Getting pregnant after D

[tissylou]

I just had a D&C yest.  I hear different dates as to how long to wait to  try again.  Anyone have any advice?  I also heard you are more fertile immediately after a D&C.  Is this true?  Anyone who has been through this I appreciate the feedback.

[bnic16]

I had a D&C April 2010 my Dr. told me to wait at least 1 year before trying to conceive. We were aloud to have sex but we absolutely had to use protection. Now being 1 1/2 years past this I'm still having problems conceiving I am always about 6-10 days late and then I start my Dr. tells me I am as fertile as can be but yet still nothing. Does anyone know why this may be??

[tudorgeek]

I recently found out that I was pregnant for the third time. (The first produced my son, 20 months and the second I was told it was tubal so I had an abortion.) This time my husband and I had planned on getting pregnant since he leaves in November for basic. At my first ultrasound, the sac was there and we saw little movements. What the health department told me was that I was 10.5 weeks. However, the US measured me at 6.5. I was okay with that, I had another baby. I immediately dropped much of my unnecessary diet and ate better and took pristine care of myself. I was on a roll and my next US was three weeks on Oct. 13th. My husband and I decided to bring his youngest sister with us to see the baby. I was supposed to be 9.5 weeks. As the tech tried to find my baby, all she could see was a perfect sac, little flicks moving across the screen. And that's when the mood changed in the room. My husband tried, but he could not point out anything and I knew there was nothing there, but the tech told us to try the hospital, where they could do a transvaginal US. Later that night, the floor dr tells me and my sister in law that my baby suffered from fetal demise and just died in my womb. I told my sister in law to head out to watch my son so that I could tell him what had happened. When he walked into the room I lost all my composure and cried "the baby's dead." When the actual OB/GYN walked in, he told us that blighted ovum was the cause. Apparently, as my embryo was developing, something in its genes did not match up and it just stopped. My hormone levels were at 17, 477 and even a week after that, they were only 10,000. With my husband leaving in three weeks, I couldn't take the chance that I would have college, my 20 month old son, and a miscarriage if my body ever got to it, so I opted for a D&C so that it would clean me out and leave me with a minimal chance of infection. My Dr was extremely rude to me and my grandmother in law, and told me information that even my OB/GYN did not agree with. No sex for 4 weeks and don't try for another baby for three months. I think she was ticked off because I refused birth control and didn't want it to interfere with my healing and my chances of getting pregnant. I got my D&C done a day and a half ago and I must say that I won't be trying for another baby until my husband comes home for Christmas Exodus, and then it won't be trying, we'll be having fun. This is the second baby that I have lost in one sense or the other, and although I am extremely sad, I'm just handling it in a different way. I was surprised to find out that my husband was WAY more worried than I thought. He sure does hide it well. I know my time for another child will come soon. In 2.5 years, I have been pregnant 3 times and I am only 21, I have time and health. I do feel for every woman that has lost a child. I understand how you feel, I truly do, and I apologize. Here I am healing from my D&C, in recovery with my husband leaving me soon and a 20 month old son. Life happens and I know it is sad, i was 14.5 weeks with my abortion and I would be 12 weeks tomorrow. Just pull through. The more you are scared and hesitant the harder it will be to conceive again. Babies are not necessarily meant to be planned. Enjoy your spouse and yourself and it will happen. How do I know this? Because it has already happened to me with my amazingly smart son Hunter.

