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Support Forums for Spouses of Addicts
Does anyone know of a good online support forum for spouses of Addicts, preferably prescription pill addicts. I want to talk to others who are affected by wives or husbands who are abusing ... so that I don't feel alone. My wife is a long time abuser. I've come to realized that I'm am powerless, a meager blip on the radar that sweeps ever so cunningly for its next fix. It is obvious that nothing else is as important as hydrocodone - I don't even know who she is anymore. I work hard for our family and a good portion of the proceeds I provide are pissed away so that she can spend her time high as a kite in our bedroom that has affectively become her lair. I cannot fathom the pursuit to waste away in such wretched state. The compulsion draws lies and deceit that transcend the insult of infidelity. Does anyone else feel as cheated and offended as me? I wonder...
If you find out please let me know! I feel the exact same! My husband has lied to me, stolen from me to feed his habit. I feels so alone because I have no friends whom I trust with the information or who I feel like can relate to the way I feel at the moment. Addiction is such a horrible thing!
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My story just in bits of events not every detail is here...
I come here as I don't know what to feel or think anymore, I met my other half in September of last year as a whole new person in my life, didn't know him from Adam, but that one choice of contacting someone lead me to meet him. He had just gotten out of prison after a 5 year sentence and moved to the area, at first I didn't think I could do this being with someone whose been in trouble as I've never been in trouble, but I fell in love... Learning all about him he use to be a heroin addict, but in my mind okay maybe he's changed give him a chance making him promise me he would never turn to that life again, he promised... So in love, I found my best friend, my rock, my life, my everything.. We married Feb 23rd this year... Everything was going great, being I'm that one woman who's been abused, cheated, and used something was so different about him he loved me and wouldn't do a thing to hurt me right. I'm not perfect and have bad teeth so I had been prescribed Tylenol 3 for my pain like forever go and didn't take all of them, they was stored away in my stuff, he got ahold of them and was snorting them... I freaked out, I've never ever have witnessed anyone snorting anything nor ever imagined someone doing this... They were gone, so everything is okay right?!? He got a job working in the factory, where people there he had been to prison with started giving him pain pills, great now he's snorting pain pills once again it's becoming a problem right?!? This problem went from people giving to him buying, great so now our money for us is disappearing for his addiction to pain pills... I start feeling alone, like I didn't matter, nothing I said mattered, how I felt didn't matter... Trying to tell him there's a problem he needs help... Emotionally I was drained, mentally I was draining... Arguments started turning physical... I found out I was pregnant, so everything should turn around now, a baby on the way that's got to make him want to change, but unfortunately it didn't matter, upset, alone, anxiety attacks, panic attacks I left... He begged and made promises, was I to believe him, unfortunately I did and came back, nothing changed, argued till I couldn't take anymore I left again... His crying and promising I was standing my ground this time... Then our world crashed the baby he wanted so bad and I wanted so bad the heart stopped beating... I wanted nobody more then my husband to get through the times... I went back... Stupid me right bc it's only gotten worse, his addiction has changed from pills now to heroin seeing them needle marks kills me inside making me have anxiety attacks, panic, and so much depression... This is something he promised me long ago he wouldn't ever turn to again... I love him so much more then anyone would ever understand, but why doesn't he love me? Why is that next high more important? Why does he refuse help? Why do I feel so alone? Why is it so hard to understand? I feel I need just as much help as he does to cope... I've suffered so much already from PTSD and anxiety in my life what can help?!? I've lost so much in my life now my husband to addiction.. I feel so lost, so confused, so hurt, sad, angry, alone... I want to leave but I don't... When is enough enough... He's promising to get help now, but how do I trust him, all the lies and hiding things behind my back...
My story just in bits of events not every detail is here...
