It's kind of big and swollen about the size of a dime probably to big to be an ingrown hair but im jot sure about the sweat gland. and it may have started to bleed a little, I got the nerve to talk to my mom and we are thinking of setting a doctor appointment
Don't mess with stuff in such a sensitive region. By its position, could it be an ingrown hair or blocked sweat gland? Try some sitzbaths with white vinegar and water, mostly water, and see if that opens up the pore. If no luck, see the ob-gyn. You don't have to tell anyone else, but you shouldn't be embarrassed to tell your doctor.