I seriously need reassurance, my labia minora is NOT NORMAL

[your lil' sister]

I think my vagina is very very ugly. the labia minora is a darkened color and it is almost 2 times longer that the outer lips. My boyfriend is a lot more experienced than i am. I've only been with one other guy before him. He says that i am "different", but won't admit whether it turns him off or not. But our sex is still great. i've seen pictures and videos of other people's vaginas and it only makes me feel uglier.
Please tell me that there are others out there with the same "problem". i wish i had a pretty little pink one like the girls in porn clips; but i do not want surgery. We love eachother very much and i don't want this "isseue" to ruin our sexlife due to my lack of self esteem. Big sisters..please help!

[haiiiiii]

If it makes you feel any better.... I have the same problem as well.... I eel ugly because of it as well and therefore I don't let people touch me :/

[jlynn210]

im only 22 and i heard that the look of the labia and shape is due to having a lot of sex, is that true?

[1annonymous1]

Whoa. To say that everyone in porn is perfect if disgusting.  There is no such thing.  Everyone is different and unique.  And everyone has different things that do turn them on.  It bothers me that people sit around talking about how gross hair or labias are... it's just a symptom of our sick society.  Yes, main stream porn, if there is such a thing anymore.... does tend to show a specific type of woman, head to toe, and yes there are not many large labias represented in these cases.  But your first mistake is comparing yourself to anyone else, let alone porn.  You are you, she is she, and I'm me.  We are all different, and the sooner we accept that, and accept ourselves, the sooner we can appreciate the things that make us more unique or special.  And I, personally, love hair, and a large labia.  And I challenge the people who talk poorly of such things, because I don't think I should feel weird for liking what I like, and I'd hate for someone to overhear and feel bad about themselves, thinking that there's something wrong with them or that they should try to be different than they are.  I prefer a WOMAN.  WOMEN have hair, and WOMEN over done worrying about whether or not they look like the other girls.  WOMEN are strong, and secure in who they are.  Love yourself, first and foremost.  Put your self worth in what someone else thinks, even if you love that person, and you'll live a miserable life.  There is NOTHING wrong with you and your vagina is NOT a problem.  Anyone who treats you differently in any way because of it, really needs a reality check, and you could pity them and their skewed perception of the world.  They are missing out on so much in life shying away from things they haven't seen or experienced before.

[mekealohapumehana]

IT IS MOST DEFINITELY NORMAL! All vagina's come in different sizes and colors. Just keep in mind that porn stars do surgery and bleaching to their vagina. Don't worry, you're not alone, my labia is dark also and I've never had a guy complain about it. I'm sure what matters the most to men is what your vagina feels like not what it looks like! :) Hope that made you feel better.

[karri1020]

I pretty much have the same exact problem but  im only 15. and it was pretty much the same for me.. i have not lost my virginity but im just a little wimp about telling my mom. she has so much debt and telling her would make things worse. i am very insecure about myself as well and i hate even talking about havign sex with guys because even when i get into the whole idea i have a feeling that it wont work out and i will in the end get hurt and embarassed. then i act weird and the guys never talk to me anymore. :[ but i did have the itching problem as well

[LucyLuck2]

I'm 27 I have a very darkened pubic area and my lips hang down very low. It upsets me that men think of labia like mine as worn out because of too much sex because this is nonsense! I do get self conscious but I also love them.  You should watch amateur porn instead of porn stars and you would realize that we are actually the normal ones! My boyfriend doesn't mind them. The only reason I would consider surgery is because they don't always fit into skimpy knickers not because I'm embarrassed about my body.