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LARGE MONS PUBIS
HELP. i've a large pubic bone and fat mons pubis. if i wear bicycle pants or something a bit tight it doesnt look like a regular mound.it looks like i have b*lls. i think its because my pubic bone is high. and my mons is really plump and fat, not like a usual mound. others often make fun of me, they say i’m actually a man, that i’m not normal, that i’m disgusting, etc. and when i walk in a bikini or swimsuit in the beach or the swimming pool, i can feel people staring DOWN,once, there was even a group of girls and some boys actually giggling about it. its really uncomfortable. it looks really round, fat and it protrudes outwards. and i’m not overweight AT ALL, but that section is damn fat.i’m 18 and im not sexually active, im embarassed. what do you think should be done? surgery’s my last option..
You all have no idea how sexy that is...for most men not boys its a total turn on...in fact you should all send me pictures lol...in all seriousness most guys love it so embrace what you have...its absolutely BEAUTIFUL
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Yes, I am a 52 year old black female (whom everyone says doesn't look a day over 35) and in my younger years I was very embarrassed by it but as I got a little more mature I learned that the few men in my life (but mostly my beloved hubby) have found it absolutely IRRESISTIBLE!!! Embrace your uniqueness and QUIT trying to change yourselves!!!
I agree sclaytonburley. This is a part of our body that is what it is and usually is covered up. :>) Glad you are in a good, healthy relationship. Come back and visit us soon!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wPBbZoAEfY8
very interesting Video about surgery, with Pictures of before and after.
Im gonna do a surgery next month
very interesting Video about surgery, with Pictures of before and after.
Im gonna do a surgery next month
ok ladies, thanks God we r not alone!! I had find myself staring "down there" to every single women and think: damn!! why I am the only one?? why??? But after reading all your post I feel such a relief to know Im not a freak!
I didn't even know what was the name of it, didn't thought there was a surgery for that, so I guess somehow I've learned to live with that (but still hating it) . Im 24, average body, but try to be in good shape as possible and I think my problem down there has to be more with bone that fat..
I found that standing up sticking out a little bit -just a little bit -my butt, helps... u get use to it and plus make your back asset stick up (creating a distraction) ;) . I dont cohibit myself from yoga pants..they r so comfy, why r we gona private from them??our life is difficult enough! ..thouse with a "long belt" that you can fold out, work perfect!!! make sure it sits over your butt and in the front covers your mon...it looks stylish and cute!
I dont private myself from bikinis eithers! the low cut works better..ironically the littlier is in the front, the better, I mean: thouse "60's" bottoms hightlight the bulge... the ones that are shorth but width kind of hide it, make sure it has strings on the sides that u can adjust to "flatten" out down there... (not a solution, I still mostly in the water, or with a towel around, or walking a bit fanny, but I still enjoying the pool/beach)
dresses, skirts, are so cute and femine, use them frequently and make them your signature look :)
I see on the guys comments, other women experiences and my own, that men dont give a f***!! about it! :) great! the guys I've been with have never mention anything about it (or may be they noticed but keep it to themselfs) With my current boyfriend I dont wana brought it up...im afraid he may think: I didn't realize that before...but now that she metion it, oh yeah...looks nasty :S and for the same reason surgery/lipo wont be and option, how can I get it done without him notice it??
make sure down there is as tan as the rest of your body..other way it would scream by itself: eeey look how big I am!! lol Keep it shave, massage it to stimulate circulation..keep it as pretty as possible...we gotta learn to live in peace with it...
anyways, Im agree that u gotta love yourself the way u r, but I know is hard to love your flaws... ur fat, bony flaws :S. but as you dont make a big deal of that, others wont do it either :)
I didn't even know what was the name of it, didn't thought there was a surgery for that, so I guess somehow I've learned to live with that (but still hating it) . Im 24, average body, but try to be in good shape as possible and I think my problem down there has to be more with bone that fat..
I found that standing up sticking out a little bit -just a little bit -my butt, helps... u get use to it and plus make your back asset stick up (creating a distraction) ;) . I dont cohibit myself from yoga pants..they r so comfy, why r we gona private from them??our life is difficult enough! ..thouse with a "long belt" that you can fold out, work perfect!!! make sure it sits over your butt and in the front covers your mon...it looks stylish and cute!
I dont private myself from bikinis eithers! the low cut works better..ironically the littlier is in the front, the better, I mean: thouse "60's" bottoms hightlight the bulge... the ones that are shorth but width kind of hide it, make sure it has strings on the sides that u can adjust to "flatten" out down there... (not a solution, I still mostly in the water, or with a towel around, or walking a bit fanny, but I still enjoying the pool/beach)
dresses, skirts, are so cute and femine, use them frequently and make them your signature look :)
I see on the guys comments, other women experiences and my own, that men dont give a f***!! about it! :) great! the guys I've been with have never mention anything about it (or may be they noticed but keep it to themselfs) With my current boyfriend I dont wana brought it up...im afraid he may think: I didn't realize that before...but now that she metion it, oh yeah...looks nasty :S and for the same reason surgery/lipo wont be and option, how can I get it done without him notice it??
make sure down there is as tan as the rest of your body..other way it would scream by itself: eeey look how big I am!! lol Keep it shave, massage it to stimulate circulation..keep it as pretty as possible...we gotta learn to live in peace with it...
anyways, Im agree that u gotta love yourself the way u r, but I know is hard to love your flaws... ur fat, bony flaws :S. but as you dont make a big deal of that, others wont do it either :)
Oh my goodness I'm so glad I found this because honestly I thought I was the only one with this problem. I'm 18 yrs old and being very tall and thin this darn area sticks out like crazy. I absolutely hate bathing suits, the ones with the little skirts is about the closest thing I can wear. And super cute high waisted shorts are a no. I've been so self concious about it basically my entire life mostly because I've never had any boyfriends much less even kissed a guy. I've thought about liposuction in the area, but I feel as though it's risky and would mess up nerves or something. Aghhh it's so annoying.
