im 18 and never climaxed

[naynay12]

im 18 and i cant climax. why cant i climax is there anything wrong with me?

[joycekatherine]

Excellent advice!!  If you don't know what excites you and makes you have an orgasm, how can your guy know??  Experiment and find out what feels good to you...it's your body, don't get hung-up about it!  Also, once you have found those things that *DO IT* for you, don't be afraid to gently let your partner know what you like, sometimes all you need to do is to guide their hand where you want it to go...and let them know that you are enjoying what they're doing.  A lot of women need clitoral stimulation to climax...there are very small vibrators that fit on the tip of your finger...feel free to PM me and I'll tell you where to get one....good luck!!  :)

[AnnieBrooke]

Probably nothing wrong with you.  Maybe it's nerves -- sometimes people who are anxious to have an orgasm do this "watching" thing where they almost stand outside of their own skin and watch themselves and continuously say "Am I getting there?  Am I getting there?" to themselves.  It is a real spontaneity killer, and without the feeling of freedom and spontaneousness, it's hard to have an orgasm.  I had my first climactic experience (despite plenty of excitement with partners even while I was still a virgin) with a "toy" as opposed to with a partner.  It's an easy way to learn your body.  If you still live at home and would not want such a thing to be discovered, I can understand that, but if you are out of the house, there are any number of devices you can get.  (And you don't have to go to a triple-x store to get one, either -- sometimes the "pocket rocket" is sold in a basket sitting on the counter at women's bookstores, for example.)  You can also get a massager at places like Walgreen's.  (On the box will be a photo of a man or woman holding the massager on their back or neck and looking happy.  It's pretty funny because a lot of these are sold for massaging somewhere else besides the back.)  You can experiment and learn a lot about pressure, pacing, and location of the hot spots for you.  I would not use a massager all the time -- it can harm your sense of timing with a partner -- but it is a way to start and to know a little more about what you are doing.