Hints needed on orgasim during intercourse

[chucky666]

I was with the same partner for 12 years and had not once had an orgasim during intercourse the only way i can was foreplay and never really had urges. At the time i didnt really care i thought thats the way its suppose to be until i met someone that makes me have urges just by a kiss. So any advise you can give me would be much appreciated.

[richy122]

being a man i agree if you dont fill fulfilled then tell him dont fake it cause we think thats what you want when i first got with my wife i couldnt make her ether but she told me i couldnt so i knew i had to make changes so we tryed all sorts of things and finally found a way to reach the big moment for both of us hope you ladys find your way

[CuriousOrgasim]

I have had orgasims before by my self but when I have sexual intercorse with my partner I can never get an orgasim as hard as I can by my self but i do like my clitoris being rubbed while having sexual intercorse but Its more Intament when we r both cuddling but maybe I should change positions in usually always on top what should I do?

[dirtyred8403]

I had the same problem. I was in the percent was women that could not have an orgasm doing sex. Oral sex yes but vaginal was a no. I would stop myself because I felt like I was gonna pee on myself. I'm 27 and a newlywed. I think it was mental for me because I couldn't clear my head and I knew it wasn't right to have sex before marriage. That was my blockage but it was also finding the right positions, knowing my limitations, and having the mood just right. I finally had an orgasm doing sex and it was amazing. =) Explore, have your mind set on sex. Shut your mind off to everything else. You have to be physically and sexually attracted to that person. It is mental. Women are very emotional so if we are not there mentally or if our partner pisses us of right before the act: we dry up, the mood is ruined, we lock it up and they have to unlock the combination. LOL! Don't be afraid to experiment and find your blockage. I'm still learning but I hope this helped.

[drstewart505]

You can read and read about ways others are having an orgasm but you will more than likely be disappointed. For most women an orgasm isn't always necessary when making love, it's the emotional connection and feeling of love that is sometimes satisfying enough. But as humans we are engineered for orgasms, we crave them, it's what encourages us to procreate.

You first need to learn about your own vagina. You need to be able to understand what makes you tick. You should be able to give yourself an orgasm first. While masturbating take notice of what you are doing to stimulate yourself. See what works for you. Women vary on the amount of direct stimulation which usually correlates with the size of the clitoris. If your clitoris is very small and tucked under the hood of the inner labia it will be very difficult or impossible for you to have an orgasm through standard intercourse.
When you are sexually aroused your clitoris will swell up and be exposed for stimulation. If your clitoris is large when swollen you will more likely not have an issue having an orgasm through intercourse; if your mind is right. But if you have a small clitoris or iny you you will have a very difficult time having a clitoral orgasm.
hat you need to do is: masturbate.... look at your clitoris, where is it? are you directly stimulating it or are you above or below it? Is it protruding from your labia? If you're having issues and you do notice that your clitoris is tucked away, very small or in need of direct stimulation then you need to change things up from the standard missionary and others positions and choose a few positions that has the penis directly rubbing over you clitoris.

You can find many positions on the web that use direct clitoral stimulation during penetration. One of the down sides to these methods is that a lot of them require your partner to have average to above average penis length.
Basically, any position that causes the penis to come down past your clitoris for direct stimulation. Ie.. Lay on your back with both legs straight out as if you were standing at the position of attention. Have your partner insert his penis, keep your legs straight this will force his erected penis to slide up and down over your clitoris as he is penetrating you.
Make sure that you are fully aroused before to improve your clitoral stimulation. Don't just jump right in.
DR. Stewart

[RichardSaggin]

ok so my girl friend isn't having orgasms when we have sex and she hasn't told me up until recently she doesn't understand why i think its important that she has them or that i want her to have one. to tell the truth i dont even really know why its so important, i just no i'm supposed to pleaser her as well. I get the feeling we have sex because she thinks it makes me more passionate and she likes that but doesn't really get the pleaser i get in return. i feel really bad about it all. Please any advice you can give me would be great, i have explained to her that it shouldn't be all about me.

