missing my mom

[dregs403]

I lost my mother suddenly a month ago. I have done nothing but cry. I can't live without her. My mother and I had a great relationship. I called her every morning and every night. I lost my brother a year ago, my grandmother 2 years ago, a granddaughter 2 years ago, a sister 3 years ago and my dad 8 years ago. I was grieving the loss of them and now my mom who truly was my best friend. I go from being angry to crying quick. People are telling me be strong stop crying and move on I can't and don't know how to.

[Bolitrez]

Sooner or later, relatives die. Now I also have one and used. Over time, you are all normalized

[TheLightSeeker]

Hi dregs403.

Grieving is a necessary step in order to deal with the loss of loved ones effectively.

When we experience the loss of many loved ones in a short time, or when we remain in the grieving stage for a much longer time-due to the deep devastation and/or shock caused by the passing of someone very close to us like  your mother in your case- that itself is a situation which will set us back emotionally and moving on with life, becomes a huge challenge.

Grief counselling at this point is highly recommended, since the person
in most cases is not able to progress on the own to the final stage of grieving, Acceptance.

So please consider this and also consider to find everyday something positive in all this, even if your emotions are telling you otherwise.

I lost both sets of my grandparents within 18 months and my mom was
totally devastated, depressed and after her doctor prescribed Valium
to help her calm down and sleep at nght, she became addicted to it.
Talk about loss! I lost my mom while she was still alive-she was a different person who I did not recognize!
Anyway, she eventually got away from valium, but suffered greatly from the withdrawal for many years.
Two years ago she passed on, 2 months after my youngest brother passed.
The only thing that helped me deal with this, is my special connection to spirituality.
I had 2 near death experiences, where I had the opportunity to see the Light and have a glimse of the the afterlife, something that changed me forever.
My views on life and death also changed dramatically because I knew
in a deeper sense, more than just an intellectual process, that life "up there", is well beyond anything we can concieve in our mind. It is almost like a climax of Love, Peace,Joy, Grace, Divinity, Awareness all together in one!

So having said this, your mother truly is at the best place she can be and you, well she definitely wants you to not worry about her at all!
She can help you in your life, but this would be possible only when you are ready. There are signs everywhere of her presence, right?
Everything around you reminds you of her, everything you do, everything you think...
You will be ready soon to accept her passing, but, please be open to be helped first. Crying has healing value and the people around you mean well, however, you will be able to soon move on from the stage of anger and crying, but not before you attempt to make a concession with the Higher Authority, which you will find is not only outside of you, but within you as well. You will cry some more, you will be depressed & lonely at times, until the the day will come when you will just know, you are ready to
accept & move on.
Please write your mother a letter and she will answer back, perhaps in a dream, perhaps in a moment of clairsentience-, you will "receive" her message- since you two were so close.
Blessings
Niko