I come here as I don't know what to feel or think anymore, I met my other half in September of last year as a whole new person in my life, didn't know him from Adam, but that one choice of contacting someone lead me to meet him. He had just gotten out of prison after a 5 year sentence and moved to the area, at first I didn't think I could do this being with someone whose been in trouble as I've never been in trouble, but I fell in love... Learning all about him he use to be a heroin addict, but in my mind okay maybe he's changed give him a chance making him promise me he would never turn to that life again, he promised... So in love, I found my best friend, my rock, my life, my everything.. We married Feb 23rd this year... Everything was going great, being I'm that one woman who's been abused, cheated, and used something was so different about him he loved me and wouldn't do a thing to hurt me right. I'm not perfect and have bad teeth so I had been prescribed Tylenol 3 for my pain like forever go and didn't take all of them, they was stored away in my stuff, he got ahold of them and was snorting them... I freaked out, I've never ever have witnessed anyone snorting anything nor ever imagined someone doing this... They were gone, so everything is okay right?!? He got a job working in the factory, where people there he had been to prison with started giving him pain pills, great now he's snorting pain pills once again it's becoming a problem right?!? This problem went from people giving to him buying, great so now our money for us is disappearing for his addiction to pain pills... I start feeling alone, like I didn't matter, nothing I said mattered, how I felt didn't matter... Trying to tell him there's a problem he needs help... Emotionally I was drained, mentally I was draining... Arguments started turning physical... I found out I was pregnant, so everything should turn around now, a baby on the way that's got to make him want to change, but unfortunately it didn't matter, upset, alone, anxiety attacks, panic attacks I left... He begged and made promises, was I to believe him, unfortunately I did and came back, nothing changed, argued till I couldn't take anymore I left again... His crying and promising I was standing my ground this time... Then our world crashed the baby he wanted so bad and I wanted so bad the heart stopped beating... I wanted nobody more then my husband to get through the times... I went back... Stupid me right bc it's only gotten worse, his addiction has changed from pills now to heroin seeing them needle marks kills me inside making me have anxiety attacks, panic, and so much depression... This is something he promised me long ago he wouldn't ever turn to again... I love him so much more then anyone would ever understand, but why doesn't he love me? Why is that next high more important? Why does he refuse help? Why do I feel so alone? Why is it so hard to understand? I feel I need just as much help as he does to cope... I've suffered so much already from PTSD and anxiety in my life what can help?!? I've lost so much in my life now my husband to addiction.. I feel so lost, so confused, so hurt, sad, angry, alone... I want to leave but I don't... When is enough enough... He's promising to get help now, but how do I trust him, all the lies and hiding things behind my back...
Wow. This is exactly how I feel. My husband is a pain pill addict. Before he went to prison, he completely ruined our lives. The year he was gone, I rebuilt my entire life, hoping he would come home and be better.well, he's home, and has been for about 6 months.... And I just found out today, he has used a few times. My heart is broken and I feel completely betrayed, and really stupid! I dont know how to deal with this. I cannot let him bring us down again after how hard I worked to fix the last mess.
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This is the first time I've ever talked about this in a forum or anywhere else. I am the wife of a drug addict. I only found out not 20 days ago and am going through the motions. We've only been married for a little over 2 years and I never knew a thing. He has however admitted his problem, went through withdrawals with me present and has been clean since. We are moving to another city next week, as this was our plan all along and will start therapy and meetings together and separately within the next week. Where I am lost is on the betrayal level, that we had been trying to conceive for the last year and a half and also that he is the love of my life and my prince. He came clean to his mother and my parents as well and we do have a plan. His behavior and personality really haven't changed since he went through withdrawals. He is and has always been the calm one, very kind and gentle and in some ways has been helping me too with all of this. Beyond being mad, upset, worried and all the rest, I am truly sad. Sad that I have to deal with this, sad that I have to see my husband and best friend in a different light, sad that I feel ashamed and embarrassed and sad about everything. I am a published author, freelance writer, casting instructor, fly fishing guide and working on filming for a TV show as the host and featured angler. I am very popular out there in social media as an athlete and many of my published articles are about being strong, living your life and how to overcome obstacles and how to help others as well. So here I am typing this out in fear. I have worked so hard to get to where I am especially as a female in the fishing world. However, I am now married to a percocet addict in recovery, the wife who had no clue, has included her husband in every public venture out there about my career and because of that, I have isolated myself from the outside. Only one more week and we can get help, but I am just so heartbroken that I can barely breathe.
