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I had sex for the first time yesterday.
I'm 14 and a female. I had sex for the first time yesterday with my boyfriend. During I didn't get any pleasure, is this normal? and also I sometimes had sharp pains during intercourse. After sex I went to the rest room and realized I was bleeding? Today I had a little feel downstairs, it feels like the skin at the bottom of my vagina has torn. I'm too scared to have look. I'm quite tight so is it possible?
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Hey Sweetie, you are soooooo young be safe and please be very very sure that your boyfriend is having sex with you only. I also had sex at 15yrs. old and it back fired on me I became know as the fast girl when friends and family found out. I was a good girl like you are but people dont see that you know people are judgemental. But GOD sees your heart all I say is there is so many diseases out there old and new ones. PLEASE always us potection I know you do but make him and never go without. OK! I pray GOD keeps you and guides you and protects you. Take care! meka:)
I think great advice was given here. Take what you want and leave the rest. Part of being an adult, who decides to make the huge decision to have sex, is understanding that people will have their opinions. We all were teenagers at one point and understand--that's why you received the extra advice. You will really really love a few guys in your lifetime. Anonymity works both ways on a public forum. Just like you took the time out to research and find this board about your issues, you should have done the same before having sex.
The fact is though is that what's done is done. If you are concerned about the tearing and the bleeding, maybe you should discuss this with your mother and go to the doctor. Just explain as you did here that you seriously love him, had sex and how concerned you are about the pain.
All the best.
The fact is though is that what's done is done. If you are concerned about the tearing and the bleeding, maybe you should discuss this with your mother and go to the doctor. Just explain as you did here that you seriously love him, had sex and how concerned you are about the pain.
All the best.
No I do not think you are stupid at all I just been down that road many times so just extending my words of wisdom to you but good luck!
You probably think I'm a stupid girl for having sex so early, or that's the vibe I'm getting from you. Many of my family members have got with their husbands/wifes at 14/16 and stayed together, I'm 15 soon. I really love my boyfriend, I know he'd never cheat on me (he respects me) and we get on great! Obviously sometimes things don't turn out right and you drift away from people, but sex has made our relationship stronger (In my point of view.) I wouldn't recommend people my age to have sex unless they know the person they're with properly. (I'd known my boyfriend 6 years prior getting together) I don't feel like it's added to my plate of my concerns at all, but that is all my point of view. I know myself very well, I have a very strong personality and not like a usual teenager because I'm quite adult in my ways (I always have been) so the decision I took to have underage PROTECTED sex was mutual between me and my boyfriend. I don't regret it at all, I just hope it'll get better.
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When you're 24, 34, and 44, revisit your statement that you're not too young at 14 and see if you still agree. :) I'm not talking about being unable to handle it, but why add to your plate of concerns about growing up at only 14? The time of your life when you have no responsibilities and can still sort of play like a kid is very short, and the rest of your life is very long, and many adults wish they had had more time being just carefree kids. Most 14-year-old girls who are having sex do it so they will please their horndog boyfriends rather than to please themselves; that's what I meant by "respect yourself." Don't do it because he wants it only. Good luck in any case.
Yes we used protection, I'm not dumb and I don't want children and thanks for the advice. In my point of view, I don't think I'm too young, I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, and it felt right, because I seriously love him and I won't let that get in the way of my education. I have a lot of respect for myself and I don't have sex with different boys on a regular basis.
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Why on earth did you have sex so young? Did you use condoms? If not, take a pregnancy test in a couple of weeks to be sure there is no little bonus from this activity. Honey, please, respect yourself and try to stay a kid a little while longer. You have years and years to act out sexually, wait until you're at least 16 or 17 to start.
its just your first time ,, so its common to bleed some as you,ve lost your virginity ,, and feel thight ,, as your still very young ,, a lot has gone on , but at least it was with your concent as you will always remeber it ,, and hope it was a memorably expierence ,, but you do need to use proctection ,,and if he could also but at least you should ,, they are creams u can use for intercourse ,, to make it easier ,,,, but you a very young ,, please be carefull you have your whole life ahead of you
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