Hymen removal surgery?

[greeneyes529]

Is there any way to tell if you are still physically a virgin? I have never had sexual intercourse, but I have used tampons since I was 13 and I read in a magazine that this could cause the hymen to break, but I didn't know for sure. Also, if you are still physically a virgin, is there a doctor out there who will remove it for you? I want my wedding night to be pleasurable not painful.. Thanks.

[jroblue]

That is not necessarily true.  I have used tampons for a long time as well & just had sex for the first time.  Unfortunately I found it to be somewhat painful.  I don't want to be too disgusting here but there was also a lot of bleeding.  I just wanted you to be aware because that freaked me out a bit.  

[ib9ahhhh]

haha i compared mine to the berlin wall!

[ib9ahhhh]

oh and by the way, not to be rude or anything, but i think this might be an odd place to fight about politicts, dont you think? i mean this is kind of a place for discouraged women to get some help and reassurance, not political lectures...

[ib9ahhhh]

I HAVE THE SAME PREOBLEM!!!!! you took the words directly out of my mouth. i would also like to know if there is such a thing as getting it proffesionally removed. i have tried many times with my boyfriend to try and break through. and i mean, it hurts alot, but im willing to get it over with, but its not like that, he just physically cannot break through. its been very frustrating and discouraging.

[ib9ahhhh]

I HAVE THE SAME PREOBLEM!!!!! you took the words directly out of my mouth. i would also like to know if there is such a thing as getting it proffesionally removed. i have tried many times with my boyfriend to try and break through. and i mean, it hurts alot, but im willing to get it over with, but its not like that, he just physically cannot break through. its been very frustrating and discouraging.

[ChickaMandy]

Is there aything that can go wrong with the surjery? Like excessive bleeding or anything like that cause im thinking about getting the surjery but idk if i'll be in pain or just sore after and be able to go back to school like the day after.

[chick402]

ok i live in lincoln nebraska and i was wondering how much does it cost to get your virganty back. i cant get married because its againt my culture to not be a vargin and i need help.

[teaollie1]

i had hymen surgery six months ago and ever since the surgery i've had absolutely no sex drive. before my surgery i loved sex and now i think i could go my whole life without it. has this happened to anyone else? should i seek help from gyno?

[Free_Wilhemena]

To the woman who has problems with intercourse, due to pain --and others who commented on "Free Willy": Fact is, men WON"T continue to date a woman with a tough hymen. I know. I didn't start having sex until I was 43, and tried to have intercourse, but it was agonizing. My hymen was like the Great Wall of China. No, men don't want to hurt a woman, so they didn't last. I want to have MY choice of men, not just the kind ones who feel dorry for me. I finally got deflowered at 44, and it was so painful I screamed. I wondered why intercourse was still painful even after. I searched the internet for anything that would give me answers, and there was nothing! This site is great. Now I realize that I still have part of my hymen and that is what's hurting me. If I could get gyn surgery for free, I would. I want so much to enjoy sex and have any partner I want, and be GREAT at sex, too. I don't want to be limited anymore.
And
Don't be hard on Free Willy. He only said what was true. I know, I've been there. with around approximately 30 men trying to enjoy myself.

[CaptSeigler]

just wanted to say I agree gonza. Just because it's the Bible belt doesn't mean everyone who's religious, conservative, "born-again" Christian is fearful, close-minded, and ignorant.
Speaking as a man (not a womanly man, in case anyone thinks of labeling me that-I'm a Marine Officer) who was doing research for my girlfriend and came across this page, I just wanted to assure you ladies that not all men are like freewilly. There are indeed still Prince Charmings (I prefer the term knight myself) out there: rugged, strong, protective (not jealous), stable, men who genuinely care for the woman he'll marry, who's not afraid of her virginity, but prizes it (not as something to take from her, but to receive from her since it's hers to give.)
Call me old-fashioned and backward if you will-I'm still saving myself for my girlfriend, and she's saving herself for me, until those gold wedding bands slip on our fingers. No, i'm not criticizing you if you haven't, I merely state my choice and say there are others out there like me.
It's what you give, not what you take. Gonza, you're right, in the end, it's the relationship. And ladies, there are strong knights still out here, granted we may think completly different and sit around watching TV, but we're still here. For what it's worth, just thought you should know.

