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He didn’t orgasm. Please help me
I’m sixteen years old and I recently gave my partner a ********. We sext a lot and he loves it. He loved this one too. I had his penis in my mouth for almost five minutes. I sucked hard. He loved it but he didn’t orgasm. He was pretty turned on though. I’m quite embarrassed. I really want him to orgasm. Please help
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If neither of you hurt each other and both of you enjoyed yourself then you didn't do it wrong. When I read the part that said 5 minutes it almost made me laugh. I understand that sometimes with younger men everything is new and sensitive and they're really excited so they may ejaculate quickly after starting.
however at my age, 5 minutes is just getting him hard, it is usually between the 30-40 minute mark that he ejaculates. I wouldn't worry at all about 5 minutes, if it lasts more than 45 minutes then just give up and try again a different time -he could be too nervous or too tired and by then guarantee you'll be tired too!
however at my age, 5 minutes is just getting him hard, it is usually between the 30-40 minute mark that he ejaculates. I wouldn't worry at all about 5 minutes, if it lasts more than 45 minutes then just give up and try again a different time -he could be too nervous or too tired and by then guarantee you'll be tired too!
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If he is also 16, maybe his common sense was telling him that this was kind of new, difficult, or even embarrassing. You might try a hand job next time if there is a next time.
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So did I do anything wrong?
Have you had a lot of experience at this kind of thing? If not, my advice is not to rush into oral sex at 16. You are more than the sum of your sexual parts and the sex acts you can perform.
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