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Worried about teen's mental health

My teenage daughter has always been my 'good', 'easy' child. She has always been exceptionally well behaved, off the charts smart, polite, and seemingly good-hearted. I now feel like I don't know her and am scared to have her in the home with my other daughter (who is 5) and our dog.
She has always had an OBSESSION with animals. Her 'love' for and knowledge of them is remarkable.
Well, a few nights ago, I noticed her light was on after she was supposed to be asleep - which, isn't unusual; she often reads past bed time. When I opened her door to tell her to go to sleep, the guilt was palpable. She was holding her (old school) kindle (which, I didn't realize you could do anything beyond read books on) and she was scurrying to close windows. So, I quickly grabbed it from her and went through her history to find that she was looking at anime beastiality porn. My entire world ended at that moment, but it got even worse.
Several years ago, she was really into a book series called 'Warriors', which not surprisingly, centers around animals. Long story short, she has been part of a 50 Shades of Grey level, writing forum, based on these books. Truly, the content was even too much for me to read. And in addition to that, has been specifically googling 'beastiality porn' 'anime beastiality' and even 'anime lesbian incest'. I also need to mention that when I walked back into her room she was trying her damnedest to pull her pants up, because she was masturbating.
I am scared to death and feel like I do not know this human being at all. I immediately found a psychologist (who can't get us in for a few more weeks) and have been having my 5 year old daughter and dog sleep with me since then. Per the psychologists phone advice, I have been trying to act as normal as possible around her (not counting my initial psychotic breakdown), but looking at her makes my skin crawl, to be honest.
Has anyone ever dealt with this? Is my child dangerous?
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Until you mentioned animals, it sounded as if you were describing my daughter. Like your daughter, she suprised me immensely and at that moment, I too was devastated.  She was posing as a boy, also doing sexually inappropriate things online, like videos for anyone to see. Lying became truth to her. She made me out to be an evil tyrant to gain sympathy from others. I never in a million years would have thought this to be our reality, but here I am.  I have no advice really.  Just wanted to tell you your not alone. My situation has not improved yet. I hope yours has.  Please update if you are inclined to do so.
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Not knowing your daughter, I nor anyone here can definitively state that your daughter is one way or another. Consider though that some people have an attraction for things that are "taboo". Psychologically you have to include the fact that The Warriors book depicts animals as walking talking beings as though they are mystical humans. This opened your daughters mind to seeing things from a fantasy perspective. So, don'the be too quick to demonize what her intents were. Somewhere along the line, either by mere accident or because of a friend at school, the concept of pornography was introduced to her. Anime can be very adventurous or as you've witnessed very adulterated (Which is referred to as Hentai). You have to ask yourself if you want to keep your daughter or shame her. Meaning, I would not expect you to find a way to like what she was searching and enjoying looking at. I am trying to help you see that you have a window of opportunity to help her understand why you dislike what she was looking at, without making her feel like she has to hide herself from you. You need to come to a common ground of sorts that directs her away from that material and not ripping it off like a bad band-aid. Seeing a therapist will be the best plan of action, because you can relay your concerns to the therapist and the Therapist can learn your daughters traits and hopefully help guide her away from subjects of that nature. You can put blocks on devices she uses to aid in preventing her from using the devices you provide her with to view that type of material, but be aware she is still growing and not knowing how long this has been going on, it could have become a habit for her. And the best way to break bad habits, is by developing new ones. (i.e.
Getting out more, not spending too much time alone, time limiting device use). Just remember you can only provide her with a path, you can't shove her down it. I hope the best for you and your children.
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http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a43159/why-do-millennials-love-cartoon-porn-so-much/ has some good information in it, including the fact that at least one set of online fan fiction with a Fifty Shades of Grey title is referring to Twilight, not the novel of the same name.
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I would guess she is no more dangerous today than she was the day before you knew this was her sexual obsession, or the day before that, or the day before that.  She is the same person you knew before.  She just had a secret before and now you know the secret.  Try not to look at her as a whole different human being.

I would guess you are not planning to come out and ask her what started her interest in extreme porn, but it would be worth it to know.  What if she had been subject to abuse and couldn't tell you?  Wouldn't you want to help her?

It seems to me a shrink that can't get you in for a few weeks is useless.  Find someone else.
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