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Odd cramping after orgasm and bowel movements
This is quite odd but I experience an uncomfortable cramping in my lower abdomen after I have an orgasm or after a particularly intense bowel movement. It's somewhat painful but definitely more on the uncomfortable side. Occasionally I will also feel the cramping when I get sexually excited. It doesn't last for too long, a few minutes at most but I was curious if anyone else had experienced something like this.
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Hi everyone,
I just now posted my answers to the questionnaire after following this forum for almost 3 years. I'm sorry I didn't have the courage sooner.
I want to thank all the women who have had the strength to talk about this problem here and with their doctors despite the embarrassing nature of it.
I also want to thank the few men who have found this forum while searching for a solution for their wives/girlfriends.
As you can see from my questionnaire, I've had these pains on and off for the past 10 years. They haven't come back since my last pregnancy (my baby is almost 14 months old), in part because I am not sexually active. When I tried sex with my partner again, the pains started "creeping back". But they went away after 5 days when I stopped all sexual activity again.
On top of the humiliation of being reduced to a groaning, crying, pooping, sweaty mess during the pains, the guilt and frustration of placing our sex life and our partner's sex life on hiatus just makes it that much worse.
When I first started going to the doctor to find out what this was, I was told that it was all in my head, that I was doing this to myself. If anyone is going through that now, please know you are not crazy and you are not alone. Stay strong in the face of those doctors, look for new doctors, keep a journal and print out this forum... do whatever you can to keep going. Don't let them convince you that it's "normal" to have some cramping after orgasm because they have no idea the intensity of pain we are suffering through.
If anyone has any questions or just needs someone to talk to about this don't hesitate to reach out. I have met a very nice woman through this forum who had a hysterectomy and is keeping me informed as to whether it should be a viable solution for me or not.
Paula
I just now posted my answers to the questionnaire after following this forum for almost 3 years. I'm sorry I didn't have the courage sooner.
I want to thank all the women who have had the strength to talk about this problem here and with their doctors despite the embarrassing nature of it.
I also want to thank the few men who have found this forum while searching for a solution for their wives/girlfriends.
As you can see from my questionnaire, I've had these pains on and off for the past 10 years. They haven't come back since my last pregnancy (my baby is almost 14 months old), in part because I am not sexually active. When I tried sex with my partner again, the pains started "creeping back". But they went away after 5 days when I stopped all sexual activity again.
On top of the humiliation of being reduced to a groaning, crying, pooping, sweaty mess during the pains, the guilt and frustration of placing our sex life and our partner's sex life on hiatus just makes it that much worse.
When I first started going to the doctor to find out what this was, I was told that it was all in my head, that I was doing this to myself. If anyone is going through that now, please know you are not crazy and you are not alone. Stay strong in the face of those doctors, look for new doctors, keep a journal and print out this forum... do whatever you can to keep going. Don't let them convince you that it's "normal" to have some cramping after orgasm because they have no idea the intensity of pain we are suffering through.
If anyone has any questions or just needs someone to talk to about this don't hesitate to reach out. I have met a very nice woman through this forum who had a hysterectomy and is keeping me informed as to whether it should be a viable solution for me or not.
Paula
1 Weight: When this started I was at the high end of my normal weight and not in great shape but I've had the problem for 10 years and the pains were there when thinner and stronger, when chubby and strong, when overweight and in bad shape... In my case it doesn't seem to be directly related.
2 How old were you when the pains started? --> 21
3 How long have you experienced the pain for? --> 10 years
4 Do you get pain a) after sexual arousal, b) after a bowel movement, c) after urinating, d) after exercise, e) all of the above --> At the worst times: All, even urination. During better times, only after sexual arousal and exercise. During the "best" times, only after sexual arousal.
5 Is the pain particularly bad after one of the above? --> Orgasm is always the surest and quickest trigger for the pain but it gets very intense when it comes from exercise, too. Lord forbid I should run to catch the bus...
6 Do you only have the pain after orgasm or after arousal as well? --> Sometimes after arousal, but usually after orgasm
7 Do you experience pain all month or just at particular times? --> In the worst of times it was all month except the 3-5 days of my period. In better times it was one or two weeks before my period.
8 Do you know if your mother, grandmother or sisters have the same pains? --> Mom no, grandmas no idea but probably not.
9 Have you been diagnoised with fibroids? --> I have a uterine fibroid on the outside of uterus (close to a fallopian tube) and I've had a couple of small ones removed during a laparoscopy (didn't change my pains).
10 If you are a mother, did you have the pains before, during and after pregnancy? --> Before pregnancy, for a few months during pregnancy and not again until 5 months after 1st baby was born and 14 months (and counting) after the 2nd baby.
