Pregnant and husband doesn't want the baby and said to have an abortion

[Joharasz]

Hi everyone,
Not really a question, I just need some encouragement from other moms. I'm pregnant with our first child together but my husband is not happy about it. He's asked me to have an abortion or he'll divorce me. I said I won't do it and he's not talking to me. I've been crying for the last few days and I'm also spotting. Now I'm scared that I might miscarry and that makes me even more sad.

[yungmom22]

Im so sorry that your going through this. I or no one else can tell you what you need to do. You have to live with your choice so you should do what you think is right. Try to relax I know its easier said than done. It is normal for some pregnant women to spot, but I would go get checked out so you dont worry yourself even more.

[Joharasz]

Thanks for your kind words everyone. I wanted to respond with some type of good news if I could. I've never considered having an abortion to please anyone and I'm happy to say that the spotting stopped a few days after my post and my OBGYN was able to get a heartbeat through an abdominal ultrasound yesterday praise God. I'm praying for a healthy pregnancy especially not having kind of support from my own husband. Thanks again everybody.

[AnnieBrooke]

I'm pro-choice, if I were to have found myself pregnant at 17 I probably would have gotten an abortion.  That said, I would not abort for any man, what an awful thing for him to have said, it is not his unilateral choice, and for him to put your whole relationship into the fire over this is wrong on so many levels.  See a lawyer.  That's grounds for you divorcing him, and I hope you take him to the cleaner's on alimony and child support too.  What a cruel thing he said.

[420CaptainTr0LL]

I believe u r a free woman to decide for ur life. Take a decision fast and take care of yourself. Thats ur task and priority. If this kid is meant to come it will come. Everything is gonna turn out for the best in the end.