Hi there. I think it is important to see your doctor for this. Trying to drain a boil on your own like you have been (and it is not working) can lead to an infection! They can lance it and be done with it and my start you on antibiotics as well. No one 'loves' going to the doctor and especially for something like this . . . but it's a necessary thing from time to time. Bite the bullet and see your doctor. good luck
I get these also the hot water baths are great. If not I would go let the doc drain it.
I am so sorry you are going through that also i to went through that of course it will be worse were you have it i had it there too that area is a lot more tender naturally soaking in a hot bath may help it to drain but you should see your doctor it is better then suffering that pain