Pregnancy after abortion

[XOXOchelsXOXO]

On April 24th I had an abortion, the father of the child was an ex boyfriend. We broke up and I am currently dating this guy we will call "BOB".... we have talked about children and I think he is ready and wants to have one. He does not know that I just had an abortion with my ex and "bob" thinks that I am just on my period. It has only been about 5 days now, but I want to try for another. I did not want this past abortion but i was forced into it. How soon can I become pregnant without any complications?? I want a child and I think we are both ready. Please no negative feedback! Thanks!

[boozey_cheese88]

I have gotten, lets say, a 'few' abortions and after my second one, within 3 months of it I got pregnant and It was extremly painful (I am not kidding you, it hurt A LOT) and the doctor told me that getting pregnant so soon after could cause complications and that it's only really safe 6-8 months after an abortion to let your uterus kind of ... 'regain' some of the tissues that have been scraped off, so, at the time being I obviously couldn't have the child so I got another abortion... and a HELL of a lot of complications that has brought me into... Just for the record I was on the pill, I am very viral. Just so people don't think i'm some kind of 'baby killer'... in any case.. That's my answer m'dear!

[Kim1989]

you got pregnant by a guy and had an abortion 2 weeks ago and now want to get pregnant by another guy. i would say your not ready to get pregnant. you made the decision to terminate your babys life. and the fear is that if you get pregnant again...you will do it again. plus this would be 2 by 2 different guys. you have known this man...what 2 weeks? cuz you were with another guy just last month.

you should be married its much easier and easier on the child. a nice stable enviornment. sorry but i dont think your ready. i think you will have another abortion and i dont think anyone is emotionally healed from an abortion or miscarriage at all in 2 weeks

[sheshe88]

I think you should be honest with your new BF..... I don't think you realize that you can bleed up to 3 weeks after an abortion, so I think your BF might notice your not just on your period . I agree with Kim .. how long have you known this guy? Just because he is ready ..your ready????? You weren't ready 5 days ago..... I think you need time to yours....having a abortion is a stressful situation and it can take a toll on you mentally ..take time for yourself

[heatherlynn22]

it's been 5 days since your abortion and NOW you're ready for a baby??? i never wanted kids. ever. when i started dating my husband it took me 3 YEARS to decide i wanted children.

you need to let your body have time to heal. maybe start going to a therapist. there is obviously issues you need to work through. and why were you forced into the previous abortion? did the then bf not want the child so you said ok and aborted him/her? or were there medical reasons? and if it was just because last bf didn't want the child...don't base your life on what other people want. what makes life easy for them.

just because he's ready for a child doesn't mean you are. what happens if you get pregnant and he leaves? will you abort that child as well or be a single mother? how well do you even know this guy? is it someone who has been a long time friend? or someone new? do you know anything about him? his favorite color? food? place? where he works? can he support a child? does he own/rent his own home? will he be there for you and for the child? does he have other children? previous marriages? there are so many things you should know about a person before you decide to have a child with them.

[Tessabella82]

hi, I agree with some of the women who commented.. It's not like we're giving u a negative feedback but do give yourself plenty of time to adjust and think about wanting another child right after an unwanted one due to ur previous situation which wasn't too long ago.. I've never had an abortion myself so I would have to say I'm against ELECTIVE abortion but if the pregnacy threatens the mother's life as well as if the conception of that child is traumatic then I would say that it's a completely different story.. it's an innocent life we're talking about.. we can't jst simply cut it short due to circumstances that varies.. abortion also takes a toll in ur body.. I've heard of a few that had abortions but by the time they were really ready for a baby they couldn't conceive at all.. jst make sure u think it through and always be honest to ur partner as well be conscientious in whatever u decide b4 acting upon it.. hope this helps.. :)