So, I am asking for help. Help with my very public life as an athlete, someone who was surgical nurse for 17 years before my fly fishing life and someone who is struggling in general. I know things will get better along the way. I know in my heart that even if I decide to leave our marriage down the road that he will still be my best friend. However, I know that I am struggling in so many ways right now that it's overwhelming and any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you and God bless,
Allison
Aka: @flycastergal
So, I am asking for help. Help with my very public life as an athlete, someone who was surgical nurse for 17 years before my fly fishing life and someone who is struggling in general. I know things will get better along the way. I know in my heart that even if I decide to leave our marriage down the road that he will still be my best friend. However, I know that I am struggling in so many ways right now that it's overwhelming and any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you and God bless,
Allison
Aka: @flycastergal
My wife of 21 years has been an addict for about 7 years now. I have tried so hard to help her. She has tried detoxing in a hospital, AA meetings, and a church program. Nothing has worked. She is an amazing woman, beautiful, smart, and successful. I guarantee that nobody in our community would believe that she is popping pills every single day. I don't know how to help her and things are getting worse for me.
About a year ago, she gave me her pills and asked me to give her a certain amount every day and then she would slowly reduce the amount each week. It has worked, and she has gone down quite a bit. Lately, though, it has become a living hell. If she doesn't feel like taking the scheduled amount, I try to encourage her, and she reacts with total anger at me. She keeps getting more and more upset.
This afternoon was the worst ever. I was making chicken in the kitchen for our 5 kids and she came in and asked me to give her some extra pills. I said no, I can't, because we will run out of pills before your next prescription can be filled. She started screaming at me. She called me names. She called me fat and disgusting. She told me that she hates me and thinks I am a joke. She told me that she didn't love me and hasn't loved me for as long as she could remember and that her addiction was caused by her need to escape the reality of being married to me. Then it got physical. She threw her phone at me and then punched me and hit me as hard as she could. I tried to leave the room, but she got between me and the door and would slap me or hit me if I tried to go around her to get out. I told her I was going to call the police if she didn't let me leave, but she grabbed my phone and threw it against the wall.
I finally got out of the room and left for a few minutes, hoping she would calm down. When I went back in the room, she had a handful of over the counter pills and threatened suicide. I finally convinced her to give me the pills in exchange for a small amount of the pills she was addicted to, which I keep hidden from her.
I left the house after giving her the pills and went outside to work in the yard, even though it was almost 100 degrees outside. Now I am sitting at my computer typing this and she is doing housework as if nothing happened. I am so tired. I am so tired of being tired. I have been trying to hold our family together and help her with this addiction. I love her with everything in me, but I feel like I am ready to explode, Everything inside me feels like a tightly wound rubber band, ready to break. I am praying, working, trying, researching, and anything else I can think of to help, but I am hurting inside in a way that I can't explain with words.
I am nearing the end of my ability to cope. I need someone out there to help me, offer me some strength, some kind of hope. Please. Does anyone else out there feel the same as I do? What can I do?
About a year ago, she gave me her pills and asked me to give her a certain amount every day and then she would slowly reduce the amount each week. It has worked, and she has gone down quite a bit. Lately, though, it has become a living hell. If she doesn't feel like taking the scheduled amount, I try to encourage her, and she reacts with total anger at me. She keeps getting more and more upset.
This afternoon was the worst ever. I was making chicken in the kitchen for our 5 kids and she came in and asked me to give her some extra pills. I said no, I can't, because we will run out of pills before your next prescription can be filled. She started screaming at me. She called me names. She called me fat and disgusting. She told me that she hates me and thinks I am a joke. She told me that she didn't love me and hasn't loved me for as long as she could remember and that her addiction was caused by her need to escape the reality of being married to me. Then it got physical. She threw her phone at me and then punched me and hit me as hard as she could. I tried to leave the room, but she got between me and the door and would slap me or hit me if I tried to go around her to get out. I told her I was going to call the police if she didn't let me leave, but she grabbed my phone and threw it against the wall.