11 How long does your pain last? --> 30-45 minutes.
12 When the pain passes, will it return if you resume sexual activity? --> Yes, but usually not as severe.
13 Describe the pain you feel. --> Cramping starts slowly increasing in intensity. Sometimes it starts dull in the middle and moves to slightly sharper pain symmetrically to where I would say my ovaries are. I have to go to the toilet; a bowel movement helps a little and when I can't go to the toilet the pain is worse. I feel like I'm going to faint from the pain. My breathing is a mess (I obviously need lessons in meditation or something because I'm sure, as for other women, if I could learn to relax through the pain it could be shorter/weaker). I mostly kneel on the floor/bed and rock myself (this pain is so humiliating...). Near the end of the 40 minute pain my rectum will often spasm several times. The pain decreases quickly at the end of the 40 minutes.
2 How old were you when the pains started? --> 21
3 How long have you experienced the pain for? --> 10 years
4 Do you get pain a) after sexual arousal, b) after a bowel movement, c) after urinating, d) after exercise, e) all of the above --> At the worst times: All, even urination. During better times, only after sexual arousal and exercise. During the "best" times, only after sexual arousal.
5 Is the pain particularly bad after one of the above? --> Orgasm is always the surest and quickest trigger for the pain but it gets very intense when it comes from exercise, too. Lord forbid I should run to catch the bus...
6 Do you only have the pain after orgasm or after arousal as well? --> Sometimes after arousal, but usually after orgasm
7 Do you experience pain all month or just at particular times? --> In the worst of times it was all month except the 3-5 days of my period. In better times it was one or two weeks before my period.
8 Do you know if your mother, grandmother or sisters have the same pains? --> Mom no, grandmas no idea but probably not.
9 Have you been diagnoised with fibroids? --> I have a uterine fibroid on the outside of uterus (close to a fallopian tube) and I've had a couple of small ones removed during a laparoscopy (didn't change my pains).
10 If you are a mother, did you have the pains before, during and after pregnancy? --> Before pregnancy, for a few months during pregnancy and not again until 5 months after 1st baby was born and 14 months (and counting) after the 2nd baby.
11 How long does your pain last? --> 30-45 minutes.
12 When the pain passes, will it return if you resume sexual activity? --> Yes, but usually not as severe.
13 Describe the pain you feel. --> Cramping starts slowly increasing in intensity. Sometimes it starts dull in the middle and moves to slightly sharper pain symmetrically to where I would say my ovaries are. I have to go to the toilet; a bowel movement helps a little and when I can't go to the toilet the pain is worse. I feel like I'm going to faint from the pain. My breathing is a mess (I obviously need lessons in meditation or something because I'm sure, as for other women, if I could learn to relax through the pain it could be shorter/weaker). I mostly kneel on the floor/bed and rock myself (this pain is so humiliating...). Near the end of the 40 minute pain my rectum will often spasm several times. The pain decreases quickly at the end of the 40 minutes.
Hi Everyone,
I have not put documented my data as yet, but have been keeping a diary as to when it is at its worst and at its least (for pain after orgasm only, not other non sexual times). I have found the closer I am to my period and especially on the day that I am getting it the pain is MUCH MUCH less and duration MUCH shorter (sometimes no more then the equivalent of a long period cramp). Once I begin my cycle again (and bleeding is finished) the pain following an orgasm is over the top and excruciating . I can only assume from this that it is hormonal, but my knowledge is limited in what happens within the womb/cervix/tubes/pelvic/blood/hormones/chemicals etc. within the body just before the onset of a period. Does anyone have an insight to this? This may give us (and the medical system) an answer to what is going on. Once I have documented my data I plan to take it to a gyno and see what they think.
I have not put documented my data as yet, but have been keeping a diary as to when it is at its worst and at its least (for pain after orgasm only, not other non sexual times). I have found the closer I am to my period and especially on the day that I am getting it the pain is MUCH MUCH less and duration MUCH shorter (sometimes no more then the equivalent of a long period cramp). Once I begin my cycle again (and bleeding is finished) the pain following an orgasm is over the top and excruciating . I can only assume from this that it is hormonal, but my knowledge is limited in what happens within the womb/cervix/tubes/pelvic/blood/hormones/chemicals etc. within the body just before the onset of a period. Does anyone have an insight to this? This may give us (and the medical system) an answer to what is going on. Once I have documented my data I plan to take it to a gyno and see what they think.
I have found some good solutions. I am thinking of starting a web page just for this issue. Keep coming back here to check because eventually I will post a URL.
I was referred to a pain specialist because I have dealt with this issue for over 20 years and I have given up on anyone being able to "fix" it and I simply needed someone willing to manage my symptoms at the least. My first appointment with the pain specialist, he called in a Physical Therapist to consult on the spot. She specialize in visceral work and she immediately sensed some vascular issues in my pelvic area. I have been seeing her regularly along with the pain specialist.
