Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
Avatar universal

Grief and sadness

I didn't know how to post this but I wanted this group to know that my father is dying. His Parkinson's has rapidly progressed since his 99th birthday and he continues to live with us but now is in bed full time and fading. Yesterday I made funeral arrangements and didn't use.

It was strange to just let myself feel the sadness without being frightened and taking a pill. I wanted to, but I just sat back and let myself feel and stayed with it. It is strange and hard to explain but the sadness wasn't overwhelming me. It was warm and real and there were people who embraced me. It was different and I was present to it.
3 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
Avatar universal
Sara,
Thank you so much for your words. Your support has always been important.

Helpful - 0
495284 tn?1333894042
I was also going to mention about planning your dads funeral.  We did that to before my dad passed away.  It was strange and painful but after they pass you will be so thankful that you did.  It is such an emotional chaotic time and to have that done takes away some of the pressure.  My heart goes out to you.......sara
Helpful - 0
495284 tn?1333894042
I am very sorry to hear about your dad.  I too lost my dad 3 yrs ago to brain cancer.  I used the whole time he was sick.  It is one of my biggest regrets and i deal with that everyday.  Had i only gotten clean before all of that happened races thru my head but i didnt and i deal with those emotions now.  You will never regret being clean and being with him in his final days.  It is the greatest gift you can give yourself and your dad.  I know you have had struggles with caring for him.  Being a caregiver is a major task that comes with a ton of emotions, both good and bad.  You will always be thankful that you took care of him.  I am so happy to hear of what you wrote.  I can feel the pain and the love in your words......Stay with your emotions now.  I think you had an "ahaa" moment.  I am always here if you need anything.........sara
Helpful - 0
You must join this user group in order to participate in this discussion.

You are reading content posted in the ADDICTION RECOVERY GROUP Group

Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
A list of national and international resources and hotlines to help connect you to needed health and medical services.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Condoms are the most effective way to prevent HIV and STDs.
PrEP is used by people with high risk to prevent HIV infection.