My boyfriend cannot hold an erection when we have sex- he has never ejaculated from intercourse, but has when I go down on him. I was his first, and he knows that I have had lots of sex, so I am thinking that he may be scared of failing or feels pressured to do well. I am on birth control pills and we don't use condoms- I know I am good in bed, and I am attractive- so I don't think it has to do with me. How do I bring up this issue with him without making him more self conscious and perpetuating the problem? I really like him and care about him, but Im not willing to deal with this for a long time in a serious relationship!