Starting to Dread sex because it hurts every time

[sodapup]

I can't have pain-free sex with my boyfriend. Been sexually active with him for about 8 months. I think at first it wasn't painful, but I can't remember the last time it didn't hurt. He's the biggest  length and girth-wise I've ever been with. It hurts mostly in the opening of my vagina, to the circumference about an inch and a half deep. It's hard to describe the pain... It burns slightly, but mostly it feels like more of a pinch, or an open wound that is being prodded at. Ive started having problems with yeast since I've been with him, and I know that will cause painful sex but it hurts like this even when I'm positive I don't have a yeast infection. I even took measures to treat him for yeast. We use a ton of lube, and we have sex about 3-4 times a week. It hurts even if we go awhile without intercourse. I'm stumped and frustrated.

We don't use condoms, but we've tried to see if it helps at all. It doesn't really. If I haven't had proper healing time (3+ days between sex), even tampons, or fingers will hurt.

I've never had this problem with past sexual partners. And as I said, I don't think it hurt with him the first couple months we started sex. Just normal stretching pains that I could get used to after a couple minutes.

Please help. It's getting to the point where I tense up before sex (which can't help the situation!) And end up in tears by the end of it.

[sodapup]

we're both going to the doctor to see if they can run some tests, make sure everything is how it's supposed to be

[TuscaloosaGirl]

WOW... not good, hmmmm i guess just lube it up really really really really good and try meditating, im not sure what else would help, especially if you've been having sex over 6 months

[sodapup]

I think you're right with it's just his size. But the pain is unbearable, no matter how frequent we do it and no matter how ready I am. And it's been this way for at least 6 months. I feel like it's getting worse, not better :/

[TuscaloosaGirl]

Well if you do annual checks you should be fine but Yeast Infections can be caused my Chlamydia but since you do regular checks that shouldnt be a concern. I'm pretty sure his size is whats causing this. Since his size will remain the same :) i suggest just trying to relax and be in the heat of the moment and maybe things will go smoother, maybe try having sex more often that way your vagina can form to his penis that way the pain will subside. i used to date a man who was rather large, and it took several rounds of intercourse and fourplay for me to get used to him. But i hope everything works out for you guys :) Goodluck

[sodapup]

We've tried more foreplay, and I don't have dryness issues. I do get dryer with him as we go, but we use lots of lubrication along the way. I get tested for a couple STD's when I do my annual for my birth control. And he's clean. If it were an STD, what could it be? I don't have problems unless I'm having sex. Just normal everyday life my vagina acts like a healthy one.

[TuscaloosaGirl]

i suggest relaxing before intercourse, lots of fourplay to get your vagina moist enough so that his penis can just slide in. as far as the yeast is concerned im wondering have you all been tested for std's both of you? just a question. Also it could be the stretching but i would try the fourplay.