I think what she means is that, have some foreplay before sex. Have your b.f. do oral or use his fingers and that will help "loosen" you up a bit. I have the same problem, but for me its because of dryness from my bc pills. So my b.f. normally fingers me until he feels it wet, and then sex is great.
oh and you say i possibly need 2 be stretched, can i do some thing myself to do this? i rli dont want to go 2 a doctor or anything :(
I know you guys were talking about you being to small, but I have an opposite question. My husband and I have sex all the time, but it doesnt usally feel as good to me, so I dont know if he is too small, or I am too big. I have had 3 different partners, and two kids (from my husband, both within a year of the other), and I was wondering if them could be why sex doesnt feel so good, or if he is too small, or if something inside me isnt normal. Do you think you know what that could be? It saddens me because I want him to know that he is pleasing me, but it really isnt. Any advise?
No problem. I'm sure you're normal. And I'm sure he will understand. It is not your fault and there is nothing you can do. Sex can be painful, especially if you're tiny (like me) I'm just now getting used to it...it's taken a while. But my boyfriend also is on work term for school and in Chicago (I'm in Michigan) so we have not had sex in about a month. Last time we went that long it hurt me too. It just takes time (and a lot of sex!) to get it to feel good (or at least normal). But I am sure you are fine :)
ok thank you very much for your advice its help me and helped to put my mind at rest to know im not the only one who has experiance this kinda thing. thanks again for writing back :)
My boyfriend did not quite fit at first either. It took many tries. It still seems to be a little trouble and it's been 3 months. Some women are just smaller than others. I'm sure you can have sex...I've never heard of a person not being able to because of that reason. I have never used tampons, so I don't know about that. If your boyfriend loves you then you should not get embarrassed by it. He should understand. I don't know anyway to stop this besides keep trying. You most likely just need to be "stretched" out a little. It happened to me too.