One guy's opinion: There are certain aspects of your body you can control, and certain aspects you just can't. The size and shape of your bones or general body parts, along with how your body distributes fat, are both things that fall in the second category. Not trying to be crude at all, but the first thing that comes to my mind in finding a comparison is penis size: a lot of guys have spent a ridiculous amount of time worrying over something that just isn't fundamentally changeable. All that time and worry is essentially wasted effort, and preventing them from moving on to more fulfilling aspects of their life. I've seen liposuction mentioned on this forum (which my girlfriend pointed me to, by the way), but that doesn't really solve the underlying problem which is either bone structure or how your body distributes fat. Even if the liposuction works temporarily, the fat will just reaccumulate eventually, not to mention the pain of post-op.
I would argue for two things: one, if you're overweight (you can calculate your BMI here: http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/) try exercise and dieting. Commonsense, and no pain or money involved.
Secondly, come to terms with your body for what it is. If I meet a girl who thinks my penis is too big or too small, and that's a dealbreaker for her, then we won't date. Simple as that. It's not something I can change and it's not a preference I can change in her, so it's fine---we just both move on. If you meet a guy who feels the same way about your mons (although I have NEVER heard a guy talk about some girl's mons...ever), then you won't date him. Simple as that. Could he possibly be a jerk about the way he expresses that? Sure! But that just makes him a jerk, it doesn't have anything to do with you. Generally speaking, the people who are ONLY interested in your physical attributes aren't ones you want to be dating anyway, but hey if it just happens to be a real turnoff for someone you were interested in, then oh well. It's something that's out of your control.
TL/DR: The sooner you can come to terms with your body for what it is, and accept the things you can and can't change, the happier you'll be. Easier said than done, I know, but there's no time like the present!
I would argue for two things: one, if you're overweight (you can calculate your BMI here: http://nhlbisupport.com/bmi/) try exercise and dieting. Commonsense, and no pain or money involved.
Secondly, come to terms with your body for what it is. If I meet a girl who thinks my penis is too big or too small, and that's a dealbreaker for her, then we won't date. Simple as that. It's not something I can change and it's not a preference I can change in her, so it's fine---we just both move on. If you meet a guy who feels the same way about your mons (although I have NEVER heard a guy talk about some girl's mons...ever), then you won't date him. Simple as that. Could he possibly be a jerk about the way he expresses that? Sure! But that just makes him a jerk, it doesn't have anything to do with you. Generally speaking, the people who are ONLY interested in your physical attributes aren't ones you want to be dating anyway, but hey if it just happens to be a real turnoff for someone you were interested in, then oh well. It's something that's out of your control.
TL/DR: The sooner you can come to terms with your body for what it is, and accept the things you can and can't change, the happier you'll be. Easier said than done, I know, but there's no time like the present!
I've been doing quite a bit of research for years since its been a problem for
myself. Ive had it for as long as I can remember and I remember always
being self conscious about it and looking at other little girls and noticing how
different I was from them. It seems to be that fat collection is very easy
here, just like the lower abdomen. Because women have a higher
percentage of fatty tissue in the body than men it is more prominent in
women. If you are unsure if it could be a high mons pubis bone or just fat, I
recommend just checking yourself out. Lay on a flat surface with your legs
flat and press down on the mons, feel how far down your bone is, feel if
you could dig your way through the fat. It most likely will be a build up of
fatty tissue. It could actually also be hereditary. I actually have cousins
who have it much much worse than I do. And a lot of women are simply
born with it. As far as solutions, Ive applied fatty reducing cremes
and soaps several years back from a dietician in Tijuana, Mexico and I
believe it worked slightly. I have some right now but I have not constantly
applied it recently to conduct an experiment. Right now I believe the best
decision would be laser lipo. It is a pubic liposuction and is more cost
effective than regular liposuction, does not have such a long recovery
period, and is designed specifically for small tedious areas of the body
where fats just build up. Good luck ladies, but as of now this would be a
great option.
myself. Ive had it for as long as I can remember and I remember always
being self conscious about it and looking at other little girls and noticing how
different I was from them. It seems to be that fat collection is very easy
here, just like the lower abdomen. Because women have a higher
percentage of fatty tissue in the body than men it is more prominent in
women. If you are unsure if it could be a high mons pubis bone or just fat, I
recommend just checking yourself out. Lay on a flat surface with your legs
flat and press down on the mons, feel how far down your bone is, feel if
you could dig your way through the fat. It most likely will be a build up of
fatty tissue. It could actually also be hereditary. I actually have cousins
who have it much much worse than I do. And a lot of women are simply
born with it. As far as solutions, Ive applied fatty reducing cremes
and soaps several years back from a dietician in Tijuana, Mexico and I
believe it worked slightly. I have some right now but I have not constantly
applied it recently to conduct an experiment. Right now I believe the best
decision would be laser lipo. It is a pubic liposuction and is more cost
effective than regular liposuction, does not have such a long recovery
period, and is designed specifically for small tedious areas of the body
where fats just build up. Good luck ladies, but as of now this would be a
great option.
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