Vaginal Tearing during sex

[silentobserver]

I think, but not really sure if this is where I should post this.  But I have some questions that I would like to have answers to.  Recently my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time.  He is umm kinda big.  And I haven't had it that big before.  Anyway, when we first started there was no problems for entry but it started hurting.  It wasn't too big of a deal.  Well now I have tears...in two or three locations on the outside of my vaginal area.  It hurts to move in anyway including going to the bathroom for obvious reasons since they are cuts.  But I was wondering what I should do?  The pain is unbearable.  Almost like when I had my son and I ended up with four tears.  Thanks.

[jessinNewEngland]

I tore during very harsh sex, went to the emergency room and they told me I had a level 3 tear out of a possible level 4, and I had to get stitches. Some tears will NOT heal on their own and will need stitches. If you have any doubt at all, stop having sex immediately and refrain from it till you are seen by a doctor, take care of yourself first. It was extremly scary what happened to me and I dont wish it upon anyone. Sending well wishes to you all!

[odarnit]

I've just started to look for others who have this vaginal tearing problem. I have been with my bf for 2 years and have been bleeding from sex for 1 year and 9 months. When we first started having sex, I didn't bleed so I'm not sure what changed. I've went and gotten tested for every STD. All negative. My gyno hasn't even been able to see the cut because it heals so fast. For the longest time, he thought my cervix was bleeding so they checked for cysts and all that. He said that if my Papsmear came back normal, that he doesn't want to see me until after i have kids. Well it came back normal and I'm just 21 so I don't plan on having kids anytime soon.
     When I found the cut myself, I thought " hey maybe it will heal if we don't have sex for awhile". We waited for 5 1/2 weeks before we had sex again. And it still got torn! It's makes me so mad just to think about it. I really do not want to go another 4+ years experiencing pain during (limited postion) sex and having to clean up the crime scene afterwards. I've heard about a surgery you can get where they cut out the scar tissue and stitch you together so it heals. But before I do that, I'm looking for a cream that might help the scar tissue to stretch during sex. I've found some for before and after labor so I hope it helps. It's about $21 for a small bottle but that still beats a visit to my gyno telling me to wait it out.

[gina3724]

I tried several things to help me heal vaginal tearing after sex.  However, the only thing that helped and actually allowed me to feel better and within the firt half an hour was aloe gel.  Make sure to use the one without preservatives and good luck!

[cathylee1]

my boyfriend stretched me and I was sore the first few times we had sex but never any tearing.

[Desertchik]

I unfortunately am breaking it off with my BF...
Never in the 26 years I've been having sex have I ever been ripped up so bad. He's huge, plus I've never had children. I have only been with him for 3 months, and I love sex too much to sacrifice waiting 2 weeks to heal and have it happen every time even with lubrication. It leaves me terrified to think about him entering me and causing more tears which lead to scar tissue. It ***** because he is an awesome man but he can't get off with oral.  No good for either one of us!  

So ladies..it's your body and your choice.  Once you settle for less than you deserve you get less than settled for!!!  Next~

[ackie]

was it the hydro cortisone or the meladerm that you think helped? I was glad to see other people had this same problem too because it is pretty upsetting that it hurts everytime i have sex.  ugh