i cant orgasim or come

[hints]

iv been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and iv never come or had an orgasim ,,, i love him so much and hes the best thing that ever happened to me but i cant even fake one cause i dont know what its like to do either ,,, my boyfriend gets kinda down sometimes about it i really dont know what to do sometimes he trys but it just gets annoying n i give up :(

[cheriebear]

Hi I have been married now 12 yrs to the same guy. I am 38 yrs. I lost my virginity when I was 16 to a really cute guy and from then on just kept looking for my Prince Charming. I gave a lot of frogs a chance, if you know what I mean. Lots of guys got their chance because I told them I had never had an orgasm and they all had a similar line that they could make me come.So to sum part of my story up I know what you are going thru. From the age of 16 to 26,(not for lack of trying on mine or others part) I never experienced an orgasm.Then I met my future husband..at Crazy Horse in Chico, Ca. We talked, it was nice, we went our separate ways that night. The next night unaware of each others plans, we both went back to Crazy Horse. The night wasn't going the way I wanted it to so I was getting ready to leave and happened to walk past him. He was leaning against a rail looking out on the dance floor. So I decided to nudge the back of his knee and said 'Hey" and he said"Hey". So we started talking again, had a couple of drinks and went out to breakfast. Then we went home together. But we didn't have your typical one night stand. For three days this guy worshiped me on his knees( if you know what I mean)- he treated me like a queen(the only guy in my life ever to do that, treat me like a queen) he paid a bill, bought groceries it was incredible. I think on the 3 or 4 night we actually had full sex.  But normally the guy wants us on our knees  not the other way around. When you find a giver, keep him despite all his faults. 2 wks. later he asked to marry him, 2 wks later we went to Reno and got married. Oh, by the way I also 4 yr. son at the time. Anyways, it was only with this man that I have ever came. The more I felt loved and cherished and the more I came to trust or have faith in him the more I relaxed with him. Plus I read some helpful articles that gave me some interesting points of views. Don't make it a huge deal because it puts pressure on both of you. Just try to remember what the point is, it is a way to express love, passion for each other. Just try to enjoy the feel of each outside and in, the way your bodies feel next to each other, or just moving in sync, try not to make the end result the issue. Just relax and enjoy being with each other. Praise him for what he tries for you, let him know that it's ok to stop trying before you get to the point of being irritated. Oh trying watching "No Strings Attached" and pay attention to the advice the dad gives the son when he first comes over to the house. If your boyfriend really does want to please you and you really want to learn about yourself or what things to try or might work, here are some reading material that I highly suggest for both of you. For him it will be like an educational how/what to do book, for you it might be likened to a getting to know yourself through another persons point of view. The author is Jean M Auel, the books are the Earth Children series- it starts with 1.-Clan of the Cave Bear( this book doesn't have what I was speaking about-actually it has the opposite what not to do but it gives the background and history of the main character of the next couple of books) otherwise just skip it and go to the second in the series, 2.-The Valley of the Horses,3.-The Mammoth Hunters, 4.-The Plains of Passage,5.-The Shelters of Stone and apparently a 6th one coming out some time this year. Anyways, you will probably really only need to read #2 The Valley of the Horses, you should benefit from it. I know this has been really long and drawn out but I hope some or any of it helps you two.

[hints]

thanks i lost ya for a min but you sound very happy together .. hope we figure something out xx