my g-ma passed away in a nursing home march. we held hands for hours (so did mom and g-pa), weeks later we brokeout itching. g-pa was diagnosed w/scabies but before diag., oral sex was perf. on me, no intercourse. she didnt have any cold sores. after the diagnosis, i took elimite may 2. on may 6 i had another encounter w/diff girl, strictly oral, naked rubbing, no penetration tho my penis did touch her vagina at times(very drunk). next morning had a drs appt. gen. exam was fine, he did touch my penis w/out gloves. next day (2 days after the sexual encounter) awoke to find 4 large red bumps on my penis: 1 on the head, 1 on rim a few centimeters away from it, 1 on the circumsized foreskin even further away, 1 on the underside of penis where scrotum begins. each about 1/4 of an inch large bright red kind of solid,did not look like blisters clustered or clear fluid-filled. did not hurt, itch, burn- nothing. i was baffled, but got other red bumps in my armpits, tummy, etc. (so did mom)so just figured scabies aftermath. also developed a large red bump near my belly button maybe a day before. the penis issue was 6 days after elimite treatment, but dont recall bumps or itching on groin during scab. outbreak, only butt tho both were stimulated by warm bath water. went to derm. that i originally saw about the scabies (didnt seem to know too much about scabies, itching worse at night, etc) and said "whoa, have you done anything to get these penis bumps?" i said no, i was scared. i brought up herpes and he just grunted not making a yes or no move. i left not feeling comfortable with him or me. few days later i read every internet site on herpes and was convinced that i had it. i went to another derm. who said it looked more like scabies and took a sample of the base/scrotum bump but no evidence was found (also tested bump on web on hand and it was negative). told me not to worry, would know i had herpes because it "hurt like hell" and also it would look totally different. i had scratched 1 bump in sleep, woke up scratching. took the 2nd elimite treatment that night, only afterwards did my skin burn a little. symptoms: 1 day of headache about 5th day of bumps, awoke w/ incredibly sore calves third week for no reason, no flu symptoms. bumps never looked like blisters, never burst, and slowly went down after maybe 3 weeks. would swell up after masturbation/friction. still have faint red marks on penis. went to urologist the other day who couldnt tell me much w/out seeing them, but said not to worry. asked both females about cold sores/herpes. first said she had one cold sore on her mouth 3 years ago, that was it. the other one said she didnt have cold sore problems or herpes i dated her a year ago & never had problems like this. doesnt it seem unlikely that 6 or 7 days after elimite treatment i would get such a reaction from it? could this be herpes only 2 days after event and w/4 large red bumps spaced out? could trauma produce 4 bumps like this? sore calves?