dry intercourse

[super diamond]

I am having a problem well I think it is a problem, most the time when my bf and I are having sex I am always dry, even right after he proforms oral sex and he gets ready to do his thing I get so dry and it hurts during and after, at first i didnt mind it but after some time he started to use his finger and after he does that it hurts and when he puts his penis in it hurts even worse, i dont want to not have sex with him but it as become a bad experience with us having sex over and over and I am still dry. What can I do to not be dry whenever I am having sex, I really would like to enjoy sex much more. ALso I know I am not the only one as a problem having a orgasm, can someone help me in finding a way to get a orgasm during intercourse, i want to enjoy it like everyone else.

[Lucy02]

I wanna know what it is too because like it been some months tgat me nd him have had sex nd now i got tgis boyfriend now all of a sudden im wet/dry when i have sex and i never had this problem before and im thinking about getting checked out nd i need help

[MinasMomma98]

I am on the Mirena too. Dry as dry can be and uncomfortable for him when he penetrates deep. If you find an answer please let me know. I will do the same thing. Glad it's not just me having this problem with the Mirena. Considering having it taken out and getting the irreversible procedure done. We are in our 40's and he doesn't want children, I can't have more technically, being 46. Good luck.

[o123k12]

Hey Myron. What you said is very true. I am thinking of doing exactly the same thing: stop watching porn and stop mastrubating. I jerk off when doing the two, but I don't when having an intercourse with my wife. I have a strong feeling that those two actions have had a significant effect on me psychologically, and I would want to stop both so that I can enjoy sex with my wife. I would appreciate any further advice you might have.

[luvma]

I am experiencing the same.  The I might be wet when I am in my bf presence then when he insert I turn dry.  That is so embarassing. So I am going to try the lube but I dont want to tell him

[bobo66]

Yeast infections can also lead to pain or discomfort during sex. It's better to visit a gyno to make sure you have no infection.

[frye4]

I am 37 and had a complete hyster and since then my sex drive has went down hill. My husband and I have always had a good sex life but it seems that lately I have a hard time getting wet and reaching orgasm. I had ovairian cancer when I was 15 and since then I have been cancer free. I take zoloft every day (100mg). What can I do to improve ny sex life?

[Sassy1472]

What does it mean when I am really turned on and really wet before sex and as my husband try's to enter me it's hard to get it in (like my vagina is too tight and its pulling skin in). After a couple of in and outs it feels good and I'm really turned on but then sometimes (the timing is always different) it starts hurting like its dry but when I try to feel if I am really dry but I am not I am still wet. What could cause this? We have tried using lube but it sometimes feels dry and burns.

I have never had this problem before even while my husband and I were dating, but then one night it happened and has almost ever since.

[Kellbells11]

I have the same problem with dryness! I love the KY warm.. It feels so good and not greasy! I just try to make it pleasurable for him too!! Like if I feel myself getting dry I slowly stop intercourse and go back to foreplay and go down on him for a few mins then I rub the KY warm on him with a lil hand job action going on so it feels good for him as well! We just make it part of sex every time.. Just relax and enjoy yourself trust me if he see's you enjoying your self it is a big turn on for him..

[jalynch1987]

I have the same issue and My boyfriend thinks I dont find him attractive that is not the case I just am so worried that im not pleaseing him or that I will get dry that I get dry we try lubes and they do work but he is convinced that i dont love him enough.  Please help! I dont want to lose him.  I also have an injured knee I just wish he would realize its not him but me.  

[bdeppe]

Chelssmiles121. I had my daughter and decided to get mirena as soon as i could, at my 6 week check up. ever since then i have had issues with dryness, vaginal discharge, lower desire for sex. i have looked online at other blog sites about the topic and have noticed that a lot of women have been having the sames issues while they were on mirena. I had beento he dctor about 6 times in a 2 year span because i had discharge so much i felt like i had an infection all the time.

turns out i was right, every time i went to my doctor she treated me for a regular bv (bacterial vaginosis, a simple bacterial infection) . the treatment is a gel that you insert for 5 days consecutively. i would feel relieved after treatment, but only for a week or so. i got so tired of it that i took the mirena out and decided that my body just doesn't agree with the mirena. since then things (for the most part ) have gotten better. sex drive is better, not so much discharge, and not so much dryness, however i still use lube every time.

i have tried KY, Uberlube http://www.****.com/  (this is really nice, and doesn't leave that sticky feeling. it has Vitamin E and once you're done, it will just soak into your skin and moisturize), Pink http://www.****.com/ (really nice and silky, not thick and sticky).those are the most i like.  

Maybe you should talk to your doctor about using a different brand of IUD or an alternate method altogether.

i'm also goin to be trying Replens ( http://www.****.com ) or possibly some kind of estrogen pill. hopefully that works. Good luck to you!

[snuckum_love]

Romanta therapy has a lube call revelation. All you need is a drop and it works great. Also if you began getting dry during sex after using it, it regenerates itself with moisture.  So to put it simply just have your boyfriend give you a little lick and its back on!

[Chelssmiles121]

I'm 20 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have a little boy together. And ever since I had ma little boy, and took the time to heal. I've had trouble getting/staying wet. I'm on Mirena (birth control). Been on it for 2 years. I also suffer with vaginal leaking. Anyone have any suggestions?

