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jenni...i have read your posts before and it sounds like you are in no kind of environment to bring a child into. i hope that for your baby's sake you figure out something better for it.
babies are a precious gift...the most important thing you will ever have.
you need to eat. you're pregnant! there are going to be food that you don't like right now, but that will go away afterwards. you can't expect your body to stay the same. all the stuff you love...yogurt and fruit and milk...EAT IT! those are some of the best things you can eat for your baby.
if you're having morning sickness, eat small meals OFTEN instead on larger meals once or twice a day! don't just stop eating. make sure you take your prenatals and keep hydrated. there are some days when i don't want to eat anything, but i do. nothing is appealing to me right now. but i find something and i eat it. FOR MY BABY! when you become pregnant, it's not about you anymore. remember that.
oh, and you you been to your doctor??? your OB is the first person you should be talking to about all of this...not strangers on a website.
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joanna gets a prize for sticking to the subject at hand, and not being a meanie! clap, clap, clap!
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I know you said you wouldn't be coming here anymore, but hopefully you still read the posts..
I just wanted to suggest that you ask your doc about a stool softener. And ask if there are any over the counter laxatives you may try. I know I was told that I could have Correctol, but I think that was Postpartum. Try to remember all of these little things and how you dealt with them for next time.
Glad you are getting alot of calcium, the baby will deplete yours FIRST!! Believe me, I have the dental bills to prove it. I was lactose intolerant during EVERY pregnancy so the babies ate mine up. Also try a lot of green leafy vegetables. They are VERY high in iron and also may help things along in the potty.
Also, very important, don't forget to tell your doc about your blackouts. They should be testing you at every visit for anemia and liek I said in another post, you NEED that Glucose Tolerance Test ASAP. Sounds like you may be becoming diabetic. So don't forget to keep those hard candies, like butterscotch or lifesavers ( NOT SUGARFREE) in your purse for times when you are feeling out of sorts.
I hope you get this and I hope it helps..
--JoAnna
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sounds like youre getting it all from both ends, at home and here. im glad you are still with us posting because like i said, i personally would begin to worry if something terrible happened.

i dont mind hearing about the POSITIVE things that come out of your relationship even though you decided not to discuss it. you said he has agreed to go to councling? you mean AA? yes, that is a start but dont let him sweep it under the rug. dont let it be talk just to pacify you. make sure he acts upon it. those are the things we'd like to hear. not how he bashed you in the tummy so you were crying all night and so on. or how we offer help and you ignore it. how about good things?

i may be one of the few that believe you will be a good mother (but that it difficult to do in your environment IF considering things w. james doesnt change.

you go to your dr. appts, you seem to eat healthy and care what you eat, and the way you talk about your baby.. how could you not be a good mother? most of all, you decided to keep the baby. that should speak volumes there. again, its not you personally, but how could anyone be a good mom with all that craziness,abuse,hitting,drinking,verbal abuse going on? how can one be? thats all. its not you but put you in a negative environment and it is possible to be a good mom?? if you were living alone or w. family, you'd be an awesome mom for sure, cant go wrong.
also, i have been re- reading your other posts when you answer to people. you seem calm,mature, knowledgable, and as i stated before...no one would ever know your living hell. have things gotten any better with him? at all? any good things to speak of? how are your dr. appts going?
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Things have been getting better.. He hasnt been drinking, and like I've said before, he is a wonderful man when he dosnt get that liquor in him. He really knows how to take care of me, he does everything, EVERYTHING to make me happy. We just moved into a new condo, on the golf course, its so beautiful. The old condo had a serious leak and caused mold under the kitched and in the lady downstairs, so we left before construction began.
I had another ultrasound done. They didnt give me pictures the first time, so I called and asked for another. She said no problem. I saw the heart beat. So beautiful. She is fully developed. From here on, is time for growing. I'm 10 weeks now. I was told to go by my ultrasound, not my LMP (which would be 11 weeks)I show them to EVERYONE! I blew them up to a 5x7 on photo paper. It's so beautiful. I have a scrapbook that I want to start doing. I save everything! Even the home pregnancy test. LoL. It has a cap ofcourse. :-)
I set up a web page on babiesonline.com Although I'm not sure what I'm doing, it seems to come out ok. I have a list on what Mommy needs and what Baby needs. I need to start going to classes and saving up. I wont be working, because the cost of daycare would exceed what I bring home anyway. :-) Good for me! I get to spend time with my baby!  James is very excited. He kisses my belly, always makes sure I got enough to eat. He grocery shops when I'm at work and thinks of me and gets misc. things like raviolies (luv em!), lots of fruit, and yogurt, and whatever else.He always thinks of me. Not the romantic type, but shows me he cares in different ways. Ive been a bit difficult being pregnant. I feel like a psycho chick sometimes. I flip on the stupidest things, and he laughs, which makes me even more mad. Then I laugh about it later.
I've been SUPER constipated lately. I feel like I gotta go REALLY bad, but when it comes down to it, its just a lonley little fella. He left the rest of his friends up there. Sometimes it hurts so bad (going), that I bleed. (so emberissed)
I've been eating oatmeal HOPING it will get better, but I think its all the dairy I've been consuming. I need to feel 10lbs lighter if you know what I mean. If you can give any pointers, by all means, please.

kjsk, I have so many great and wonderful things to say, like I said above. Most of the time it's so hard to express these good things. Some of these women are so judgmental it's almost unreal. I did my best to bite my tongue, but sometimes, enough, is enough.
I hope you understand.


