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How do I break the news to my unborn child's father that we're expecting a baby?

I recently took an at home ept test and found out that I am pregnant. I have been really moody lately and have been keeping my distance from my unborns child's father. He asked me today if I was ok. I lied and said that I was fine, I'm just on my period and in pain and want to be alone.
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I told him tonight and he couldn't believe it! He kept saying how he wants me and my kids to move with him so that he can be near and watch the pregnancy process. He wants to become a family. He wants to take me to the Carribean to meet his mother and his family. He told me that he wants a girl and gave her a name already. I'm so glad that he took the news well.
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Thanks so much for the comments. I'm hoping that things do go well. I do agree that he does have the right to know. All I can do now is..stress less and live more. Every day that passes, I get more anxious about the baby's health and how far we have to go. The excitement is slowly building each day.
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A baby is a blessing, regardless of circumstance, but every parent-to-be deserves to know that they have created life. Find a quirky way to announce to him over dinner. There are a TON of cute ideas on Pinterest.

It's up to him to decide to raise the child with you. Don't be alarmed if he's distant or doesn't seem interested at first either. He could be distant for fear of raising a child or how it will change your relationship. It's a life altering commitment for everyone involved.

Every man is different when it comes to bonding with their children. My husband kept telling me that it just didn't seem real yet until I really started showing. Now, he's so anxious to meet his daughter! He comes home from work and kisses my belly before he even kisses me usually! We are 34w4d today and patiently waiting for her arrival.

I've begun nesting and getting a birth plan prepared, everything set up, cleaned, and packed, while he looks at me like I'm crazy and shows no interest in helping. They will bond with their baby when they're ready. If they don't and they turn tail instead, know that you're already a wonderful mommy to your unborn child simply for loving him or her enough to give them a chance at life! You are strong and you CAN raise that baby without him!
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First time I had sex with my bf I got pregnant.  He  had a good reaction when I told him.  He is a Lil distant now but I hear men don't bond with the baby til they hold them.  I am now 36 weeks 2 days
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I dated my now husband for 2 months before I was pg! We were scared and I of course braced myself for him to leave but here we are now 4 years later married and having another baby! Just sit him down and tell him! I wish you guys the best
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I dated my boyfriend for maybe 2-3 months before we got pregnant. Was definitely a surprise, but knew we would keep it. Despite being very rocky in the beginning, we are now going 3 years strong, have our own place, and expecting another!!

You just have to tell him.
Either he'll be into it, or he won't.
Either you keep it, or you don't.
You have to be realistic and deal with the situation.
He has a right to know! And the sooner you tell him the sooner you'll find out what's right for you both!
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Are you two not on good terms?  Even if you are not,  he does deserve to know. Maybe in it him over for dinner and just sit down to talk to him.
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We're on good terms. Our relationship is fairly new. We didn't expect to get pregnant at all Everything has happened so fast. I'm unsure as to how we're going to cope.

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