[KtBaby]

okay, it really gets to me to not lets say "get off" when we have sex. I feel very bad for lying to him by saying i got off, is it bad to lie to him? i know it makes him feel good but if he found out what really happens im sure he would be upset! I can have an orgasim but by doing it my self but never just from sex..i cant even get close to an orgasim during sex. im not even sure ive ever had my "G-spot" hit. i feel like im missing out!! alot of the things people have said on here are good ideas and i plan to try them but i am afraid for if they do not work. i wanna be able to feel that pleasure but just cant seem to! very very frustrating!! >:(

[whiskeychick76]

I have had this problem all my life until recently....try having him sit on the edge of your bed and you sit on top it helps to have the wall behind you if you can, but if not just bring him up to a sitting position while you are on to and you should finally be able to have the joy of cumming together.  I hope this works for you because it only took me 14 years of marriage to figure this out!

[cat314]

Maybe try not putting so much pressure on her to experience the big O, if shes worrying the whole time about getting there shes not going to. Encourage her to experiment by herself first until she knows what she likes. Just be patient and make it more about being close and intimate with her and hopefully she'll be able to relax more? Hope this helps

[cat314]

Im 27 and been with my partner for about 7 years. He doesnt enjoy kissing or foreplay so just likes to go straight to sex and goes within a minute or two then its all over rover. Its been like this for a while now. We used to spend hours fooling around etc. Now because he works longs hours he's always too tired whenever I am in the mood. If i ever want to orgasim i have to do it myself when hes not around. But its just so depressing that i dont even feel like doing that anymore either. I've tried to talk about it with him and try not to hurt his feelings but he just laughs it off and makes sum joke or tries to change the subject. I love him and he's like a best friend to me but I don't know what to do anymore??? Whenever he does try foreplay or kissing he's in a hurry and that does nothing for me. He seems to think if he does it for 2 seconds thats enough and i want him to want me, i dont want to have to keep asking him to do these things....does anyone share this experience??

[liljoz99]

I've been with the same man for 3 years and I have never had an orgasim during intercourse. The sad thing is I've never told him that. I've pretty much faked my orgasims every time.. can anybody help me find out a way to have an orgasim during sex.. without having to tell him I've been lying this whole time...

[xxlashawnxx]

I have been having sex with the same partner for 3 years not even once i had an organism.I tried all positions but still it dont work.I really need to know what it feels like.Can some one tell me what else can i try to get to that point?

[shadow87]

I have been with my partner for 3 years and never reached orgasm during sex or foreplay. We have tryed everything and were getting frustraited. Please help

[Deathstrider]

every time i have sex with my boyfriend i enjoy it, but no matter how hard i try i can NEVER get off before he does. The only way i can get off is if we are doing oral sex. is there something wrong with me?

[Bleachrulez]

Here's a tip that I've found useful, but only if you really trust your bladder. I've found that having sex with a somewhat bladder helps add more pleasure to the experience and allows some to reach the big 'O' faster. The problem is that this will put more pressure on your bladder, and may cause you to not to 'need to pee' but actually pee. Another problem with this is it will put more pressure on your man's manhood and may cause him to reach his orgasm even faster making it counter productive.
If it's the 'need to pee' sensation that throws you off, then make sure you take a trip to the bathroom before you start, then you know that it's just a sensation and there's no reason to worry. This means instead of worrying about it you can just enjoy it. Trust me, he'll wait for you.
EXPERIMENT. You might find that you and your partner only enjoy one position, and that's okay, but experimenting is an important part of the experience. It allows you to be more comfortable with each other and will help you understand more about your body. It can also add new life to your sex life, and hey you might just surprise yourself with a new position or fetish.

[gmarree]

hey, i know this is not during sex but if your dying for the big o get ur guy to stimulate you with his hand 1 finger inside you and his thumb on your clit (use lube, helps alot) get him to go sow then when you get a hit of massive pleasure but not orgasim get hm to go really fast. It helped me so much as i could never have an orgasim during sex but this at least got me an orgasm( oh and lots of kissing helps)
but im gonna try u guys' advice

[Satisfyed64]

I am a 64 year old women. Married to the same man for 40 years. Never climaxed. When he died I thought my life and my sex life was over. You see, I enjoyed sex and lived with the knowleage that I just wasn't a women that could come. RIGHT? No wrong. Four months ago I met a man that changed all that with one little word! He said PUSH darling like your going to pee. wow did I ***, over and over again, socking everything in sight.I now know I was holding myself back all those years by not knowing how to ***. Hope this helps somebody out there! Satisfyed!

