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My husband had an affair 2 yrs.ago. After which he infected me with crabs. I used cream and have since stayed shaved. He however refuses to admit we ever had them so he still has them!! Its very embarrassing because when he wears shorts, you can sometimes see the on his legs. Is ther any chance i could get them in my hair?(head) And can itbe passed from our company sitting in our furniture?
we as women have to value our bodies more than that. so if your man has the fleas he needs to live in the dog house with the rest of the bugs. because that is nasty they are just waiting for there next victume to walk by and i would not want that to be me. i would tie his nasty ass up when he goes to sleep as soak him in rid. i hope you are not reinfecting your self by having sex with him. because i know the sex is not that good knowing the out come of krabs every time or something worst. i have been with my man for 7yrs now and i get checked every year because when you let your guard down you can have something and not even know it not all sti will act the same on everyone. you may never show signs of them so i get checked for my own peace of mind.
good luck to you and your best friend your coocoo because she needs you to keep her right and clean.
but most of all know you did not do anything wrong he did so hold your head high and smile.
good luck to you and your best friend your coocoo because she needs you to keep her right and clean.
but most of all know you did not do anything wrong he did so hold your head high and smile.
I cannot believe how totally disgusting that is. You are worth much more than to be with someone who obviously has some major issues (I agree with the previous poster about bad hygiene being a sign of mental illness). If he can continue to so blatantly disregard your health and feelings, and had or is having an affair, who knows what else he is capable of? I am not pulling any punches, you need to get out, this is totally wrong on so many levels. Leave this man, if you think you can't for whatever reason, you can...there are many places out there that can offer you help in starting a new life. After which, I suspect you will wonder why in the world you stayed for so long.
okay, maybe this information will help you head for the door.......
crabs/pubic lice are small, 6 legged creatures that invade the pubic hair region. they can migrate to eyelashes/eyebrows but they prefer to be down below. pubic lice is an std. the creatures lay about 30 eggs every 2-3 days and hatch about 10 days. symptoms may not show for 2-4 weeks (until those eggs hatch).
there is itchiness, mostly at night because the crabs are more active and bury themselves inside the hair follicles to feed on blood. the area can become inflammed due to the saliva of the creatures and itching can cause them to spread.
they are difficult to see with the naked eye (so are you sure you saw them crawling up his leg?). however, you can see them if the lice is an adult. also, difficult to see because of location and appearance. usually you can see the small, gray-white oval eggs. they can be transferred to sheets, toilet seats, clothing etc..but they either are injured or die when they fall off the body.
as the other poster said, a basic over the counter medicine that you would use for regular head lice (RID) should do the trick.
i need to go check myself because i am all itchy now down there. thanks a lot.
crabs/pubic lice are small, 6 legged creatures that invade the pubic hair region. they can migrate to eyelashes/eyebrows but they prefer to be down below. pubic lice is an std. the creatures lay about 30 eggs every 2-3 days and hatch about 10 days. symptoms may not show for 2-4 weeks (until those eggs hatch).
there is itchiness, mostly at night because the crabs are more active and bury themselves inside the hair follicles to feed on blood. the area can become inflammed due to the saliva of the creatures and itching can cause them to spread.
they are difficult to see with the naked eye (so are you sure you saw them crawling up his leg?). however, you can see them if the lice is an adult. also, difficult to see because of location and appearance. usually you can see the small, gray-white oval eggs. they can be transferred to sheets, toilet seats, clothing etc..but they either are injured or die when they fall off the body.
as the other poster said, a basic over the counter medicine that you would use for regular head lice (RID) should do the trick.
i need to go check myself because i am all itchy now down there. thanks a lot.
Dont figure out how to treat him, figure out how to treat yourself. I'm not passing judgement, but anybody who doesnt resepect their body or themselves can not possibly respect and love you. Take a step back. You have to take care of you. Make sure it didnt get retransmitted to you and then just get that poor excuse for a man with no hygene out of your life!
i think that you sound like an amazing women. who deserves a man that will treat her with respect and im very sorry to say this but its not your husband. you need to kick him out and find a nice CLEAN man.
This has got to be the absolute nastiest, most disgusting thing I've ever heard, especially after reading the other post. Gross, gross, gross. Eeeewwwww! Yuck. Did I say nasty!!!!!
Sorry but I almost threw up my coffee!
Sorry but I almost threw up my coffee!
Unless, the affair is still going on, Punkybear...that would make sense I think.