I finally got out of the room and left for a few minutes, hoping she would calm down. When I went back in the room, she had a handful of over the counter pills and threatened suicide. I finally convinced her to give me the pills in exchange for a small amount of the pills she was addicted to, which I keep hidden from her.
I left the house after giving her the pills and went outside to work in the yard, even though it was almost 100 degrees outside. Now I am sitting at my computer typing this and she is doing housework as if nothing happened. I am so tired. I am so tired of being tired. I have been trying to hold our family together and help her with this addiction. I love her with everything in me, but I feel like I am ready to explode, Everything inside me feels like a tightly wound rubber band, ready to break. I am praying, working, trying, researching, and anything else I can think of to help, but I am hurting inside in a way that I can't explain with words.
I am nearing the end of my ability to cope. I need someone out there to help me, offer me some strength, some kind of hope. Please. Does anyone else out there feel the same as I do? What can I do?
shygirl101
I really hope you thought enough of yourself to leave this abusive relationship. I am 65 years old and my husband has been addicted to pain pills for 15 years. He just started to try and stop taking pills. Mentioned suicide to his pain specialist and was taken to hospital for 5 day hold. Hadn't been out two weeks when he took too many pills. Borrowed pills from friend, got sick. Same pattern over and over for more years than I care to remember. I'm done. Tough love. Relationship is ruined anyway. Don't put yourself through this hell. Live, laugh and love. Be healthy and wise. Prayers and best wishes for your future.
I really hope you thought enough of yourself to leave this abusive relationship. I am 65 years old and my husband has been addicted to pain pills for 15 years. He just started to try and stop taking pills. Mentioned suicide to his pain specialist and was taken to hospital for 5 day hold. Hadn't been out two weeks when he took too many pills. Borrowed pills from friend, got sick. Same pattern over and over for more years than I care to remember. I'm done. Tough love. Relationship is ruined anyway. Don't put yourself through this hell. Live, laugh and love. Be healthy and wise. Prayers and best wishes for your future.
hi
im recently coming from a 15 year relationship with my girlfriend Cherokee who I fell in love with the moment I laid eyes on her.
ive ever since tried to treat her right and we brought up her two kids also.she has been a speed addict on mostly and off since before we met.
she also suffers severe depression and mood swings as well as being violent in the past also.
it seems by providing and helping througtout the years ive only exsasabated things buy supporting her despite her not having worked 95 % of our time together.
she can be lasy and sleep for days if allowed to and picks her face regularly while on speed distroyng her beautiful skin terribly.
she has always been in denile and we have now split as she does not want to change
im shattered emotionally and had heart attack and quad bypass 3 years ago at age 42
we have battered eachother emotionally as we were until recently I think deeply in love still
ive lots my love,all her family and everything ive known to this drugs effects so I urge anyone who wants to get help to seek the likes of people on this forum as they are some truly amazing people
heatbroken wayne
im recently coming from a 15 year relationship with my girlfriend Cherokee who I fell in love with the moment I laid eyes on her.
ive ever since tried to treat her right and we brought up her two kids also.she has been a speed addict on mostly and off since before we met.
she also suffers severe depression and mood swings as well as being violent in the past also.
it seems by providing and helping througtout the years ive only exsasabated things buy supporting her despite her not having worked 95 % of our time together.
she can be lasy and sleep for days if allowed to and picks her face regularly while on speed distroyng her beautiful skin terribly.
she has always been in denile and we have now split as she does not want to change
im shattered emotionally and had heart attack and quad bypass 3 years ago at age 42
we have battered eachother emotionally as we were until recently I think deeply in love still
ive lots my love,all her family and everything ive known to this drugs effects so I urge anyone who wants to get help to seek the likes of people on this forum as they are some truly amazing people
heatbroken wayne
hi
im recently coming from a 15 year relationship with my girlfriend Cherokee who I fell in love with the moment I laid eyes on her.
ive ever since tried to treat her right and we brought up her two kids also.she has been a speed addict on mostly and off since before we met.
she also suffers severe depression and mood swings as well as being violent in the past also.
