My daughter is unlike other children, though you'd never know it by looking at her. Our bright and beautiful daughter has a personality at school (model student, perfect report card, and sweet disposition), that does not match her personality at home: (tantrums and tirades that include kicking, screaming, biting, pinching and destroying her room). Mind you, these are not an average child's tirades. Any given situation can last 3 to 7 hours. (She once cried for 7 hours because I threw away a piece of paper she scribbled on and crossed off.) The anger subsides, then raises again or is a continual stream. She writes notes and tells us that wants to kill herself. In her tirades she screams that she wants to hit herself and others with a blunt instrument, (she's used the word "crowbar" in a letter). She knows her behavior is bad and cries that she is "a bad kid." We always try to correct her and say that she is a GOOD KID, but that HER BEHAVIOR IS BAD.
I'm looking for answers about "S". Perhaps you recognize some of these symptoms in your own child:
1.) as an infant, we had to keep the stroller moving at all times or she'd cry.
2.) as a toddler we had episodes of pure rage in the car where she would scream "sun in eyes" (we finally purchased shades for the passenger door windows).
3.) clothes have never been comfortable (every label or seam must be cut and she won't wear certain items at all).
4.) she eats only bland foods, no veggies, and limited meats (she eats bananas, apples, breads, cheeses, pasta, burgers, chicken, and anything sweet)
5.) as a preschooler she would unbuckle herself from the car seat and bash her body about in anger if anything went wrong
6.) at six she pulled off her pants deficated on the floor out of pure rage
7.) if she can't assemble something, she will scream with a manic rage and spew the pieces about
8.) if things aren't quiet enough for her, she can't concentrate and a rage ensues, instead of trying to solve a frustrating problem, she will choose to scream her way out
9.) she's sloppy, and very clumsy -- she spills things, falls down, wacks things over more than the average child
10) she wants to control every aspect of her sister, she screams and backtalks, she refused to say she's sorry.
All this UGLY BEHAVIOR and yet she is very "huggy" at school, sweet, kind and respectful. Why is she so disprespectful to us with her atrocious behavior?
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