[Asesina11]

Have the same problem and my bf thinks he doesnt make me happy in bed any more or i have someone else.because the fact sometimes i get wet and go dry or just dont get wet at all.Can there be something wrong with my hormones.Lubricants do help but i do not want to have to use it all the time.

[princez1]

can we buy lubricants from any local pharmacy?

[lonelyfemale44]

I have been with a few men and never had the O and when I would do it myself I guess I wasnt following thur with it to have one either.But the man who gave me my first one and the only one who has he can also do it over the phone.And normally when were together or we talk Im soaked but this last time I kept going dry.I thought it was because we were doing it so rough but then thats how we always do it and I love it so whats wrong with me? And yes we did have to give in and use lube.But still what causes it to happen?

[sexymama757]

Ky helps a lot lol

[shica136]

  I use to be wet all the time,now im 34 in a serios relationship,and i have benn experince completly dry before ,during (not so much at first,after he is in it gets a litle better,but then...dry again),and after,i try ky,vaselin,warm lube...and it helps for a while but after a while we have to stop to put more lube,my boyfriend think im not attractive to him anymore cause when we just started dating dryness wasnt a issue.i heard that masturbation that has going on for years can cause that,and i use to do it very often, but not in the past year ,so now im very self contious, and when we want to have sex thats all i think about it,please help,my obgy just told me to forplay a lot before sex and to use vaseline.
please help?!

[Moshe757]

I have the same problem with being so dry. Me and my ex had sex all the time and i was always so wet but never once had an orgasm with him. And with my current boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship i was wet and lately i've been ridiculously dry that its hurting me before and after sex. But i always have an orgasm with him. I don't know what could be the problem

[Myron_Long]

I bet every women on this forum thats complaining they can't get wet before sex or stay wet during sex or reach an orgasm are women who can get off on their own (self-pleasure)

Even though it's considered normal and healthy, You be surprised what psychological effects you can get from masturbation (self-pleasure) from doing it for years.

If you're one of these women that can get off on your own but not with real sex, you need to refrain from self-pleasure for at least 30 days to re-programmed your mind on how it thinks when it comes to sex.

This goes for men too! You know... The men that say they can maintain an erection or reach an orgasm thru self-pleasure but they're a dud in the bedroom when it comes to real sex.

I use to masturbate all the time, experiencing bad erections and performance anxiety, but when I decided to quit masturbation for at least 30 days, all of that nonsense stopped.

Till this day, I DO NOT MASTURBATE.

GL!

[snoopy820]

Hun, you would have far better, wetter sex if you learned to punctuate.

[stevensgurl]

I have the same problem. I actually jus got done having intercourse and I couldn't orgasm and neither could my bf. He finally asked me today "do I not turn u on?" I kinda felt embarrassed. This has been happening for 3 months now. I really love him and I don't understand why I dry out so bad during intercourse. I get completely wet before and we have tried foreplay but it doesn't work. I don't want him to feel like its his fault and I want to make him happy. I also thought it was jus me cuz I don't drink enough water. But reading ur comments I think I will try the lube.

[bexy84]

found this category and thought i may be of some help. Had similar problems, went to doctor after doctor about it and nothing worked, they told me to stop using perfumed shower gels, use lubricant etc. etc. Finally went to a specialist when it started causing problems in my relationship (totally went off the idea of sex as it hurt so much) turns out i had an oestrogen deficiency, no one picked it up before because its very common in menopausal women, but i was only 24... also, i was on a very low oestrogen pill - so that wasn't helping. Got a localised oestrogen cream whcih really helped and have now come off pill, it is no longer a problem. It may be worth checking for this.

Hope this helps, i know it can be extremely upsetting x

[mararee1]

well, im now 19 yrs old, and i've been sexually active for about five or six years.  When i first start having sex, being wet was natural, and the men loved it.  I always had orgasms, the men always had one, so we both were satisfied.  Now, its like what the hell.  I could feel myself getting dryer and dryer with every sexual incounter.  I heard about astroglide, so i went and bought some at a local cvs, for about eight dollars, and i haven't used it yet.  I messed around with a guy from sixteen to eighteen, and we haven't had sex since.  Well now he's back in my life, and wants to have sex, i want it soo bad, but im scared the astroglide wont work! Someone that has used it, please let me know whats the longest you've lasted using the product.  I havent had sex since i was eighteen, im going on twenty, and im going crazy! the tips will be so helpful..

[missmess8]

I've been doing various internet searches, trying to find an answer to my problems. (I wonder how people dealt with life before the internet. Seriously...) I deal with all of the things that every one has mentioned. Too dry for sex. Not turned on. Stressed out. Mind elsewhere. Not confident enough. Don't think I'm sexy. Too afraid to show him how to do it right. Too embarrassed to do it myself. The list goes on. And I still haven't found a fool-proof answer to anything (except that lube does work). But one thing that I've found is that it feels REALLY good to know that I'm not the only one. I feel so relieved just knowing that there isn't something "wrong" with me and that lots of other women all over the world are dealing with the same issues.