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Should I keep or abort the baby? This depends on my conception date
I had an MMR vaccine on the 23rd of August, 2006 and I was told not to get pregnant for 30 days because of the effects (blindness, hearing loss, brain or heart defect of child) on pregnancy. I found out i was pregnant Oct 5th 06 and I started getting worried because i think i might gotten pregnant less than 30 days after getting the MMR vaccine. I believe my last period was Sept 2, 06 but not sure. My problem now is that I dont want to have a child with any defects cos i will eternally blame myself for not been careful and causing my child pain.
Today (Oct 13, 06) my husband and I went to get an ultrasound just to see if i conceived less or more than 30days after MMR. This will help us determine if we want to keep the baby. The nurse told us i likely conceived between Sept 20-25 which is around 30 days. I think she miscalculated because on the ultrasound report she wrote Gest Sac 11mm - 35days and gestational age as 5+ (5weeks). I later calculated the weeks back and realised it fell to Sept 9th which is 17days after getting the MMR shot. I dont know what to do. When exactly did i concieve? I dont what to risk having a child just to see him or her suffer. What do I do?
Today (Oct 13, 06) my husband and I went to get an ultrasound just to see if i conceived less or more than 30days after MMR. This will help us determine if we want to keep the baby. The nurse told us i likely conceived between Sept 20-25 which is around 30 days. I think she miscalculated because on the ultrasound report she wrote Gest Sac 11mm - 35days and gestational age as 5+ (5weeks). I later calculated the weeks back and realised it fell to Sept 9th which is 17days after getting the MMR shot. I dont know what to do. When exactly did i concieve? I dont what to risk having a child just to see him or her suffer. What do I do?
HI! new here guys. I saw this thread and had to register. I'm 30, mother of 2 boys (6 + 2 years old). My husband and I had this decision to make four years ago now. My ultrasound at 17 weeks showed fatal deformations of the brain and spinal column. Doctor told us the baby would not live past birth, and we decided it was not worth the pain of continuing the pregnancy knowing that it would end with us going home empty-handed. It was the most dfficult decision I've ever had to make, and while I don't regret it, not a day goes by that I don't think 'what if?'.
It was late for an abortion, and we had to go to a different city to have it done, as an induced miscarriage, b/c our local hospital isn't set up for abortions.
My advice to you is to have as many tests done as possible to look for defects before making a FINAL decision. Also, talk to your doctor and discuss your chances of future pregnancy ater an abortion, it may be a factor in your situation.
hope this helps
btw, I do live a Christian life, and my Faith contributed to our ultimate decision, not detracted from it.
It was late for an abortion, and we had to go to a different city to have it done, as an induced miscarriage, b/c our local hospital isn't set up for abortions.
My advice to you is to have as many tests done as possible to look for defects before making a FINAL decision. Also, talk to your doctor and discuss your chances of future pregnancy ater an abortion, it may be a factor in your situation.
hope this helps
btw, I do live a Christian life, and my Faith contributed to our ultimate decision, not detracted from it.
Did anyone see Sailors wife answer on this post last night? She is missing. All of her post's are gone too. If anyone knows, please let me know. I'm worried!!!!!!!!
I just wanted to say, that theres a lot of times Ive seen someone have a question and get some anwers that may not be too pc, and then a message like urs. I think what people have to realise is that we are all human (last time I checked anyways!) and especially as women we will voice our opinions. If people want medical help alone then here isnt really the place cos theres no official dr on this forum. And I think experiences make a person who they are, for something like abortion for example, you might get a lady like this asking for help on what to do, she may have views on abortion but somethings stopping her so she can be swayed either way, right? So even if someone said its murder to have an abortion like Ive seen written before, it might sound harsh and like a slap in the face, but its like if u see a child trying to play with a knife would u leave them or try to take the knife maybe give a little slap on the hand to warn thats not safe/good. If she was to be offended by such a comment maybe thats cos deep down she feels/knows its not right so she doesnt go for the abortion and 9 months later thanks that same person for 'waking her up'. At the same time someone may say something else that makes her feel well I cant live with that and its my decision etc. With anything in life there will always be something someone says that makes us uneasy or upset, but its what makes us think isnt it.
Anyway to teemy (sp) You dont seem like u really want to your just worried ur child will blame u etc, but from what Ive read firstly theres a low risk, and if IF something happened like u said theres a reason for it. Im sure ur child wouldnt blame u, its not ur fault, u cant control how a baby comes out. I think ur stronger than u think, no one like we and u have said can make the decision except u and hubby we can just say what we would do and think, the rest is up to you, but I really hope u dont, cos it sounds like theres no risk any more. All the best...
Anyway to teemy (sp) You dont seem like u really want to your just worried ur child will blame u etc, but from what Ive read firstly theres a low risk, and if IF something happened like u said theres a reason for it. Im sure ur child wouldnt blame u, its not ur fault, u cant control how a baby comes out. I think ur stronger than u think, no one like we and u have said can make the decision except u and hubby we can just say what we would do and think, the rest is up to you, but I really hope u dont, cos it sounds like theres no risk any more. All the best...