Like the other women said previously, I don't know how you've been able to put up with all of that nonsense for this long, but I give you credit and I feel disgusted toward him for treating you so unfairly- he was the one that brought the bugs in the house. He was the unfaithful one, and now he's being even more inconsiderate and probably a liar? I think more than one person is in denial here, and dear, you do NOT deserve this and he can give no excuse that would be plausible enough to make up for it, especially if he still has crabs and/or the affair.
I'm sorry for being harsh, I just hope you kick him and those gross critters out.
Like the other women said previously, I don't know how you've been able to put up with all of that nonsense for this long, but I give you credit and I feel disgusted toward him for treating you so unfairly- he was the one that brought the bugs in the house. He was the unfaithful one, and now he's being even more inconsiderate and probably a liar? I think more than one person is in denial here, and dear, you do NOT deserve this and he can give no excuse that would be plausible enough to make up for it, especially if he still has crabs and/or the affair.
I'm sorry for being harsh, I just hope you kick him and those gross critters out.
Any man that doesnt take care of himself properly and on a regular DAILY basis is nasty, so having crabs and just being "ok" about it and walking around like its nothing... sounds more like a mental disorder to me. I totally 100% agree with all the others, you need to either put him out with the garbage, or pack up and go yourself. I'd start sleeping on the couch or something that is something I would never put up with. I wont let my boyfriend get in bed with me with stinky feet! Much less, bugs! It's not your fault hon, you probably love him, but he cheated on you for christ sake and obviously with a really nasty woman. Dont let him put you below her. Put your head high up in the air, go get your nails done and buy a new outfit AND START A NEW LIFE WITH A CLEAN & FAITHFUL MAN! =) Really, I hope what we've all said isnt too harsh and that you will consider our advice. Dont you dare get back in that bed ATLEAST until he admits it and does something about it. THEN I would definately keep a close eye out... If he gets them again, then he IS still having an affair and let the two of them swim with the crabs!!!!!!
i think you should show him this forum, because maybe if he sees what other women think, he will get it into his head.
good luck
good luck
I agree with oceans, the first thing i would do, is kick his butt out of my house
if you want to get rid of crabs is really quite simple. get rid of the guy and the crabs will follow. you sound like you are easy to control/manipulate. no strong, self confident woman would stand for this. he is using you for some reason we do not know about and you are letting him. harsh? yes! but you are not seeing the truth.
Yes, they can get in your bedding. They are the same as head lice, which easily spread from one person to the next. But, let me make sure I understand- he's had pubic lice for 2 years?? And neither of you have gotten them in your hair (meaning, on your head)?
Something isn't right with this. If he's had pubic lice for 2 years, he would literally be infested. Lice itch like crazy when they get that bad. There are some other issues here that need to be dealt with, that's for sure.
If this is not some form of acarophobia, and your dh refuses to treat it, then get some RID shampoo and transfer it to a container that body wash comes in.
Something isn't right with this. If he's had pubic lice for 2 years, he would literally be infested. Lice itch like crazy when they get that bad. There are some other issues here that need to be dealt with, that's for sure.
If this is not some form of acarophobia, and your dh refuses to treat it, then get some RID shampoo and transfer it to a container that body wash comes in.
How can he deny this when you had them and you can visiably see them? That is crazy and I agree with the above posts....don't let him touch you until he is rid of this! After all, he brought it upon himself!
That is so incredibly disgusting. I would not even sit near him much less share a bed! The guy has bugs on him for Heaven's sake!!! Totally nasty.
I wouldn't touch him or let him touch me until he fixes this problem! YUCK! Can you imagine if your company or even your kids(if you have any)were to catch anything from him how embarrassed you'd be! If he keeps refusing to do something about it you need to seriously consider your options and decide if this is a person you want to be with. Good luck to you!
I think hes just stubborn or stupid one, im not sure....ive begged and begged, ive even pulled one off of him and shown it to him and he acts like im crazy
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It may be an old wives' tale, but supposedly it is possible to get crabs from bedding, so if people can get them that way, they might be able to get them from chairs. I guess it would depend on if they were also wearing shorts and had hairy legs (to attract the crabs?) I cannot believe your dh is being so obtuse about this.
as crazy as this sounds...could you sneak cream on him when he's sleeping? i say this b/c, i sometimes wake up my fiance with a lil "massage" and he likes it...so maybe you could try that? and if he dont see the container, he'd not know??? and, this is just my opinion, but if he cheated, and still has an std, i'd leave...i'm sorry, but thats just wrong, especially if he doesn't want to be treated...
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