[Dazeddarkstone]

Look...Im not an expert at this type of stuff but i can definatly say that you should see your gyne if you are consistenlty haveing pain with intercourse. It could be a problem with the type of hymen you have or you might just suffer from vaginal dryness. Nevertheless just to be on the safe side...make an appointment. It never hurts to be sure. LOL. Goodluck girl!!!

[nagoh88]

hey im 19 years old..and i have never gotten a period. i am attending many clinics about this.. my gyne said that i have POF. im nervous because i have not fufilled puperity properly and when i have had sex it hurt so much. i have partner now he knows about me having POF i keep putting of the idea of having sex together because im afraid that he will think im a freak. can anyone please give me some info?? do u think i should tell my gyne that im having trouble having sex?
would surgury be a good idea and if so where would be a good place to start looking???
please help me out...i have msn also if people are serious about helping me..

[sabrecat16]

hi,
I was told that i have a thick hymen by my doctor.and small one by a another.  i was also told if I was planning on have sex that there are ways to get ready for it. I was wondering with a thicker and small hymen would surgery be a good idea?

[mrswest]

I completely agree with joannarf.   As i was reading the posts, all i kept seeing was insecurity, insecurity, insecurity.  Goog luck in finding what your looking for freewilly. but with your attitude you'll be alone for a long time.

[IWantToBeAMom]

OMG LOL!!, "...45 orgasms to a woman within the course of 24 hours (yes, I was counting, but only because it was so amazing. No faking; I assure you.)"

I assure YOU, willy, that is faking!!  And the Oscar goes to...

I totally agree with JoAnna, LMAO!!!!

[freewilly]

Admittedly I cannot relate at all to 48% of the population. Anyone who thinks that being anti-abortion or who will support our president no matter what or who thinks that oil wars are justified. When I think of the bible belt i think of the red states where my family is from and where religious beliefs replace common sense and the ability to think. There is little culture in those red states. Mostly "culture" = television. There are epic changes happening in the world and insulated areas tend to harbor the most patriotic communities. But patriotism isn't what's needed now. We need to think globally. We need to invest in education. Thanks to Bush's borrowing for the war ($400 billion) we're basically going to be unable to support our spending. In 20 years we'll see where we stand. I suspect we

[JoAnnaRF]

I'm sorry, but I just have to jump into this one for a minute. I am finding so much of this humerous, and a bit pathetic. First of all, I am having trouble understanding what George W. and the War and economy have to do with relationships, this is really not a political forum, but whatever.
I feel the need to inform you, freewilly, that you have been had! You think you are the one controlling your relationships as well as your sex life, but in fact you have been controlled by the women you spoke about. We women are REALLLY good at convincing men that they are driving when in fact you are lucky to be in the trunk. You have been dupped. And rightly so. Are you still with any of the women you have supposedly given multiple orgazms to? 45 in 24 hours. 20 in an hour. 30 in 3-4 hours. Sorry to stab you in the ole ego, but that didn't happen! Believe me, if it did, they'd be beating down your door.LOL
I have read all of your posts and come to the conclusion that you are very insecure in your own sense of masclinity. You are trying to validate your manhood by bragging about pleasing these women. When in fact I'd have to say that kjsk was right on the money. They were faking it in hopes of getting you to hurry up and finish so they could clean up and get the heck outta there. And counting them.. Please. It must have not been very good for you if you were still able to maintain the ability to count. Good sex makes it difficult for me to remember my own name let alone count to 30.LOL
I have found that the art of making love takes time to perfect. It's not something you can jump into, have the woman fake it and then KNOW if she is the ONE or not. After 18 years of marriage, my husband and I KNOW exactly how to please the other. There is no doubt as to the validity of pleasure as we have an honest relationship. This comes with time, knowledge, understanding, trust, experience, concern, caring, desire, and LOVE. These are not things you can obtain in the span of three dates. You are having cheap experiences. But to use an analogy, which you seem to enjoy.. If you play tennis with a different player every day, then how will you ever learn one's individual strategy? You won't. You will judge Thursday's competition by the match you had on Wednesday. And chances are, if they have the same level of expertise as you, you will lose. If you play tennis with one person with the same level of expertise as yourself for 6 months, you will learn their little quirks. All the in's and out's of how they play the game. And chances are, you will win. Sounds like most of the players you meet on the court throw the game and let you win so they can go play with the instructor who pays attention, gives pointers, and doesn't judge them.
I suggest you keep your racket in the closet until you learn the rules of the game.
20 in an hour LMBO ROFL tears in my eyes..

