My boyfriend watches porn and it disgusts me

[joramjo]

My boyfriend watches porn and it makes me feel disgusted with him. He watches women being pounded in every orifice, degrading themselves, and because he enjoys it it makes me feel less respect for him. He isn't easy to talk to and I don't know how to express this to him anyway. Please help if you can.

[NicolaDarling]

Unless he seems receptive - and you said he doesn't - it's probably not worth discussing this with him. He enjoys seeing women in degrading, humiliating poses being used by men. In my opinion, this disqualifies him from being a boyfriend. Many studies have shown frequent porn use correlates with aggression, violence and sexual dysfunction. Why bother? You can do better.

[specialmom]

You know, in all honesty, my husband has never been into porn.  he thinks it is fake and not fun to watch people pretending to enjoy what they are doing.  Have faith that you can find someone compatible with you!

I guess the important thing is for a woman to feel 'heard' on this subject.  I don't think most men watch porn in a way that should make their partner jealous or insecure, however, many women do.  Some men are just very visual and the erotic nature of porn appeals to them.  They aren't thinking about most if not all of it being contrived, much of the 'stars' being on drugs, etc.  (not as much of a turn on when you think about the lifestyle of the folks in the porn.)  

Some women like porn, some will tolerate it and for some it is a deal breaker.  it's okay whichever way you are and is for you to decide.  Best of luck to you

[jen_ortiz]

Men.like porn that's just how they are !!! If ur uncomfortable with it u prouble need to search for a man who doesnt enjoy it ,good luck with that I'm just saying. I will watch porn with my husband it makes for better more crazy sex but I'm also a Scorpio n I'm very open with my sexuality!!!!

[RockRose]

I agree.  Time for a new boyfriend.

This one disgusts you and  you don't feel comfortable communicating with him.

[TTinKKerBBell]

I TOTALLY agree with AnnieBrook AND Life360.

My Husband and MySelf are uninterested in porn but, none the less, I see no problem with porn when/if  BOTH parties are "into" it.
That being said, I too, would be concerned with Him getting pleasure, enjoyment (whatever it is) from watching women being "pounded in every orifice".  I would be disturbed by that as well.  I understand Your disrespect for Him AND I see this as disrespect for Women on His part -  that too would distrub me!!

and then You said "He's not easy to talk to"

These are MAJOR Red Flags!!

I Reiterate What AnnieBrooke said:

"It's Time For A New BoyFriend" !! !! !!

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, dosent sound like a warm and loving relationship. I think you can do better. If hes just your boyfriend, can you imagine what kind of husband he will be, especially after 10 years and he gets used to you being around.

[AnnieBrooke]

Time for a new boyfriend.  Not because of the porn, but because of how you feel about it.  He is never going to get on board with your feeling that the women are degrading themselves, or if he agrees he seems not to care.  If you have all of that going on and he is also not easy to talk to, it really doesn't sound like there is much left in the relationship worth sticking it out for.