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Vaginal Tear

I had just started dating this guy and the other night, we had sex for the first time.  He was bigger than most guys that I have been with and thicker.  At first, we had no problems.  Entry was fine and we weren't being rough.  After about 15 minutes, he went a little deep and I felt a sharp stab.  It didn't really hurt, the pain left as quick as it came.  We continued having sex and I was just a little uncomfortable, but no pain.  After we finished, I felt I like really had to pee and when I went to the bathroom, I realized I was covered in blood, a lot of blood.  We waited for a while hopping that the bleeding would stop, but it didn't.  I was rushed to the hospital where the bleeding got worse and then I was rushed to the OR and had emergency surgery.  After my surgery, I found out that I had a 4cm tear behind my cervix.  My doctor told me that I was health and that there is nothing wrong with me.  He didn't see anything abnormal.  This has been the most horrific experience in my life and I'm not sure how to handle the situation with the guy.  He's checked up on me and we've talked a little about it, but I'm not sure what to say to him and I'm sure he doesn't know what to say to me.  I really like him, but after this experience I'm not sure if he wants to see me again.  Also if he does, I'm really scared to have sex with him again.  This is not something I ever want to go through again.  Has this happened to anyone?  Any advise anyone can give me on how best to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated.
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525501 tn?1212432217
Oh my god, that sounds horrible! I'm so sorry!
First off, clear with your doctor the OK for having sex, and also find out how the heck that happened! It wasn't the guy's fault, right? (I don't see how).
Talk with the guy and stress that it WAS NOT his penis size or having sex that did it. He's probably freaking out about it! If you want to be with him tell him. Be open and honest. Good luck!
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754110 tn?1254241728
omg I've had a similar situation, it was when I lost my virginity, give or take I didnt have a tear that badly but it got infected and I suffered from toxic shock syndrome and if it went unnoticed I could have died from it. It was horrible! Blood work done in both arms and a shot in the butt!
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