing. What a huge eye opener it has been for me, after having four healthy, normal children. People don't realize what it's like if they never have to experience a child who is born with troubles. I thank God every day that I have been given my special son.
these are beautiful poems, i have a 9 molnth old son who has spina bifida. he has been through so much already. he is so tough he comes through every surgery with a smile. when i found out joshua was going to have spina bifida i cried for weeks. i couldnt understand why god would do this to me, what did i do wrong? then i was told god never gives you more then you can handel he only picks special people to have childern with special needs. now that he is here i cant imagine my life without him, when it gets so hard i dont think i can do it anymore i just look at him and that beautiful smile and we get through it together. now i ask myself how did i get so lucky to be his mother.
Very touching, these poems and all your comments. Thank you!
these two poems are beautiful the secon one had me in tears but it is so true, i think all the time about why god has given me a special needs child and now i no.
Thank you for the post, I have been searching for the first one for years! While I have no children of my own, I am an early childhood provider (preschool teacher) and sometimes talking to others is just like that. Thanks again, Debbie :)
i am sitting next to my 8 yr old little girls hospital bed as i came across these poems. and i really wish i would have seen then earlier. you see, she was born with c.p. and hes just had her firt set of surgeries on her leg and hips. she is in a great deal of pain and very emotional. with tears running down her rosey cheeks, she asked me " mommy why wasnt i made right, why wasnt i made like everyone else. why do i have to have all this pain". It broke my heart, i didnt know what to say. i just hugged her till she fell asleep. i wish i would have seen these poems before that question, because i would have had the perfect answer.
i have a 8year old with cp and i would give anything for her to just say mommy i have wait and will keep waiting she is my everything im mommy and daddy all we have is each other
Right now my son is facing new challenges; he started a new school and the transition hasn't been easy...for anyone. I keep reminding myself that life isn't always like this and there will be many many more beautiful moments to come in my lovely "Holland".
Let us all remember that when the disabled meet the abled, it can almost always lead to a good thing..
the second poem makes me wanna cry, n lifted me up. cuz my baby a yr old. has 3 different diagnosios n is soon to be called home with god. n just recently i am now realizing y god chose me