Can't let go

[4th4babeegurl]

My fiance dumped me 3 months ago, I'm pregnant with his second child, my fourth. When I went to Toronto for 2 weeks (2 months into being dumped), after a few days he told me he missed me so much, loved me so much, and wanted to try again... When I got home, after 2 days he says he didn't want me anymore... That I was so positive in Toronto, but too negative now... Since then I've tried so hard to be positive... But seems he's going further away... What should I do? Does he really love me?

[4th4babeegurl]

Thank you very much for your kind words. Even though it's hard to do, your right.  :-)   Thanks again.

[Shelly Bullard]

Hello.

I'm so sorry. This definitely seems like a real challenging situation. There is really no way for me to know whether or not he loves you or not. It sounds like you are caught in a hot/cold situation with him. The truth is, the best thing you can do for yourself and for the relationship is to love yourself. We often want to do things to GET our partners to love us; but this mentality causes us to separate from our true essence of love and keeps us longing and chasing another person to feel love and peace. The best way to return to peace is to find it within yourself. This is easier said than done, but really, it is the only way.

Take care of yourself right now. Connect with your children, do things that feel good, lean on your support. These activities (rather than chasing after him) are going to be what restores you to feeling hopeful and happy again.