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husband won't sleep with me
Hi everyone. I'm 8 weeks pregnant. I found out 4 weeks ago and my husband has not touched me since. When we first found our he was happy and excited still is but his affections towards me have v decreased. Every time I confront him he gets defensive once he told me he didn't want to hurt the baby. Im not even showing yet like I said I'm only 8 weeks pregnant. I expected him to feel awkward perhaps later in the pregnancy not so soon. What must I do cos I can't make him feel what v he doesn't feel. So bleak and frustrated. Help!!!!!!!!
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi!
If you were my patient, I would advise you that many men feel "funny" about their wives pregnancy. There are so many emotions involved--how will I support the family, can I be a good father, etc. Also, many men really are afraid that intercourse will hurt the baby. The first thing to try is to get him to come along to one of your Ob visits and have your doctor reassure him.
The next thing would be to seek counseling and discuss all these issues in a neutral setting so he doesn't feel defensive.
Things usually work out once everybody gets used to the idea of a new baby
Good luck!
Dr B
If you were my patient, I would advise you that many men feel "funny" about their wives pregnancy. There are so many emotions involved--how will I support the family, can I be a good father, etc. Also, many men really are afraid that intercourse will hurt the baby. The first thing to try is to get him to come along to one of your Ob visits and have your doctor reassure him.
The next thing would be to seek counseling and discuss all these issues in a neutral setting so he doesn't feel defensive.
Things usually work out once everybody gets used to the idea of a new baby
Good luck!
Dr B
I'm sorry to hear that, well, sort of, lol, because my situation is the complete opposite. My fiance has always had a veryyy high sex drive, its been hard to keep up with it, but now that I'm pregnant? I can't keep him off of me, more so than before... its frustrating because I really don't want to orgasm, or really do anything sexual. It just keeps getting worse...lol, I wish I could be on his level, or I wish he would calm the hell down. Wonder what causes that..
It is a common thing, he's not being a jerk. Part of the excitement and affection of being a daddy is keeping mommy and baby as comfortable and safe as possible. Men don't know what it feels like to be pregnant either so they tend to worry more about what can hurt mommy and baby.
Some men are also hesitant to have sex because it's embarrassing, they don't want baby to feel their penis, or they feel like baby is "watching" during sex.
Others tend to scale way back on sexual attention and instead they want to cuddle and give massages, talk to baby, do the housework, etc.
Some men are also hesitant to have sex because it's embarrassing, they don't want baby to feel their penis, or they feel like baby is "watching" during sex.
Others tend to scale way back on sexual attention and instead they want to cuddle and give massages, talk to baby, do the housework, etc.
No sex for so long?
He needs an education.Take it in your hands. Get him a video about sex during pregnancy. and tell him he has to watch it with you. If he refuses than say you are going to get a penis dublicator (it exists!) and you will make a copy if his one for your own enjoyment when he is in bed with you.
He needs an education.Take it in your hands. Get him a video about sex during pregnancy. and tell him he has to watch it with you. If he refuses than say you are going to get a penis dublicator (it exists!) and you will make a copy if his one for your own enjoyment when he is in bed with you.
I'm on pelvic rest. DH and I cannot have intercourse and I'm not allowed to have orgasm and this will likely last through most of my pregnancy... We just make out and have some fun, lots of kisses, ... and cannot wait for the day when our baby's heart beat is detectable on home fetal doppler. Ironically, one of our most intimate moments is when DH gives me my PIO shot in the butt every night. lolll No worries, your "love" is growing.... :-)
I can't believe d o n g is a forbidden word. We're pregnant, we know what a penis is obviously.
Try educate him as best you can, maybe give him an anatomy lesson. His ding **** didn't enter your uterus before, so it's not going to now! Lol. And if he really does THINK he's that big, then pleasure each other in other ways.
I went through the same thing pregnant with my daughter five years ago. But all of a sudden around 12 weeks I just lost my sex drive all together. So it was much easier to deal will with. But we were intamite in other ways. Like watching romantic movies or long talks at night.
My bf thought that sex would hurt the baby too. After reassuring it's safe and the baby would be ok he kinda came around. I also would do little things to turn him on like put on a sexy night gown (and I'm 30 wks), light candles, just get creative. It is important to talk about it too. Good luck!
Dw its normal my husband finks da same way im 36 week
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