it seems by providing and helping througtout the years ive only exsasabated things buy supporting her despite her not having worked 95 % of our time together.
she can be lasy and sleep for days if allowed to and picks her face regularly while on speed distroyng her beautiful skin terribly.
she has always been in denile and we have now split as she does not want to change
im shattered emotionally and had heart attack and quad bypass 3 years ago at age 42
we have battered eachother emotionally as we were until recently I think deeply in love still
ive lots my love,all her family and everything ive known to this drugs effects so I urge anyone who wants to get help to seek the likes of people on this forum as they are some truly amazing people
heatbroken wayne
im recently coming from a 15 year relationship with my girlfriend Cherokee who I fell in love with the moment I laid eyes on her.
ive ever since tried to treat her right and we brought up her two kids also.she has been a speed addict on mostly and off since before we met.
she also suffers severe depression and mood swings as well as being violent in the past also.
it seems by providing and helping througtout the years ive only exsasabated things buy supporting her despite her not having worked 95 % of our time together.
she can be lasy and sleep for days if allowed to and picks her face regularly while on speed distroyng her beautiful skin terribly.
she has always been in denile and we have now split as she does not want to change
im shattered emotionally and had heart attack and quad bypass 3 years ago at age 42
we have battered eachother emotionally as we were until recently I think deeply in love still
ive lots my love,all her family and everything ive known to this drugs effects so I urge anyone who wants to get help to seek the likes of people on this forum as they are some truly amazing people
heatbroken wayne
New to this group but know all to well of my husbands substance abuse. I am just sick of the lies that he tells and all the times he leaves and is gone for hours, returning with drugs in his system. He will finally admit it that he went and did some drugs. He keeps saying I'm sorry, won't happen again, but that is a lie!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Diamond...its time for YOU to shine ok.
Love is blind...it takes many a life time to understand the abuse they endure by the hands of someone that claim to love them.
You are being abused in every way...emotionally, physically also being held hostage by his suicide threats.
Your not happy...how can you be ?
It wont get better, it will only make you question you over time.
Your young, while I know you love mike, and yes im sure some of this abuse it connected to his addiction...that gives him NO right to treat you this way. I have known addicts with a heart of gold, kind, loving, wouldn't physically hurt a soul. I also know non addicts that have the same behavior as your fiancé, they are selfish to the core. Life tends to be wrapped around that type of personality for life, its all about them.
Either you fit and hurt, or you break free.
There are Great loving caring people in this world...
As for the addiction, hes going to need to take care of that, you cant do it for him.
Sit back for a bit honey, where do you see your life heading with Mike ?
Its ALL in your hands, make YOUR life about you.
Good Luck
Love is blind...it takes many a life time to understand the abuse they endure by the hands of someone that claim to love them.
You are being abused in every way...emotionally, physically also being held hostage by his suicide threats.
Your not happy...how can you be ?
It wont get better, it will only make you question you over time.
Your young, while I know you love mike, and yes im sure some of this abuse it connected to his addiction...that gives him NO right to treat you this way. I have known addicts with a heart of gold, kind, loving, wouldn't physically hurt a soul. I also know non addicts that have the same behavior as your fiancé, they are selfish to the core. Life tends to be wrapped around that type of personality for life, its all about them.
Either you fit and hurt, or you break free.
There are Great loving caring people in this world...
As for the addiction, hes going to need to take care of that, you cant do it for him.
Sit back for a bit honey, where do you see your life heading with Mike ?
Its ALL in your hands, make YOUR life about you.
Good Luck
Hi my name is Diamond i am 20 years old and my fiance Mike is 24 he is a drug addict and we have been together almost a year now. Since we have been together his drug problem has got worse. i try to help him and i try to get him to stop but he wont he has been doing things more lately and he dose them now in front of me i walk away but he still dose it when i say im gonna tell his family he threatens to hurt me or he yells and screams at me he even calls me names that are so hurtful. i try to leave but then he pushes me down and holds me till i say im not leave n he has pushed me gainst walls and even pushed me while i am in my brace . when i have left him he has over dosed but they brought him back he has even died in front of me and i had to bring him back he keeps lie n to me and he makes me feel crazy because i know he is use n drugs . his family tells me i should leave but then he says that he will kill himself if i leave. im tired of feeling bad cause he is always high. i feel like he use is me some times to get stuff he has stoled things from me and yet when i get mad he makes me feel like im the bad guy i am to the point where im not sleeping right and i eat to much cause im stressed out . and hge puts me in situations where he threaten to drop me off on the side of the road he has almost ran us off the road several times while high. i want to believe that he will change but im scared he wont . i hate when he calls me names and degrades me when all i do is try make him happy and be there for him. so please someone give me some advice .
