ya'll aint gonna believe this one!!!

[lucylocket2]

Hey it's me. I haven't been able to get on here as much as I like due to problems with my daughter. I have missed everybody! i had to make a post to tell you all what's been going on. Get ready to b shocked!!!!
  My daughter is in the 5th grade. So, she is starting to develope.It seems like the boy's are really taking notice. I hope i don't get kicked off for writting this, but I need advice!!!! I am going crazy!!  This little boy at school in her class has a crush on her. No big deal, right? WRONG!!! Well, he gave her a thing of lip gloss and said.............. " You are so hot! I will have sex with you anytime you want, cause you are one sexy b#^*^!!!" Then the next day at lunch she get's a nice boy to sit beside her so the other little s^#* doesn't sit near her. Well, the nice boy had to get another milk so here came the bad one. he sat down and said " If you don't stop looking so sexy, i am going to blow a wad and get your ******* soaked!"
CAN U ALL BELIEVE THAT ONE? i AM FLOORED! 5TH GRADE!!!!  IS  DON'T PEOPLE RAISE THEIR  KIDS ANYMORE?  
me, being the psyco over protective mom i am go right up to the school. I was totally ticked. to make a long story short the boy got suspended for 3 days. i thought more should of happened to him. i also told the principal that he needed to check into the boy's home life. There is a reason that KID knows stuff like that. Do ya'll agree? The principal talked to the mom and she wanted him to tell me she was sorry. SORRY????  That doesn't change what my LITTLE  girl heard. sorry for using so much space. I need help!

[meikman]

I just wanted to add that this boy could be getting this info on the school bus.  When we moved to our school district my son rides the bus with the whole range of school years kindergarten through 12 grade.  I talk to the bus driver because when my son was in 2nd grade he was being called gay by a high schooler along with much much more stuff.  I thought that the grades especially the younger ones should be separted.  He didn't think so.  The only option I had was to drive him myself.  At our last school there was 2 bus routes first was k through 4 and they would keep the ages separeted.

[lucylocket2]

what u say about tv, dvd's and parents not giving a hoot, is right. I won't even let my kids watch cartoon network afer 8:00. I think the night cartoon's are for stoners. Pot head's , ya know. thanks for saying I'm doing a good job. I worry sometimes . I think about  it like I am molding them into the adults they one day will be.What I say  is going to be in their heads for ever. Like when I had to give the talk. Ahhhhhh !!! that one was hard. I made notes before I did it. think about it, every girl (and boy) remembers "the talk". I wanted to give the correct info. Not to detailed. use "proper" terms and yet be helpful, honest and act like it is a normal MARRIED people thing. not like it is a forbiddin fruit. I feel like with anything if you over do it like it's bad when they get older and maight rebel that's what they will do to upset you. Like my mom never made drinking a 'BAD" thing, but smoking was the devil. I got oldr and rebelled what did i do? SMOKE!!! .  15 years later I'm still trying to quite. I never drank much though.

I tell ya. this puberty thing is driving me nuts!!!! why do they have to grow up!!?? Do I sound crazy? i feel it!

[Mertek]

Holy ****, I can't believe what the kid was saying to your daughter. How embarrassing for her to have that kind of attention. I can only imagine where this boy is picking this stuff up. You are probably dead on with something at home not being right.

I don't think you are being overprotective at all. I would have been in the principal's office so fast.

I hope he leaves your daughter alone after he gets back from his suspension.

[lucylocket2]

It is sad that these things happen. I tried my best to act like a mature adult when i talked to the school. I didn't raise my voice, but I was  firm in the fact that these things are not acceptable. They totally agreed. Being a mom i wanted to find the boy and bend him over  my knee. But I don't think that would of been the proper way to handle things. I now am worried about him. My youngest daughter has his brother in her class. She didn't think much about it and i didn't act weird, but she said. he sure does break him wrist a lot. she said this last time he fell off his bike. last year he broke it 2 times. now, maybe he has weak wrists, but i can't help but think something else is going on. I hope i am wrong.

My oldest didn't want to tell me because she knew what I would do. yet, she feels comfortable talking to me. I am glad of that. she said the boy is in special classes. I guess she felt sorry for him and thought he just doesn't know better. I have checked into it and he is not retarded ( I hate that word) I don't know of another way to say it. he is just the kind of kid who causes problems and doesn't want to learn. so, i explained that to her.She is a very caring child. I always have to stop her from giving her stuff away to less fortunate children.she is so embarassed of the whole thing cuase of course the whole fifth grade knows now. they are all asking her about it. I explained to her that she will encounter people like that in life and she just needs to ignore it and go on. i have always told them that people who talk like that just make themselves sound bad . It makes them sound like they are stupid cause thay can't think of something more intellegent to say. IT'S SO HARD BEING A MOM! It makes me so mad when people say stat at home moms have the easiest job's. WHAT-EVERR!!!!!
   thanks to all of you who have responded so far. I neede to talk about it. I am feeling a little bettr. I just wish I could erase it fom my baby's ears.