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I've been put down over and over through these women. And I've had enough. I'm tired of it. I and tired of looking at your names and making sure I dont post where you have already posted in fear that you're going to hound me for something, ANYTHING you can point out in the advice I give.
Countrymama, you didnt really say anything horrible, but the tone you set by your writing sounded very harsh. And why you decided to make an open post to me, instead of going straight to mine, I have no clue. I still check up on it to see if anyone else has said anything.
This is an Open Forum as some has specified. It shouldnt be an Open Put Down Forum as it sometimes feels.
I cant seem to do ANYTHING on here without being bombarded with judgmental junk. I posted about my relationship, yes, I appologuise. My mistake for opening that book. It's truely not your business so I ask again, please dont talk about.
I've heard numerious of things implying that I'll be a terrable mother. That's the most hurtful thing that anyone could ever say. I have faith ladies, and that faith will lead to a positive conclusion, whatever God chooses for me.
So, This is enough of the negativity. No more. Please no more. I cant take you throwing things in my face over and over. It dosnt make you ANY better... If its "constructive criticism" or not. There's a difference from "constructive criticism" and agression. Please see the fine line, and it's not necessary to be crossed.
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sorry i havent written, i was busy "eating my hat" sorry if i arrived at the wrong conclusion that 2nd chance was jenni. i can admit when im wrong and i am taking a chance by believing you.
it seemed pretty obvious that you were one in the same and it would not be the first time that has happened here on the forum. take care all...
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I hav'nt noticed this posting until today. Obviousely it's been going on for a few days now.  And to tell you the truth, its a horrible line of comments. It brought me to tears to see how ruthless and judgmental you women can be. I never asked for this. I never asked to be critisized, judged, hurt, made inferior, or emberissed. I ask for some advice under several different areas. You're right, I wont accept the help that has been offered, because I feel that SOMEDAY, things WILL get better. I am a true believer in faith, and I have that faith that James WILL be the wonderful man and father that he intends on. Do you think an alcoholic LIKES being an alcoholic? No. But its the 'holic' in them that is hard to get rid of. Wether its a workaholic, chocoholic, drug addict,  an eating disorder, or compulisve eating. If you analize it, an addiction is always bad, and hurts everyone around them. He's agreed to counseling. Thats the first step. It's not too late.
I said that I wont bring up our relationship, but I feel so cornered I feel that I have to. My sole-humanself is being torn appart in this forum about my relationhsip, and now, about my health and credibility of being a good mother? I take care of my body, it gets everything it needs, and the nutrtion advice I ASKED FOR really helped out. And I WILL be a wonderful mother. Damn you for saying I wont! You have no right.
So.. "countrymama" decided to belittle me and go about posting specifically TO ME in what would become the most demening, hurtful, judgmental comments I have ever read. Not to mention accusing another woman who was sticking up for me, and not throwing me under the bus like the rest of you, as pretending to be me? She's the only one here who has a heart. What is wrong with you all? Why dont you read this page over, and over, and over like I have, and truely see how nasty you are, and try to feel how your words can really hurt someone. You're like a pack of coyotes picking at something until there's nothing left.

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thank you. i appreciate what you said.
it's not the jenni situation that got to me, it was SOMEONE else harpin' on me. someone who i DID NOT address, and i don't feel that she had any right to say to me what she did. yes, everyone has their own opinions, but when they are not addressed towards you, i don't think there is any reason to attack that person.
i wish only the best for jenni and i sincerely hope that she figures things out before anything bad can happen to her or her precious baby.
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Can i just empasise that i respect u alot for standing behind your opions and making them clear..

also that i do in fact appreciate any advice u have given me in the past.. as long as you havent discouraged any members in this forum then i think its safe to say that ur presence is widly adored...

dont allow others to affect u in anyway.. u seem like a nice person so dont get worked up too much about the 'jenni' situation...