I don't know if you will read this or not but I'll give it a try. In my experience, those who really love the high more than anything else in life, never will quit. It does not matter what you threaten them with. They love the high more. I have been married to an addict for 38 years. He is one of those addicts who takes care of their responsibilities and he has never gotten into debt, but his addictions have ruined our lives. He has other mental problems too and self medicates to deal with these. This is what I think anyway. Today, he's taken a bunch of pills so he's out in the yard cutting down trees! They get super energy when they take those but their judgement suffers. Otherwise, they have little to no energy.
So, to answer your question, it depends on the person.
So, to answer your question, it depends on the person.
I completely understand where you're coming from.
Junkies wives club. Its amazing!
I need help with my husbands addiction to my pain med. I dont know who to turn to or who to talk to about how i should handle this or what i can do to help. please someone help me with this. I cannot take anymore of this.
i know how you feel, it makes sense, my husband is also the suicidal type, a am afraid for him, but this weekend i realized that i need to do what is best for my son (although my son loves his father will all his heart, he is only 3) i decided to put my foot down and ask him to leave, i gave him some time to get his things together and on saterday he must leave.
i feel like a dog, like i just kicked away the only person that i truly love, but i explained to him that i am doing this because i love him and because he can be so much more, its time that he realizes it.
Saturday is around the corner and i pray to God that i am doing the right thing .......
i feel like a dog, like i just kicked away the only person that i truly love, but i explained to him that i am doing this because i love him and because he can be so much more, its time that he realizes it.
Saturday is around the corner and i pray to God that i am doing the right thing .......
I just read your post although i know its was posting a while ago and i just wanted to say it was helpful to me but also scary. The part about hitting rock bottom, made me think what is my husbands rock bottom? And about how you said "you may have to speed up the time it takes for her to reach her rock bottom." I understand what you mean but i dont know what that would mean to me. I am very afraid to let my husband go (i don't mean divorce, cause i never would) but maybe for him to leave and live somewhere else so he can get clean. I am so afraid i feel like atleast he's here with us and i know what he's doing. Im afraid he will fall even deeper and i dont know ... i guess die or something. Something IMDONEnomore said "When you're an addict, you no longer care about yourself, never mind the people that love you. You only care about getting high. Period. You think everyone is better off without you anyway because you're an addict so you justify your behavior with this reasoning." My husband is always talking about killing himself, taking his stuff and just leaving, getting in accidents. I always thought to myself "doesn't he know how hearing him say these things makes me feel" but i guess he doesn't. I really have a hard time understanding how he thinks and i just don't get it. Don't addicts remember that they weren't always like this? And people do need them. I mean he has 3 small children i just don't know how he can think that. I just wanted to say your comment about rock bottom really made me think but i don't know what it means for my husband. I feel like he hates me, and he doesn't want me to do anything for him, even today when he got up i gave him a hug but it felt like he couldn't wait to get away. I don;t feel like i have a husband sometimes just three children to take care of and don't get me wrong they are so sweet and loving and i love them but its not the same kind of love from a husband i feel so alone. I dont even know if this post makes any sense i am just typing i guess i feel like it good to say it but it hurts and makes me feel worse.
