Why is this happening..?

[babybump2wesley]

My doctor says I have a body that doesn't want to work to have my babies. I can carry them but never dilate or move things along at all. This is the second time I have had to have a csection- this Thursday at 730am I will be- and I am just so distraught at the idea. I feel like a failure I guess. Never had a vaginal birth and it's just killing me inside. I know there's a reason for things in life but I feel as if it's just not fair. Anyone know what I mean? Ever heard of it before?

[babybump2wesley]

Being your first, I wouldn't let them touch u until 42 weeks. Unless it's an absolute necessary thing. Sometimes first timers need that extra week or so for their body to kick in to gear. But I sure hope your birth goes well! Hugz

[ChasingDreams33]

Looks like i'm gonna be having a c section too i'm due this friday went to the doctor today no progress or nothing plus i'm not even dilated and i don't get or have contractions at all ever and this is my first baby i hate body so much

[babybump2wesley]

It's the after effects and things that happened to me last time when I had a csection. It did almost kill me in fact, which is why it bothers me so much. The csection became infected and the doctors wouldn't listen to me when I said I felt there was something wrong until my heart rate continuously dropped to around 40 bpm on the monitors. I spent five days away from my baby that was only two weeks old because I was so sick, and they kept telling me it was just post parting depression. It took until day three of in hospital care for the so called helpful doctors to get a heart doc in to see that I wasn't just fat but that it was severe edema happening by that point. I couldn't eat when I was feeling sick but drank so much water that it had been drowning me by slowly crushing my heart n lungs as it rose up from my legs n hands as well. After the heart doc gave me water pills, I peed out 42 lbs of water within a few days. Not even remotely exaggerating. You may not think i have a right to feel the way i do, but u obviously have no idea how scared i was when I came that close to hopelessness. So yea, it bothers me a lot to have to go through another csection.  

[AnnieBrooke]

I've heard of women feeling like failures because of not having a vaginal birth, it's not an uncommon reaction.  But "killing you inside," really?  This is not a competition and the most natural birth is somehow superior to all else.  (Some women would prefer C-sections if they could get them, because they want their vagina not to get stretched, or because of scheduling, though a reputable doctor wouldn't probably do a C for either one of those reasons.)  

Point is, you didn't fail, you had a baby!  Talk to someone who struggles with infertility and you'll find how unimportant the method of delivery is -- they would take a baby if they had to go on bedrest for nine months.  You have two kids!  Some women who would trade places in a heartbeat.  How the child comes into the world simply does not matter.