[Babycakes1]

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[gonza]

Where exactly are you from?  You say the Bible belt is filled with "fear and ignorance".  Why would you make such a statement?  Just because beliefs are not your beliefs do not make them ignorant.  You talk a good talk, but you know what, you are still narrow minded.  If people choose to wait, good for them.  If people choose to sleep around to gain this wonderful experience of sexual conquests, good for them.  But keep this in mind, when you and your partner are 90 years old and unable to be as intimate as before, are you going to have a friendship to last a lifetime?  I hope so.

[Texasheat]

I'm taking a quick guess, but I have a feeling that he hasn't expressed his feeling to any of the females in his life. They'd probally lynch him. Anyhow, I have been told that I have an imperforated hymen and would need surgery before I could have intercourse, and yet I have periods. I can't wear tampons but its not that I can't insert them they just feel uncomfortable. Does this sound right? I am in the military and was told this by a military GYN. Not that it really makes much difference far as I know.

[Texasheat]

forgot to mention they have never been able to do a complete papsmear which was also blamed on my Hymen. Not sure what that means, they mentioned something about me being particularly small.

[oceans3]

alright, alright so i posted again. sorry if i made you feel as if you've been discredited. i usually am a very positive person and try to see good in all. yes, i am an insecure person but not in the context in which you described. you did say something very important and i will agree with you (whoa..) that many people in a long term, not so great relationship fear being alone. that is true but both need to work at not letting that happen and after so many years it certainly can happen. i highly understand differences esp. in men and woman. hope you meet the one that does it all for you.

[freewilly]

I keep trying to make this broader than the two of us, but you keep trying to discredit and/or invalidate my experiences/knowledge. I suspect insecurity, but that's fine. We're different and as earlier mentioned, that's a fundamental concept to any discourse or dialogue. I'm glad you're happy. So am I. "Success" in relationships isn't measured in years or whatever. It's measured in moments (thought milliseconds) and the connection. Some of the least happy people I know are those who are stuck in long term relationships; Stuck because they're more afraid of being alone than of being unhappy. That's an awful existence, but extremely common.  As for the call to the ladies for support, granted I don

[oceans3]

this is my last post because it it very clear that you are set in your ways and you obviously believe that your method on getting woman is working.(but who is the one not married or in a long term relationship?) i have tried to help shed some light on how woman feel but again, you have all of your little analogies and viewpoints and you are not going to change. as a woman and knowing many of them, your example of that woman you were dating and having 30 orgasims in a 3-4 hr span??? HELP ME OUT HERE LADIES but i would bet a lot of money she was FAKING. probably to get it all over with. most woman (and you did state you are not that experienced) do not have an orgasm during penetration.just so you know. about the 25 yr old virgin you were talking about and how thats too old? there are woman who either wait until they are married or simply make a conscious decision to be one. about that roomate..now i KNOW you arent blaming that ex girlfriend of his for his $400 phone sex bills. that was his horney decision. he made the calls. he should have gotten something cheaper like a magazine or pleased himself. thats free. i hope one day you find the whole package you are looking for by the 3rd date just so to spare any other ladies along the way from your lack of sensitivity.