potty training

[chubyjessie]

I am dating a guy that has a 4 year old daughter and she is not potty trained. She still wears pull-ups and refuses to go the bathroom. We are constanly on her to go and the other day we ask her why she doesn't use the bathroom like a big girl and she said because I am lazy, and I forget. What should I do? Please help.

[rebbecca]

she will start use the potty when she is ready, u cant just wake them up 1 day & say ok ur using the potty 2day it jus doesnt work that way, wish it did. & a 4 year old doesnt no what lazy is someone is calln her lazy & she is repeatn it, i can believe the 4getn part, bc playn is always on the top of a 4 yos list.   my oldest didnt use the potty until the day b4 he startd school.  when she is ready she will go. good luck

[Luckigamaof2]

I agree she is saying she is lazy and forgets because someone tells her that. No 4yr old comes up with that on there own let alone knows what it means..just give her time she will do it when she is ready

[Stef110]

Have they ever tried getting her to wear underwear? A kid is only as lazy as you allow them to be. I have 3 girls. Soon to be 6, just turned 4 and almost 18mos. My 4 year old only wears pullups at night but recently she has been doing good about not having accidents. She is excited about going to Pre-K in the fall. When we were potty training her we repeatedly told her that if she wasn't going on the potty by herself that she wouldn't be able to go to school with the other kids when it came time for pre-k. That the other kids that were her age would be going on the potty by themselves. I should also add that my kids have never been in daycare. There were times where she would have accidents in her underwear but eventually she got used to it. She did good for a few weeks without accidents then she started having accidents in bed. So it's been that way for awhile, but like I said she has been doing good about bedtime accidents recently. Every child is different. Maybe if you talked to her about the benefits of going on the potty on her own. That having a peepee diaper on is no fun and it takes time out of things she could be doing. Could try just taking her to the bathroom in the morning, then about 30 mins after meals or drinks and right before bed. Getting a routine going. Just some suggestions. Hope you figure something out.

[RNsurgerygrl]

She will go when she is ready. Do not make the child feel bad...encourage her...use rewards. Positive reinforcement will yield a much better outcome.

[AnnieBrooke]

Has your boyfriend asked you to potty-train his daughter?  I don't think being "constantly on her" is going to work.  Maybe get a good book on potty training and read the sections on what to do when the original approach is not working.  If the girl is in preschool, her teachers there might be able to work with her and get some results.