Pregnancy question

[skylar_]

I have a situation.. My boyfriend was using drugs so I broke up with him in April and didn't see him for about a month and so he decided to go to rehab.
He and I had broken up so I started going out with one person then had sex with him about three or four times always using a condom EXCEPT on May 20/21, for a few minutes we had unprotected sex, then he used a condom.
I got back together with my boyfriend on May 22, we had unprotected sex and he, thank G-d, was already clean for a month when we had sex. We'd been together 8 months by then and never had protected sex.
My last menstrual period was May 8/2011. I've already told both of them what is going on, my boyfriend has distanced himself a little, which I consider normal even though he and I both understand I did not cheat on him (after I told him this, he admitted he did cheat on me which almost broke my heart.. but I cannot judge.) Now, the other guy, he and I are in contact but there is nothing going on and nothing will happen there.
What I would like to know is, what the odds are that the baby is my boyfriend's?

[matey1982]

if he loves you enough he will and babies change everything its maybe just the  kick up the butt he needs.

[skylar_]

Yes, I do.. I've been through a lot with him.
And yes, no matter what, this baby is my baby no matter who the father is.
I hope he find the strength in himself that I know he has to stay clean and be involved. Thank you for answering! :)

[matey1982]

me too! you seem to love him. but remember awkward as this situation is no matter whos it is...... its yours to love and cherish for life. its a true saying some good comes outta all bad, every cloud has a silver lining. bear in mind too that ur boyfriend was clean for a while b4 you got pregnant so thats a plus. i hope he stays that way to you get thru your pregnancy and find out for sure. good luck

[skylar_]

Thanks! I am excited although still worried of course. I know he (the other guy) did not ejaculate inside me before he put on the condom, I saw it afterwards and he assured me he had not. I am still a bit worried about pre-ejaculate, however.
I was also worried that my boyfriend's drug use would have been the cause that nothing had happened before, and then, coincidentally, I get pregnant right around the time that I sleep with someone else.
I will do a DNA test, and, if my boyfriend is not the father, I know he and I will still be friends, G-d willing.
I hope, I really do, that the child is his.

[matey1982]

i think very likely as you said you had lots of unprotected sex with him and just a few minutes with the other guy before finishing with a condom. but i guess you wont know 100%  until your baby is born and you do a DNA test. unless you know for sure that the other guy didnt ejaculate inside you before putting on the condom. CONGRATULATIONS ON THE BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!