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Why can’t I feel anything during sex?

So basically I have never felt anything during sex. I’m only 18. My partner is big I feel him but it’s not good. I know it’s not him that’s wrong. Because when I tried masterbating nothing happened either. Also if it helps, when I put a tampon in it goes in straight then curves to the left a lot. I also have a thyroid disease. Anything would help I’m pretty desperate
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134578 tn?1614729226
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Before you began having sex, did you feel things when you kissed, petted, or made out with anyone?
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Yes I do. Just nothing when it actually happens
134578 tn?1614729226
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Then there's probably nothing wrong with your libido.

I'll suggest something. You might just be finding penetrative sex at this point with this guy, an obligation. The part of you inside that is totally true to yourself might even be feeling a little used, especially if along with the sex being uncomfortable and not much fun, you also feel obliged to pretend to him that you're liking it so he'll feel good about himself. You should only have sex when you yourself are so turned on you can't hold back. "I have to do this to keep my boyfriend" throws the emotional brakes on any possible excitement.
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Yeah that helps a little. All though even when I’m really aroused and we start have intercourse it stops and doesn’t feel good
Well, again, it just may be at some level you aren't that desirous of doing the intercourse. Someone's inner sense can pull the plug on sexual desire if the person is doing it out of obligation, or has performance anxiety, or religious prohibitions against sex when unmarried, or is anxious for other reasons. I do NOT think there's anything wrong with you physically. (If you said you never get aroused, that would be a different thing.) I'd check into the thyroid connection as well ... you sure don't want thyroid issues to slow things down if they're having that effect.
Thanks for looking into it.
134578 tn?1614729226
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And, if that doesn't sound like it, here's a good article on the relationship of thyroid issues and libido.

https://www.pennmedicine.org/updates/blogs/womens-health/2019/january/how-thyroid-problems-might-be-hurting-your-sex-life
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13167 tn?1327194124
Km,  are you talking about feeling stimulation inside your vagina?  No one feels that - arousal comes from stimulation of the clitoris,  which is outside the vagina.  Many women can't climax with just vaginal sex,  if they don't position themselves in a way to stimulate the clitoris during sex.   The very outer portion of the vagina has nerve endings,  but the inner portion does not,  and that's why women can't feel a tampon unless it's coming out.
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