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Weak husband and dominating mother in law ruined my marriage

I'm an indian girl and married my husband 4 years back. I knew from beginning that he wanted to marry his girlfriend but his mom didnt allow because she was from lower cast. Per his mom girl was behind the money and she agreed to him only after he was settled in London.

I had met my husband during my official tour in london and fwll in love with him though it was never mutual. My feelibg for him grew strong and i decided to marry him. After marriage his mom started showing her true colors. She is a psycho lady who is damn insecure of her son and start crying if i close the bed room door. I stayed with her after marriage for 6 months alone while my husband was in UK.she craeted ao much negativity between us that my husband stopped talking to me. I was newly married and husband not talking was unbearable to me. But i tolerated everything and moved to UK after i got new job here. I had hoped that it woyld be better but my kom in law always created one or other problem. In last 3 years things settled a bit and i thought of buying property where i spent all my savings as my husband send all his money to his mom. Thing looked ok till his mom was not here. She came 5 months back and from then my life is full of ****. She abused me used harrsed language and mentally torturing me. My so called husband sees everything but doesnt have guts to say anything. Even when alone he blames me for all thing.

Im independent and have taken care of my needs even after marriage as my husband was busy with his own family and sending all his mo ey to them. I never gave importance to money but im emotionally drained now. Feels like im going in depression.

The thought of living him is scary but i know evwn with him i will have pathetic life as he will nevwr stand against his mom who will always ruin my life. She challenged me that she will ruin it. Even when i said its runing his son life as well which shw doesnt care as she can get hwr son married anytime.

At the moment my husband and his mom have completely sided me and left me alone. They are not talking to me as well.
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That's a really hard and sad story to read.  But you are young, you can move on from this.  Is divorce possible?  I know it is difficult culturally in India.  Here (US), it's pretty normal.  But you deserve to be happy. As you are practically on your own, I'd make it official and start over.  Hugs
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