I did some investigating for ya. From what I found you shouldn't have a problem. The chances are low that something would be wrong. It's like with anything. If one person had a problem they have to tell you. Even though she may of been a crackhead on top of everything too.
I was told of the chances with my children. I have an odd blood type that could cause mental and physical problems. I took care of myself and now have two healthy children with nothing wrong, but a smart mouth. Normal? I don't know. They are to me. Perfect in every way.
Every woman has something that MAY cause problems. If we went by all of what people SAY then we'd never have kids.
I'm still prayin for ya!
I was told of the chances with my children. I have an odd blood type that could cause mental and physical problems. I took care of myself and now have two healthy children with nothing wrong, but a smart mouth. Normal? I don't know. They are to me. Perfect in every way.
Every woman has something that MAY cause problems. If we went by all of what people SAY then we'd never have kids.
I'm still prayin for ya!
Thanks to all who gave me good advices. I personally am not offended by some peoples comments because "a person is the only one that understands and feels the position and circumstance one is in" some might feel me some might not. I just wanted to know peoples opinion on my situation. Just in case they have been in my shoes or know someone in my shoes and what they did.
Also I will like to apologize to those of you that are offended at me posting this comment on this website.
Well to lucylocket2: The main reason why i was considering abortion is because I knew i got an MMR shot and i was not careful enough to prevent the pregnancy and I dont want to have a baby that is not healthy and then he or she hears the story behind the sickness and blames his or her parents for being unsmart and not thinking. At the same time, I sincerely never believed in abortion, that is why this is hard for me. I think about the fact that things happen for a reason with it. Like you said there is a chance of any child might not be healthy but its different when you know u kind of caused it.
To casey22: I am sorry to hear your side and I can understand how hard this is for you. Things happen for a reason - God making you stronger, and making you and your husbands relationship stronger. The fact that i dont want a child with disabilities might seem outrageous to you but i have explained my reasons above. To answer your other question ..... about me having sex when i knew about the MMR... I am not stupid neither am I a sex freek. Not that i owe anyone the explanation but I am newly wed (didnt have sex till my wedding night)- Is this a good reason to make love to ones husband? Not knowing anything like this will happen. Well, I was using contraceptive around the conception time and I had just finished the last batch and I thought it was still in my body before i get the next batch. Nobody perfectly understands how all these things work anyway. Like you said may be we dont think the same.
I really appreciate the comforting and supporting advices I got from some of you. Even those that said things to make me think straight. God Bless all
Also I will like to apologize to those of you that are offended at me posting this comment on this website.
Well to lucylocket2: The main reason why i was considering abortion is because I knew i got an MMR shot and i was not careful enough to prevent the pregnancy and I dont want to have a baby that is not healthy and then he or she hears the story behind the sickness and blames his or her parents for being unsmart and not thinking. At the same time, I sincerely never believed in abortion, that is why this is hard for me. I think about the fact that things happen for a reason with it. Like you said there is a chance of any child might not be healthy but its different when you know u kind of caused it.
To casey22: I am sorry to hear your side and I can understand how hard this is for you. Things happen for a reason - God making you stronger, and making you and your husbands relationship stronger. The fact that i dont want a child with disabilities might seem outrageous to you but i have explained my reasons above. To answer your other question ..... about me having sex when i knew about the MMR... I am not stupid neither am I a sex freek. Not that i owe anyone the explanation but I am newly wed (didnt have sex till my wedding night)- Is this a good reason to make love to ones husband? Not knowing anything like this will happen. Well, I was using contraceptive around the conception time and I had just finished the last batch and I thought it was still in my body before i get the next batch. Nobody perfectly understands how all these things work anyway. Like you said may be we dont think the same.
I really appreciate the comforting and supporting advices I got from some of you. Even those that said things to make me think straight. God Bless all
I really don't want anyone on this forume to take this the wrong way but I feel that I need to say this... Ladies when someone comes on this forume to post a medical question, they are looking for advice from someone who has been threw or has had the same symptoms/circumstance as the topic to which they are posting. I completely understand that there are a lot of women on here that are pg or ttc, however it looks like there are some of you that take abortion very personally, again completely understandable. You have to remember that circumstances present themselves and sometimes you have to make a tough decision. My point is that when replying to someone's post you should keep your personal opinions on this issue to yourself and only post to the medical aspect to the question at hand. Thank you all for your time and again I'm not trying to offend anyone.
and the guestational age is two weeks BEFORE implantation if I remember right... they go from your last period date which is like 2 weeks before you usually ovulate
ummm you should know that the cdc now says that the risks of issues because of the MMR is REALLY low... so I wouldnt worry about it very much.