[yourgirl77]

Im 26 and have never orgasim till the right man(my hubby) and something i heard on t.v.-- While ur man is licking ur clit and fingering ur g-spot, do kegal excercises and tighten ur butt(squeeze the muscles) while relaxingur mind and body(DO NOT THINK ABOUT GETTING OFF) think of a billboard with any thing sexy and taa daaa! u may feel like u have to pee (i did thats why i always stopped) but u wont, just ride out that feeling and u will feel GREAT! I still do not reach orgasm during sex but were still tryin, but getting oral till u *** then having sex so he cums works just fine! you both get pleased!!! TRY it it worked for me!! I always thought something was wrong with me, NOPE

[peanut35]

Okay at age 28 I had to have a hysterectomy. Now I can not have the big O! Not to mention I have a hard time getting into the mood. I need help as my 10yr  marriage is slowly slipping away!!HELP

[brit_chick]

Right ok ive got with a new partner and he has made me orgasim through foreplay before now but whenever we do foreplay and he masturbates me i get soo close but then this weird sensation feeling comes over which makes it hard to not wriggle or push his hand away.... its a nice sensation but also frustrating and kinda tickles, its really putting a downer on me why i cant reach orgasim anymore! Any advice please???

[rish79]

the on;y way i can orgasm is if i use a toy and watch music videos or porn! i want to be able to experience the same feeling from my boyfriend. hes noticed that i never orgasm and i tried placing his fingers on my clit for him to rub but he did it so much it ended up hurting so i gave up. but i want to be able to concentate better on getting one??! x

[Dodger1094]

The orgasm starts between your ears ( Mental Visualizations ) let yourself Think yourself there. Smell ( Tell him what your favorite Cologne, better buy him a bottle and then "REACT", purr, rub, let your eyes get glassy, so he gets the idea. Ask him what he likes etc. Good Hygiene, Both Take a bath, Relax, don't stress over it. Start at Breakfast,spend time thinking about what you want  to do to him, call him and tell him. Do not focus on "YOUR ORGASM",think about his and how to torture him,and just have fun. Tease all day. This prepares YOUR MIND more than his, he can't read your mind  If he feels he doesn't do it for you, then he will loose interest.Don't WORK, just enjoy. The " I gotta pee" is the threshold just before you fall of that cliff into bliss. The first few times hurts, then it gets better , easier, and faster with practice.Don't forget the Romance, its the gas the  emotions run on. Tease (watch women tease at formal dinners with strawberries) staring at him with that look,and this exposes your emotions, and your becoming vulnerable and feeling sexy. Works for both of you and makes you more confident. Its an emotional event almost more than a physical, but both need to be there. It will happen when it suppose to and when it does it will take you away. But if you fret and worry, It ain't happening. But it is in your head. Watch some taps together and see how long you can prevent taking your clothes off. If you feed his ego, he will feed your need. Be honest with him,about what you want( hes not a girl) doesn't know what it feels like for you. If he gets you to ROLL THOSE EYES and groan loudly, he will be the king and you will be his favorite pleasure.

[Shannon38]

Most women do have a hard time orgasming naturally during sex. Sitting on top and rubbing your clit against him may work for some. Just depends on how "sensitive" you are. Here's my suggestion on what I've found works for me. Lay on your back and grab your legs behind your knees. Have him get on top and prop himself on his elbows. He has to maintain a stead rhythm pushing forward while you pull back on your legs, angling your pelvis. We're all shaped a little different so you'll have to figure out how far back feels right. He should be able to hit your "G" spot like this. It's not easy, and definitely takes some work. It may not work every time, but when it does, you'll definitely tell the difference between the "external stimulation" orgasm, and the "internal stimulation" orgasm.Good luck!

[SEXGODESS]

if you just want to exoerience an orgasm just use your fingers at first and rub then in circles around yor clit.IT WORKS EVERY TIME!PROMISE!!!!!!!!

[goody2skate]

hello, i have been tryin to get my girl to orgasim for a coule months now. i took her big v from her and i can not get her to get the big O... i am just shy of 7 in adn 5.5 girth and we normaly go at it for 2hrs or so... i have tried everything from missonary to standing to doggy. you name it i think we have tried it lol... i konw some girls jsut dont orgasim, but how do we know which girls dont. i have givin her oral until i couldnt put my tunge back in my mouth, i have stimulated the spot and rotated threw positons like nobodies buisness... any advice??? we have been dating for almost a year now, so i think the chemstry is thier... part of it is sh doesnt relax. i tell her to just make it me in her mind but she keeps soemthing in thier... what can i do to help that, and are thier any like not well known positions for deep penetration that includes g spot and clite stimulation at once??? if somebody could help me out that would be amazing.