I just wanted to add to this topic, have you ladies found that you have less of a tolerance for crap at work? This one job that I was working at the onset of my pregnancy was getting crazy and firing people basically downsizing, but nitpicking to rationalize their own decisions. I don't know if it was the hormones in me or what, but I actually stuck up for myself in a way that I would not normally do. Pregnancy makes you look at the "whole" picture. Hope everyone has a great week at their jobs! Keep packing (those little ones) ;)
Yes perhaps the best thing he gave you was this child. I feel bad for the story but I feel happy at the same time for the beginning that is coming your way. And yes I cannot tell you how having children has changed the way I involve certain people in my life. I can relate to that entirely. My perspective now, is no way would I allow them to disappoint or influence our children, but how amazing at one point I found this acceptable for them to be around me. Makes me treat myself better too... if that makes sense lol
So right! Having a baby made all the difference in my life. I had put up with my husband for years as long as it was only me. Now that it also involved my child's life and happiness, I was able to decide that the man is a jerk, who cannot even value his own baby, and I decided to split! God has strange ways to guide us, I feel blessed to get an opportunity to be a mom!
Wow hopefulLady that is a lot of stress indeed! This baby will certainly be a reward for all of your efforts and hard work. I must commend you for doing whatever was right for you before your baby was born, it takes a lot of courage and strength to do that.
With our 2nd child I had trouble finding work and then what I did find was 3rd shift at home. It was hard to work that time schedule as we had another child that was waking up during the day that needed to be cared for too. My sleep was very sporadic. But our pregnant bodies have a way of getting through --- let alone having our baby be the motivation that helps us along.
Huff, I am almost due to deliver in next few days, but when I look back at the last 8 months, they've been pure chaos! I feel so sorry for the baby. At work, stress is really bad, I am into a core technical line of job and compete with around 60 other men, no other women in this group since it is a demanding always-on-fire job. Working day and night at odd timings, I decided to let it go easy at work, though I slipped from being number#6 to God-knows-number-what, I am happy in knowing that the baby is doing fine. I had a number of scares including degenerating fibroids and risk of preterm labour in second trimester.
The worst stress for the last 6 months has been with my husband. After months of tension and fights and trying to fix the marriage, I finally separated and filed divorce about 3 weeks ago. Cant say I could imagine a more stressful time than this. But I tried to remain calm and positive and prayed a lot during this time.
I am almost at the end of the trouble I hope, my baby will be here soon and am looking forward to a brand new life.
Special thanks by the way to Neisha82 for suggesting this topic to me, if any of you have any suggestions that you think would be good please let me know :D
I can only imagine how stressful that must be. Fatigue and just the nausea alone are hard to deal with when you are in your own environment, let alone be in an office situation. Did anyone else get what I call the pregnancy fog? It seems to hit me in the first trimester where I have issues with concentrating... like I'm a little foggy. I'm ok now that I am in the 2nd trimester thank goodness. I also had an issue with blurry vision--- this happens to me whenever my hormones start changing.
It's great to know what everyone else has to deal with being pregnant.
My job is extremely stressful. I am a Plant Coordinator at a poultry plant. I'm trying my best not to show that the stress is getting to me, but it really is. Waking up in the morning feeling nauseous, dealing with the many different attitudes (bad), and of course FATIGUE. The smell isn't really that bad since I spend most of my time in my office. My biggest issue is the demand that is piling up on me which doesn't help at all. I thought that I was the only one struggling with my job but if my doctor put me on medical leave right now, I wouldn't be mad at him. My boss probably would be though!!! LOL!!!
I can relate with all of you on so many different levels indeed. As soon as our 2nd trimester hit and I started to feel an ounce of energy, I have felt like I need to get things in order. If I don't keep up on my housework or have things at least organized than it can make the house harder to manage in the long run.
What I have been doing now is going through our stuff and the kids stuff, if it hasn't been used in over a year we donate it.
I will say that I did recruit my mother-in-law to help with changing the cat litter. I don't want to pick up the 30lb bags or risk messing around with the litter right now either.
And yes getting a little time to yourself is so important. I don't care if it's 15 or 30 minutes a day, just something that lets you settle your head.
Work doesn't stress me out, I work casually out of the house...my biggest stress is my special needs 11 year old son! I just try to find time for myself and went to see a therapist in the begining of my pregncny due to my infertility, fear of a third m/c and dealing with a child who has severe ADHD,ODD and tourettes + all the first trimester woes. As long as i get a little time to myself every now and then i seem to keep it all under control!!
My job stresses me out most times. I deal with some people who is clearly in working in the wrong line of work. Don't get me wrong, I love the work I do, but I do hate politics and children in adult bodies. Sometimes I just feel as if I had took my 3 daughters in puberty to work with me. I just have to remember that everything is temporary.
I run my own business at home so I pick my hours. I think what stresses me out the most, though, is lack of help around here. With baby #4 on the way and feeling more sore this pregnancy housework can get lacking. I'm trying to not lift the laundry baskets, for example, so if someone (*ahem*we won't name names*ahem*) doesn't do it for me it just doesn't get done. And a messy house stresses me out more than work.
I am a WAHM so I have less stress because my jobs have a little more flexibility with them compared to a normal 9-5 job. Plus I freelance so projects come and go and hours are always changing.
With my first trimester though I was working a full-time job at home and it was a little crazy with morning sickness, but thank goodness I was able to just go get sick and then sit by my computer with my saltines. Being more tired in that trimester, I would take a nap after work or even on my breaks to make it through. Then I would be able to cook meals after my nap and do my cleaning then too.
I also have to mention that my husband was great watching the kids when I needed to just go take a break. This helped tremendously with refueling.