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Is right now the right time? Help :(

I am currently getting my masters degree, I'm 25, and I have been married for 2 years to a wonderful guy. The more time goes along the more I think about having a baby. I still want to go to law school after my masters, but it looks like I'm going to have to wait 3 years, because the school I want to go to is out of state and my husband is still in his undergrad and needs to stay here until he finishes. I'm worried that if I don't do it now, I'll be way to busy in law school and then after law school you usually spend 5 years working like crazy to establish yourself. I think right now would be a good time to have a baby, but my husband thinks we're not ready. Yes, we're both in school, but I have insurance right now through my job which is at the school, and after this year I can take off to spend with the baby, and he will have more free time now while he's in school than he would having a full time job, right? The money thing really isn't an issue here, we will have enough.
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Maybe he isn't ready for other reasons.  Money isn't the only reason to be cautious about having a baby.  Ask him questions designed to understand his emotional readiness.  You don't want to inadvertently drive him away, or drive a wedge between you, because he thinks you don't care about how he feels.

If you do go to law school, you will have no time for your child at all.  Is it your intention that he would be home taking care of the children while you go on to the demanding legal career you foresee?  You might want to talk to some female attorneys with children about the sacrifices they made to get on top in their career and put that into your timing equation.  A lot of trained lawyers can't even get jobs.  In your position, I would look at an interesting career that ties to your Master's degree without the demands to work all day every Saturday and many Sundays that come with a law associates' job.
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I'd say GO for it!!!! The LONGER you wait, the less likely it is to happen. And theres NEVER a perfect time to have a baby. IF we all waited for THAT time, half of us wouldn't be here.
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