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I think my labia minora are NOT normal.
Okay. One of my labia is much longer and a little bit darker than the other. The other is short and pink. I am very self catious about it. My boyfriend wanted to have sex or at least finger me, but I wouldn't him get anywhere near my vagina. I swear I am NOT normal. I don't feel beautiful down there. Please, I just want to know if I'm the only one like this..
Yeah. You're right.. And I know I shouldn't care about what my body looks like to him. But I just can't help it.. But anyways. Yeah, I'm gonna wait to have sex. I wouldn't want him telling his friends or anything.. So. Thanks. For all that. Lol
If your friends all decided to jump off a cliff, would you feel obligated to do to the same? Having sex before you're emotionally ready to handle the consequences amounts to the same thing. Just because you've been with this boy for "some time" does not mean you owe him a chance to use your body for sexual experimentation.
If you're in an emotionally mature relationship, you won't be worrying about what your parts look like. You'll both be too busy exploring each other and learning that sex is really just the icing on the cake of a solid relationship rather than its bedrock. There is grace in the free and loving exchange of sexual pleasure when it's with someone you truly love. Sex for the sake of sex is unfulfilling in comparison and nothing but a pale shadow of what it's all about.
Sex is about sharing yourself physically and emotionally with your partner. It's not about sharing what you do with your friends and treating it as if it were a competition. What happens in bed, stays in bed and doesn't get replayed with anyone else. That's called respect. Respect for yourself and respect for your partner.
I remember well the difficulties of resisting peer pressure at your age. It's not easy to stand up to your friends and make it clear that you are going to do something different. Since your girlfriends obviously share their sexual experiences, what makes you think this boy isn't doing so with his friends? I guarantee you he's doing the same thing.
I know I'm a whole lot older than you are, but if you can hear some well-meant advice from an older woman who has been in your shoes, you'll take a deep breath and think about what you really want before you shed your clothes for anyone. You are perfectly normal. When you meet the right person, you'll realize that how you look really doesn't matter at all. :-)
If you're in an emotionally mature relationship, you won't be worrying about what your parts look like. You'll both be too busy exploring each other and learning that sex is really just the icing on the cake of a solid relationship rather than its bedrock. There is grace in the free and loving exchange of sexual pleasure when it's with someone you truly love. Sex for the sake of sex is unfulfilling in comparison and nothing but a pale shadow of what it's all about.
Sex is about sharing yourself physically and emotionally with your partner. It's not about sharing what you do with your friends and treating it as if it were a competition. What happens in bed, stays in bed and doesn't get replayed with anyone else. That's called respect. Respect for yourself and respect for your partner.
I remember well the difficulties of resisting peer pressure at your age. It's not easy to stand up to your friends and make it clear that you are going to do something different. Since your girlfriends obviously share their sexual experiences, what makes you think this boy isn't doing so with his friends? I guarantee you he's doing the same thing.
I know I'm a whole lot older than you are, but if you can hear some well-meant advice from an older woman who has been in your shoes, you'll take a deep breath and think about what you really want before you shed your clothes for anyone. You are perfectly normal. When you meet the right person, you'll realize that how you look really doesn't matter at all. :-)
I know I am quite young. That's another reason I didn't want to have sex with him. But we have been together a while. . . But still. My friends have been fingered.and some have had sex so I figure it wouldn't be too bad. But at the same time I want to stay a virgin. Ya know? And I've read some other posts and stuff and everyone says having different sized labia isperfectly normal. But I still feel different..
You are completely normal. I promise. External genitals come in all shapes and sizes. They even change as we age and various hormone levels fluxuate. The same is true for men and I have yet to meet a man who didn't think his man parts weren't the best things ever invented - at any age. LOL!
You're awfully young to be sexually active. Are you really, really sure this is a step you want to take? If you're with the right person, thoughts like these won't even cross your mind.
You're awfully young to be sexually active. Are you really, really sure this is a step you want to take? If you're with the right person, thoughts like these won't even cross your mind.
The labia minora is actually very versatile. Genetics and sex can alter its appearance and very rarely are they the exact same in size. In africa women actually stretch out their labia minora's as it increases pleasure in sex. You can get reconstructive surgery to make it look prettier(in your idea) but it actually sounds quite normal and could even be better for you the way it is. : D Good Luck!
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