So, I am 19, turning 20 soon. I have been sexually active since I was 16 with the same man for the past almost 3 1/2 years. We originally started out using condoms, and I eventually went to birth control (Junel). I stopped using birth control, and we went back to condoms for a long time. After a while I noticed I had pain around my vaginal opening after sex, even with using lube (we always use lube). About six months ago I went back on birth control, this time, Syronx, which I like a lot better. Not as many side effects.
Last week I was a dummy and moving out of our college dorm room and I packed away my pills. I was on my last week, and I didn't realize when I was ending and when I would need to start a new pack. We had sex with a condom on Wednesday night, and it was probably the most painful sex I've ever had. It usually hurts after I am finished and he finishes. I went into the bathroom and noticed blood. On Friday I went to Planned Parenthood (I don't have health insurance). I talked to them about missing my pills and that it would be okay. Then today I was in the shower washing my body and I noticed pain down there. I looked down there and I noticed a small scab and I started panicking. I quickly got out and took a mirror and looked down there. It seems that I somehow tore part of my labia minora and clitoral hood. It hurts to touch. I am unsure if possibly in my sleep I did that, or if it was from sex? It is likely that the condom hurt me, because they always do, but I didn't notice any pain around there before.
Does anyone have any suggestions to my little situation? And I can't just go to the doctor. I have no health insurance and I'm a college student. I have talked with my boyfriend and he is very sensitive to my womanly issues. I just don't see how I could have so much tearing from having sex for 25 minutes, with lubrication!! We've been having sex for a long time now, but less because of where we live. If we had sex more in the week would my vaginal opening kind of "reinforce" itself (although that sounds silly). Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!