[Nee34]

Hello May1 I just wanna thank you for your post I know it's been a few years since you posted it but it really blessed my heart of your testimony. my husband and I after 11 years of marriage and 16 years total of being together finally was blessed to find out we were pregnant on June 1, 2011 and I think I may have been around 4-5 weeks pregnant however I began having bad cramping in which i was told that it was normal because of the implantation of the embryo. I went through that pain for a few weeks and had to go to the hospital because I began to bleed which was the first and only time that happened(the bleeding) the doctor in the emergency room did see the sac and everything baby was there as well but he said I may have been earlier than what expected because no heartbeat was found so after that  I still had pain but no more bleeding and finally the pains stopped in the last couple of weeks in June and I thought everything with the pregnancy may have been smoothing out ..my first OB appt. was July 18th and it was ten I found out through ultrasound the baby had no heartbeat and at the time I was about turning 13weeks  and I actually found out the fetus was only 6weeks so whatever happened stopped at 6weeks(which is called a missed miscarriage or missed abortion)..so I was actually walking around I didnt know I had a dead fetus in me which really hurt me even more because I was soooooo happy me and my husband both and I was talking to my baby and rubbing my stomach reading to it and everything and to find this out I would cry and cry so we wanted another u/s done and again it showed the same results so I had a D&C on July 27th because the baby didn't expel on it's own and now it's been 6weeks since I've had the D&C and i haven't seen my cycle yet...I bleed for a while after the D&C that I almost thought it was a cycle....the doctor told us to wait 2 cycles before trying again but as you know we were super anxious to try again....like I said I still haven't seen my cycle and I don't know if it's a good thing or bad thing because I haven't seen a/f so fingers are crossed and I hope either a/f will show up so we can atleast be relieved with a cycle coming since the doctor advised us to wait or no cycle which could mean we're pregnant....I'm just keeping the faith trusting and believing God will do what he said he will do.
Thanks Again,
~Nee~ Waiting in Expectancy

[scentless83]

Hi all, I m/c some time in the past month though I had no idea until I suddenly began bleeding in early August 2011 at 16w5d. I immediately left work and went to ER and had an ultrasound which revealed that my baby (who had a heartbeat at 12 weeks) did not have a heartbeat and appeared smaller.  He/She measured the size of a 9 week old fetus.  Though after they do pass in the womb, the baby does shrink, clearly something was wrong with my little one.  My body simply didn't recognize that it was time to say goodbye and tried to hold on to him or her as much as she could.

I wasn't given the option to keep the baby in a jar or anything as others were given in this post, I was told quite frankly that it would be removed (they gave me the details of how this was to happen as I seemed "calm", but I won't state them here in case they are upsetting to some) and that was that.  For anyone worried about a d&c, I was put under completely and did not feel a thing.  It also is NOT AN ABORTION, nor is the fetus carelessly tossed into a bin.  Though I was cramping ever so slightly (we're talking very light period cramps here) and had some brown spotting for the next 3-4 days, it was not too bad.  Hormone-wise, I've been far worse off.  Random crying about ridiculous things, just like I was when I initially became pregnant.  But day by day it gets easier, the hormones level out so you're less emotional, and there's always support.  If anything, you certainly have mine.  :)  Stay strong!

ps: I was advised to wait one menstrual cycle prior to trying again.  I'm 28 and otherwise healthy (I've had one prior pregnancy which went full term, he's almost 3) so I'm not sure if that has anything to do with the timeline that they gave me.

[NoeLov]

I had a miscarriage on 02/14/10. My husband and I went for our first U/S and that is when they found that the baby was not growing. I did blood work and it confirmed that I did M/C. I was told to wait one cycle then we could begin trying to get pregnant again. That was a year and a half ago. Since then we have tried Clomid multiple cycles, IUI, ovulation kits and cannot get pregnant. I was thinking that maybe I needed a D&C due to the M/C. Does anyone know anything about this enough to know if it would be effective 1 1/2 years after the M/C?

[katie_xoxo]

Can i just say aswell some people dont know what happens to the baby after the D&C i asked the doctors many questions when you have a D&C they take the tissue for testing an here in the UK they place the baby in its own container and they give you the option to bring it home an have your own funeral service or the hospital keep it they take it to the hospital chappal were the baby is then blessed and then cremated so for the lady who said they seem to be thrown anway like rubbish, dont worry or think that becaus there not xx