[HIS GIFT TO US]

U know I wonder if it's home life or just the fact that he may ride a school bus. Older kids are horrible on the bus, they say & do everthing!!!

[lucylocket2]

thank you for giving me the correct term. I REALLY didn't mean to say it like I did. I punish my kids for saying stuff like that. I just couldn't think of another word. i really am sorry.

[glad2bamom]

Don't be sorry-you didn't mean it to be offensive, you just didn't know.  My sister grew up with mental and physical disabilities, and then, we did use the term "retarded".  Things change with time, and with "political correctness".  You're fine.

As far as your situation, I am so proud of the way you handled it with the school.  Let me just add this...this young boy isn't necessarily being molested.  He could be allowed to watch whatever he wants on TV, and with cable/satellite, those things are available to see all day long.  I definitely think the parents should follow up with this, and maybe explain to him why these things are inappropriate.  He could also just have parents that don't give a cr*p.  (I figured they'd bleep that one out, so I did it myself).

I think its great that your daughter tells you things.  Keep up the good work~

[AnnieBrooke]

What an appalling story at several levels.  You did fine as a mom, do keep in mind however that a school doesn't have the right to inspect someone's home life, even when he is acting out in ways very sexually inappropriate for his age.  I'd suggest the children's protective agency in your area, but they are all so overwhelmed with cases that it probably wouldn't make it onto their list unless they thought the boy was being raped by the mother's boyfriend or something.  I guess my thought is that this kid is in an unprotected environment and worse things are happening to him than happened to your daughter, for him to act out like that and talk like that.  I just hate that there are few or no avenues to deal with such situations; hate that they happen, hate that the kid hurts other kids, and hate what they imply.  Tell your daughter that there will be moments in life, hopefully rare, where really, really sexually unpleasant language is used as a way to get at someone, and this unfortunately might not be the last time she ever has to face it in her life, and some of it (such as on the job) is illegal, so the first thing to do to protect herself is to know it exists and it is wrong.  It's bad, and it's sad, but at least she has you and her father and is generally protected.  Too bad we can't be there every moment, but our children have to be prepared.

[kenziesmom]

I am a teacher in a middle school.  Unfortunately, incidents like this do go on.  It is wonderful that your daughter is reporting it to you.  I think there are a lot of situations that go unreported.  I would suggest trying to remain as calm as you can (I know that's not easy...) when your daughter tells you information.  That way, she will want to keep telling you stuff.  Also, remaining calm will get you a lot further when dealing with the school.  I'm telling you this from experience with our school.  When parents come in calm but assertive, the school takes them more seriously then a parent that comes in yelling.  I think it's good that the mother called to apologize.  A lot of parents do not care.  Maybe, she honestly doesn't know that her son talks like that.  It definitely sounds like he needs some counseling.  It worries me when I hear about boys wanting to talk like that at a young age.  What will they be like as men if they treat girls like that now?  Keep us posted on what happens.

[happybaby23]

OH MY GOD!  I don't even remember knowing what sex was in the 5th grade, let alone have a vocabulary like that!  
All the wonderful things to look forward to.......

[Red_Rose]

sorry to sound ignorant but what age is 5th grade? Either way it must be young, wow Im shocked and at the same time not. Kidsa just arent kids these days, its a good job you brought ur daughter up right or she could of been another stat! I agree its good she talks to you, she obviously trusts u with stuff, and keeping calm does help. Its a natural reaction to argue back or not listen when someone bursts in shouting. I cant imagine how angry u was! Lets hope this boy gets a good beat when he gets home! (not literally u guys) Sounds like something he heard off a porn film! Is there a way to maybe get him into counciling thru the school? Make sure u tell ur daughter that anymore tell u straight away but I think she would anyway. Man, still cant believe it.

[sk2006a]

there's no telling what he's been exposed to, probably lots of MTV and who knows what else between cable tv and playstation/nintendo games.  now i may love MTV, but it's sure not for kids!  i can't believe how many parents bring small kids to "R" rated movies in the evening, i guess to avoid paying a babysitter.  unbelievable.

[lucylocket2]

thanks. and no, he has a younger brother. the younger one is in my youngest daughters class!!! this is going to be a rough year.I need prozac or something to make it, I think! I have a feeling the principal and i are going to be close.

[ashley111987]

all i have to say is Oh My God! i didnt know that these kinds of things were going all the way down to 5th grade! does this bad boy have an older brother?? thats the only way i could think of that he would hear these things. otherwise, the only way he could have heard it is from the parents ( EEK ) hmm...sounds like either way the boy needs counciling? (spelling) ugh...hope everything turns out ok!