What has been working for me is having her work with my pelvic area (PT), one month, the Pain doctor gave me lidocaine injections in my lower abdomen area sort of where my Csection scar is (my pains preceded pregnancies) and I also have a prescription for Lidocaine patches that I place across my lower abdomen when I start getting crampy during that 1-2 weeks a month before my period starts.
I also have a prescription for both Bentyl and Hyomax. During the crampy weeks, I take Bentyl during the worst of it to prevent spasms. When a spasm "breaks through" I will take the hyomax sublingually because it is fast acting. I have a prescription for Vicodin to take during the two week of pain. I take them preventatively during the week i can get pain at any point or if I know I am going to have sex. I will take hyomax and a vicodin before sex to prevent cramping. If i have breakthrough cramping, I will take hyomax after orgasm. Sometimes this will completely prevent/stop the cramping and sometimes it takes the edge off. Sometimes I get lazy and forget and it catches me off guard.
The pain specialist really has helped a lot. I finally found some things that are actually working after 20 plus years. I have not yet tried acupuncture, but I am planning on trying that too. Today is my first significantly painful day in several months. I haven't been to the PT in a few weeks AND i have been off my usual lowish carb diet for about a week. I took a bentyl, stuck on a lidocaine patch and took vicodin and feel a lot better.. I also decided to check in since it had been a while. I would like to leave my email address because I think I would like to develop an intentional community surrounding this medical issue. This forum is the FIRST TIME I have ever seen so many women discussing this and unfortunately once a person finds something that works, they disappear. I think we need to work together and continue talking AFTER we find what works to help those who are still suffering. This is a horrific painful condition with NO NAME. Please email me at Voracious One at Hotmail ******* (minus spaces) and once i set up a web page I can alert anyone who would like to keep in touch. I put together a comprehensive spreadsheet with all the data i have collected from this forum about symptoms.,. etc. We will see relief in our lifetime ladies. If it is the last thing I do.
I was referred to a pain specialist because I have dealt with this issue for over 20 years and I have given up on anyone being able to "fix" it and I simply needed someone willing to manage my symptoms at the least. My first appointment with the pain specialist, he called in a Physical Therapist to consult on the spot. She specialize in visceral work and she immediately sensed some vascular issues in my pelvic area. I have been seeing her regularly along with the pain specialist.
What has been working for me is having her work with my pelvic area (PT), one month, the Pain doctor gave me lidocaine injections in my lower abdomen area sort of where my Csection scar is (my pains preceded pregnancies) and I also have a prescription for Lidocaine patches that I place across my lower abdomen when I start getting crampy during that 1-2 weeks a month before my period starts.
I also have a prescription for both Bentyl and Hyomax. During the crampy weeks, I take Bentyl during the worst of it to prevent spasms. When a spasm "breaks through" I will take the hyomax sublingually because it is fast acting. I have a prescription for Vicodin to take during the two week of pain. I take them preventatively during the week i can get pain at any point or if I know I am going to have sex. I will take hyomax and a vicodin before sex to prevent cramping. If i have breakthrough cramping, I will take hyomax after orgasm. Sometimes this will completely prevent/stop the cramping and sometimes it takes the edge off. Sometimes I get lazy and forget and it catches me off guard.
The pain specialist really has helped a lot. I finally found some things that are actually working after 20 plus years. I have not yet tried acupuncture, but I am planning on trying that too. Today is my first significantly painful day in several months. I haven't been to the PT in a few weeks AND i have been off my usual lowish carb diet for about a week. I took a bentyl, stuck on a lidocaine patch and took vicodin and feel a lot better.. I also decided to check in since it had been a while. I would like to leave my email address because I think I would like to develop an intentional community surrounding this medical issue. This forum is the FIRST TIME I have ever seen so many women discussing this and unfortunately once a person finds something that works, they disappear. I think we need to work together and continue talking AFTER we find what works to help those who are still suffering. This is a horrific painful condition with NO NAME. Please email me at Voracious One at Hotmail ******* (minus spaces) and once i set up a web page I can alert anyone who would like to keep in touch. I put together a comprehensive spreadsheet with all the data i have collected from this forum about symptoms.,. etc. We will see relief in our lifetime ladies. If it is the last thing I do.
Hi there, I have been following this thread for a years, anyone find a solution/cure/anything yet? I want the erotic dreams/excrutiating cramps to STOP, it's the worst and makes me afraid to go to sleep at night or take a nap. A lot of times the cramps trigger several bowel movements too. I also get the cramps if I have to pee during the night or morning......but I find if I hold off peeing until I've been up and about for aprx 15 minutes, the cramps won't happen. Its not easy if I have to pee really bad, but its worth it not to have to go through the cramps. All this happens about a week or two before my period starts.....then one it starts for a few days I am fine. I am going to try to give up white and refined sugar and see what happens. If anyone knows anything that can help this condition, please please post here. PLEASE. Thanks. :)
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