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1766217 tn?1314799739

My wife is masturbating 2 to 3 times a day 7 days a week

My wife and i have been happily married for 17 yrs, our relationship in and out of the bedroom is great. We have no sexual issues, foreplay,and no complaints. My wife during foreplay or oral sex will masturbate herself and rub her breast, and this helps her to orgasm, which i love and feel great seeing her do this and knowing she is fullfulling her desire. But her sex drive is 3 times mine, and i feel mine is at 100%,but i have noticed my wife is masturbating 2 to 3 times a day, and when we are together, i have seen her wake up from sleeping (dreaming) and start masturbating in the middle of the night, she will masturbate in the shower in the morning and when we go to bed at night. is this a problem or a phase for her?
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134578 tn?1546634665
If you've been married 17 years and she's been doing it 17 years, it would be a pretty long "phase."  But if you feel this is new, then maybe it could be.

If you are both happy with the relationship and she is sexually satisfied the way things are, don't worry.  She probably just finds the masturbatory experience helpful or satisfactory in a different way than having intercourse.  (It's certainly easier.)  Some people masturbate as a way to relieve stress, for example.  If *she* is concerned that she has an addiction, then she could talk to a counselor about it, but if she has a perfectly functional life and the two of you are happy and have a good sex life, it just seems like it is not a problem.
1766277 tn?1313616169
I don't really see how that's a problem. If she's happy and she's been doing it for as long as you say she has then I really wouldn't worry.
1766217 tn?1314799739
Thanks for the feedback....AnnieBrooke, i do agree with you and im glad you responded. i do feel the higher percentage for her is to relieve stress,  i dont believe its an addiction in a negative way no. She seems to do it more in a relaxing atmosphere,bathing, shower or laying in bed. Shes not into toys and is not into the freakish/nympho catagory....lol....we are happy, and she never replaces her doing this for sex or intamacy with me. I just had never really known or heard of a woman masturbating that much, but i dont have an opinion either way as of too much or too little. And i do also agree....my wording "phase" was not a great definition of what i was asking, i do believe its not a phase too.
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I am a woman and can tell you my sex drive is higher than any man I have encountered and I have tons or orgasms. I masturbate a lot and for longer than her probably. 1-4 hours at a time because my orgasms are so many. But  I have to stop because of life things. I have been like this as far back as a kid of 8 when I discovered this ability touching myself. So there are others out there like us.  I always want sex with my partner too. He can’t keep up. He doesn’t have to. She is totally okay and normal, just some of us enjoy the sensations a lot.
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She might just have a higher sex drive than you.
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That sounds very much like my husband and myself.  We have been married 26 years.  
During sex I have been having more orgasms than in the past (up to 10), I still masterbate outside of that, sometimes because I get excited thinking about the sex we had.  Lol
Do you also give her orgasms? Or do you usually just touch and watch.  I know I like it better when my husband gets more actively involved in causing the orgasms.
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I would just like to mention that it has been proven that men have their sexual peak at 18 - 19 years old and women have their sexual peak between 30 and 35 years old.
If the woman was a late bloomer, got her periods at 15 rather than 9, then having the sexual peak closer to 40 rather than 30 would also be normal. Men usually go through their midlife change around 35-50, it is not like menopause but it is usually the time when the sex drive decreases because his focus is more on other things. For the men, do you remember how much you masterbated/thought about six when you were 19? Was it the same as you do now at age 40? When I was 18, I only had sex/masterbated once every 3 months. When I was 33 I bugged my husband for sex every day!!!! Three times we went from 11 pm -  6-7 am in the morning!!!  Women, unless you are thinking about cheating ORGASM AWAY! The most I've ever been able to do is 7 per night. And I totally agree with the other poster about thinking about the times I was with my husband is usually what gets me ready to go again! Even when alone I can finish longer/faster if I scream out his name!
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I would have said it's normal until I reached reading how frequent she does it. Did you talk to her at any point? You've been together for quite a long time and talking does a lot of magic. I wouldn't say something is wrong with her because there might also just be something wrong and not directly her. Try talking, though.
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