And to boot, a woman on an ec I belonged to got pregnant like 3 weeks after her MMR (she was NEVER told to wait) and her baby was perfectly healthy and to term and everything
And to boot, a woman on an ec I belonged to got pregnant like 3 weeks after her MMR (she was NEVER told to wait) and her baby was perfectly healthy and to term and everything
I really don't mean this to sound bad. I really don't. - There is a reason you got pg. I think it's selfish to say you would want to abort the baby because something "may" be wrong with it. That's a chance with any pregnancy. We never know if our babies will be healthy or not. All we can do is pray for it. You said you would feel guilty if something was wrong with it. Wouldn't you feel guilty for an abortion? I don't understand. I couladn't imagine the situation you and your husband are in. Maybe the way you said it, it came out wrong. I wish you the best of luck in what ever choice you make. Look in your heart and think hard about it. We can't pick the perfect kids, we can't send them back. All we can do is love and take care of them to the best of our abilities. No matter what.
Actually, they took the mercury out of the MMR vaccine about 5 years ago... Autism is no longer a threat.ANyway, it was never proven. There were skeptics out there, but no hardcore evidence to prove that a child became autistic from the previous MMR vaccines.
It's highly unlikely that your child will be affected by the vaccine from the traces of your body.
It's just not practical.
Drinking heavily during the first month or doing drugs has a higher risk of affecting a baby than the vaccine. I had a bottle of wine a night the first 3 weeks of my pregnancy, until I found out. My daughter is 4 months old and is perfectly healthy.
It's highly unlikely that your child will be affected by the vaccine from the traces of your body.
It's just not practical.
Drinking heavily during the first month or doing drugs has a higher risk of affecting a baby than the vaccine. I had a bottle of wine a night the first 3 weeks of my pregnancy, until I found out. My daughter is 4 months old and is perfectly healthy.
The main known sideaffect of the MMR vaccination is autism...Thimerasol(which is a mercury dirivative) HAS been known in the past to cause Autism and minor learning disablities but in my opinion I would rather have the child and love and support him or her no matter what! I know that this is a personal dicision that only you two can make but you hve to think about your child I mean what if you aborted this baby and he/she was going to be 100% healthy?
I believe that God is the One who decides wat condition a baby is born in. You could abort the baby trying to prevent something that might not be present, and later go on to have a baby with downs or something else. I say on tv the other day a young teenage couple that had a baby with downs, and still decided to have another baby, who had sebripolsy(SP) and still chose to have another baby which came out fine. Children born blind dont necesarrily suffer its the way you bring up the child. You never know that child that u thought would have no life could make big changes either to you or the world. I believe that we cant decide on taking a life or not based on what could or couldnt be, but the decision is only up to you and ur hubby. Dont be offended by what is said on here, as this forum is of peoples experiences opinions and possible med knowledge gained thru reading or experience. You need to decide what u believe, if its right or not whether the option is there or not. I would say ask urself this, if ur baby was born with any conditions, would u then send them off somewhere to be 'put to sleep'? I personally believe whether its the first moment of conceptions or 9 months later, the baby is a baby from the start. And I agree with the post above, u would be thinking what if s/he didnt even have anything wrong?
opps I meant to say by NO means.
Also DR change their minds often about due dates even when u r really far along like 25wks or so. I wouldn't put all my faith in there guess of when u con. either!
Also DR change their minds often about due dates even when u r really far along like 25wks or so. I wouldn't put all my faith in there guess of when u con. either!
i'm sorry for your situation and wish you the best. however, this is a rather inflammatory subject and one which is sure to create quite a firestorm on this site. don't be surprised.
Yes look to your heart, hon most of us on here r either pg, ttc, or m/cing so by means would we want to hear of a baby being aborted. Just pray for God's healing hands to be on your baby. Just b/c these can be side effects doesn't mean there will be plus you'd have to live w/ the what if's for as long as u live if u choose to abort. Just Pray & you'll see!!! LOVE &PRAYERS
Please don't ask a group of strangers for advice on something so personal and painful. This is between you and your husband, and perhaps your doctor.
I don't envy your position but look to your heart for the right answer.
I don't envy your position but look to your heart for the right answer.
Oh, and one more thing. Once the egg is fertilized, it takes 4-7 days to actually implant. Nothing you have in your system will remotely affect the baby until it implants and starts feeding off you.
If you had a period on September 2nd, you would have ovulated around the 16th or 17th of September unless you are one who ovulates early. To get pregnant on the 9th, you would an incredibly early ovulator. I would agree with the nurse. My bet is you got pregnant around the 16th or 17th.
Also, just because there are side affects to the shot you had, does not mean that it will affect your baby.
Ultimately, it's a decision only you and your husband can make. Good luck to you.
Also, just because there are side affects to the shot you had, does not mean that it will affect your baby.
Ultimately, it's a decision only you and your husband can make. Good luck to you.
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