my dh and i discussed recently that we are in no position to be able to care for our parents if anything happened to them. it's very scary. his parents are in worse health than mine. i hold dd over their heads- "don't you want to be healthy so that baby Sara can have her grandparents???"
your parents need to go at it together. otherwise neither one will be successful. get them a healthy cookbook. when you visit, bring sugar-free treats. when you visit them have the whole family go for a walk with the baby (although i know it's hard since you have said how snowy it is there). given your family history, i'm glad to hear you are going to make those small changes to your lifestyle too.
unfortunately, what you describe is something that our entire generation is going to have to start facing soon. with cancer rates as higher as they are, and with obesity rates higher than ever, our parent's generation is not the healthiest.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I have a young mother too. SHe is only 52 (I'm 34). She lives in an assisted living facility because she didnt take care of her diabetes, etc She has COPD, Congestive Heart Failure and lost 2 of her legs below the knee. I can't take care of her because she needs 24 hour care. It's very hard to go through this. If you need anyone to talk to, please feel free to sent me a message!!!!!
I am so sorry to hear what is happening with your family. I have had some similar problems. My father passed away at 51 from a routine surgery about 7 years ago and 3 years ago while planning my wedding my mother was diagnosed with 4th stage breast cancer. Thankfully the medicine she is on has been working and she is back to work full time but every time she has a checkup it is scary because her cancer is in the worst stage. My husband and I live with her to help out with bills and around the house but we almost lost our house recently because of forecloser. I am so thankful for what I have and for the baby on the way I know it has giving my mother a reason to keep on fighting. I hope everything works out for your family. If all this has taught me anything it is to never give up hope and treasure what you have.
thank you so much ladies..it is scary to think about things like that, however very nice to know some have or are going through similar things i mean being only 21, going on 22 to think about the possibilities of losing either or both my parents by the time i am 3o is crucial...my dad lost his mm when he was 13 and his dad when he was 16...i talked to my mom about it..to try and cut down on smoking...she said i shou;d go more often since they dont smoke in the house with the baby...another thing i didnt mention is my mom is going through this and in the past 2 years my dad has turned into an alcoholic....losing his sister to cancer has done a tole on him as well as the rough childhood...i cant imagine...he has admitted hes not happy, he knows he has a problem and needs help but doesnt want it...ive even told him id find him the help, id go with him...etc...but he thinks because can do counselling sessions i can help him...im not in addictions...i work with kids and teens....instead of pursuing my education in child psychology maybe i should? lol
i was giving alot of cooking hints to my mom that i do and she had never though about....so we will see...
thanks alot though...