:)
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i have a life too other than being on the computer. i have 3 children that get home from school at 4pm and they are my life. i am NOT jenni, why would you ladies asume i was? because i said that i might be her friend? i am not a real friend i dont know her, everyone needs friends, maybe down the road i could be a friend from afar. country mama im sorry if i snapped, but all of you ladies have snapped at jenni at one point or another.
my name states every one gets a second chance because i believe evryone should get 1. i myself was given a second chance at life and i am living it to the fullest.
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I believe she was able to be aggressive because she was hiding behind a mask, so to speak. The, "What if she's a friend of mine?" really gave it away. Plus we all know how often she is on here and she has also gotten in the habit of giving advice to others. Since 2ndChance showed up, Jenni has been conveniently absent. And 2ndChance has taken over Jenni's role of giving advice. I won't be eating my hat or anything else. I am certain they are one in the same.
And kjsk, I know you have invested so much time and energy, not to mention emotion into this girl, but you are doing the right thing to just concentrate on you for a change! Don't let her bring you down.
--J
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Good for you, i totally agree with everything you have said.
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actually i think i missed a step... or a whole flight of stairs.. i dont know whats happened but all i know is theres no need to be abusive.. and if some one else is being abusive then dont stoop to their levell.. we can onli give advice here.. those who choose to disreguard it and abuse the lovely people here r jus not worth the waste of breath... or writing power. u get me?
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How astute of you! That just went "whoosh" over my head. Good call!
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i agree with you, absolutely. however, when someone is going to come at me for giving advice and opinions THEY ASKED FOR i am going to speak my mind.
if she doesn't like the advice i, or anyone else give, she need not ask for it.
i am in no way looking down on her or pointing a finger. she just really needs to take a step back and THINK this through...thoroughly.
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whoa whoa pump ya breaks ppl! dont bring this negativity around, dat aint how things work around here... everyone is entitled to own options and u can argue back but allow makin it personal.. theres enuf hatred in this world, lets not bring it into this forum full of lovley members.. now kids... kiss and make up!

everyone on this forum has been helpful to one another when they can.. arguements put people off.. some one with a terrible problem may be put off by you lot having a go at eachother... theres no love up in this room and its feelin cold now...

now think again.. what are we spewing about? is it worth it? doubt it! show some love then kiddies??

:(
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i think its safe to assume that "second chance" is jenni. so sad because all along she had nothing to hide. i can hear it in her tone, her word choice, how defensive she is and timing of the posts. i "will eat my hat" if its not her but i didnt just fall of the turnip truck yesterday. is that how that ole saying goes??

the ONLY thing that makes me feel that its not jenni is that she posted and got defensive so quickly. there have been numerous  occasions previously where she could have reacted this way but did not in other posts. why would country mamas post be so upsetting all of a sudden??

jenni, if you want help just post as you have been. if someone offends you just IGNORE!!!
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Well, I guess I did just fall off the turnip truck, 'cause I missed that one! I agree that '2nd' quickly got defensive, but jenni has been quick to anger lately, too. I think as everyone elses' levels of frustration rose, so did hers, and we started seeing the real her.
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i could be wrong and i sure as h*## have been wrong before and will be wrong again. where did she go all of a sudden? as soon as i said, "or are you her" the post stopped. i dont know, i dont care either. my husband is giving my little girl a bath right now getting her ready for bed. i have my own problems, my own worries and while i LOVE to help people (try anyway) or share my experiences i dont have time for this. i HOPE that "second chance" is not jenni cuz i was starting to think how strong she has become (even in a short time since her first post). if that is her, i am disappointed not to mention the waste of these threads.
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As soon as I saw the Second Chance I KNEW it was HER!!! And when she started attacking Country Mama it just confirmed it.
Jenni-- If you wanted to come and pretend to be someone else you shouldn't have been so obvious. And like kjsk said, you have been offered plenty of suppost and help and yes, some of us would rather see you here and get irritated with you then to have you disappear so that we can just wonder and worry over you. But you REALLY need to stop being so defensive. WE are NOT JAMES!!! Take out all this anger on him by walking out. Don't let the doorknob hit you in the a$$ on the way out of that deathpit you call home!
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ya know, we HAVE been supporting her (including myself). we have given her advice since day 1, someone has offered to have her stay with a family member a while back who lives right near jenni, someone has provided her with names and numbers of a wonderful place that she can go. she has been posting for so long that those origional posts are not there. there are a few here who are tired of her complaining and her not acting on our advice. i will tell you this.. id rather she post and complain then not hear from her and worry something terrible has happened.

why are you SO angry? you said, what if you are friends w. jenni? if so, then why are you expending so much negative energy towards us and not putting that energy into helping her? or are you her?
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it's called constructive criticism. it's not meant to be negative, but to be supportive in a somewhat firm way.
i never told her she was doing anything wrong. she asked for help/suggestions/opinions...i gave HER mine.
why are your readung something that was entitled "specifically to jenni6485" anyway?
if you are her friend...that's great! everyone needs goodfriends. why aren't you helping her thru this instead of worrying what I have to say? it was addressed to her, not you.
there, i've said my peace.
jenni...good luck with everything sweetie.
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ya ha ha you guys are pretty funny! high horse, i think not. maybe jenni and i are friends. maybe you should have answered her in her post when she asked the question. i know this is an OPEN FORUM. i am not being judgmental or defensive of you, the poor girl didnt come here looking for all of your critisism. as my nic states, every one should get a second chance in life to make things right.

oh it's also nice you have your "followers" to come and show their support. what about jenni? she should have someone supporting her dont ya think
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i'm glad i could bring a smile to your face! ;)
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