Where do I start? I have known my boyfriend for almost three years. We were on again off again until this past January. He had a long time girlfriend that he just kept going back to, and I just kept taking him back. Since I was only seeing him a few weeks at a time, I wasn't aware he had a problem. I'd never seen him buy a pill, take a pill, never even heard him mention a pill. We went from Jan 2012 til Sept 2012 without speaking at all, he and the girlfriend had patched it up pretty well. Then he text me in Sept. They were broke up again, blah blah blah, I thought then that he seemed a little different. But I chalked it up to being upset over the woman. We chatted a little from then till Jan, and in Jan we started seeing each other. He had lost his license due to child support issues, he was in the process of getting them back so he wasn't working at the time. He had worked the whole time I knew him so I didn't think anything about it. As time passed we decided to move in together. I will say this, you NEVER really know someone until you've lived with them! I noticed then that he never slept, he was really quite and irritable at times and then super hyper and happy sometimes. I added up all the symptoms, wasn't too hard to figure out he was on pills. I asked, he said oh I take one every now and then but I don't have a problem at all. As time went on though he has gotten more open with me. He is addicted, he is willing to do ANYTHING to get one. He can go a day or two, but then he just has to have it. He has pawned my son's gun to get one, stolen money out of my purse, my pockets, my Mom's purse, stolen from his parents, anything to get a pill. He can't get a job because he can't pass a drug test. He was on probation from FTA on a speeding ticket and failed his first drug test. We go to court tomorrow to see what that got him. The bad part is that over time I have fallen in love. You can't help who you love. My friends and family all say run, it's not worth it. But I want the great guy that I know he is when he's not on pills. I'm at the end of my rope.
I am also interested in joining this group
thanks
tony
thanks
tony
HI, i just came on this forum after doing a search for support for spouses who live with addicts. I will be honest my problem seemed much worse before i came here and read some of the other post, not to be little other people's problems. But i dont know if that is just cause i am very naive and have a glass have full kind of out look on life. Can addicts kick there habits? Do they change back into who they were before? I have been married for 6 years and i love my husband, we have 3 sweet little children who really need their dad. I feel like the kids alone could be a good motivation for him to stay clean? Is that just stupid? I don't even know what to write, i just know i can't live like this its been going on now for 5 years from marijuana, prescription pills, snorting heroine, cocaine, methadone and i have found some burnt spoons and asked him and he told me he's been free-basing cocaine. He doesn't have any ambition, he takes care of all the financial stuff so i am really worried about whats going on with that. Every time i talk about it with him i really try to not get mad and be calm, but i do and somehow i always end up feeling bad and he won't talk to me for a couple days. I know drugs can re wire your brain but can things be made how they were with out the drugs?
This has been a serious roller coaster. My boyfriend lied and lied to me about being on drugs. Basically told me it was his past and was 3 years out of rehab. I have known him my whole life and thought wow thats great he is doing so well. He lied the whole time he was still using Roxy. His parents tried to get me to see it but i just wanted to beleive him because i loved him so much. Finally he agreed to go into a program which the family was so happy about because they were never able to get him into a program and i finally did. He started the program end of feb and was doing so well but we realized he relapsed about 2 weeks ago. I tried and tried to get it out of him finally admited to me that he did. Everytime i am upset or dont trust him and try to talk to him he tells me i am going to push him to do more drugs. I dont know how to speak to him with out getting him upset. I just have so many questions and just want someone to relate to. I have tried alanon but could not relate to anyone in that specific meeting. Am going to try more. Does anyone know other programs i can go to or online support groups. I love him so much and he is really trying but i need to help myself or this will never work. Just dont know what to do always have such bad anxiety and breaking down because i need help dealing with this but how?
I need help dealing with my husbands addiction. we just found out we're ten & half weeks pregnant. and my husband has gone bingeing on crack again what do I do I'm so confused. he just got out of jail from seven and a half months and hasn't even been out for 3 months yet. and he's already gone back.
I need help dealing with my husbands addiction. we just found out we're ten & half weeks pregnant. and my husband has gone bingeing on crack again what do I do I'm so confused. he just got out of jail from seven and a half months and hasn't even been out for 3 months yet. and he's already gone back.
I am the spouse of an addict. My husband is addicted to prescription pain pills. I'm am wondering if there will ever be an end in sight or if this is going to be an on again off again battle. Do addicts ever get clean and stay clean?
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