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Is it possible that guy number 1 or number 2 is the father
I had a period June 3rd through June 8th a full 6 day period I had sex with guy number 1 June 9th that's the only time I had sex with guy number 1 guy number 2 who is now my boyfriend I had sex with him June 12,22,25,26 I then had a period start July 2nd through July 6th it lasted 5 days I had sex with guy number 2 the boyfriend July 9th and July 16 and July 22 I missed my period the 29th of July beginning of august and have not had one since I had my first ultra sound august 28th the dr. Estimated a due date of April 8 with a gestation of 8 weeks 1 day I had another ultrasound at 12 weeks and 20 weeks and 36 weeks and have always measured exactly how it was supposed to my question is is it possible in any way guy number 1 could be the father I'm so scared and need honest answers could DNA test come back to guy number 1
I have a situation very similar to this infact my due date was the 8th as well. From one dr the 7th the other the 8th & that was from my earliest ultrasound by measurements because I was unsure of when my last cycle was. They told me LMP JULY 1st & conception occurs 2 weeks later which puts me around July 16th. I also had sex with one guy in June & after that I had a period as well. No period in August though. We got pregnant in July and just like for me, your July guy is the father !
COMMUNITY LEADER
OK, let's go over the evidence.
- You had sex June 9, and then had a normal period afterward.
- Your doctor did an early ultrasound and told you a due date of April 8.
- The doctor got this due date by looking at the growth markers and size of the actual embryo, he did not just draw it out of a hat.
- The due date has not changed over several ultrasounds.
- A due date of April 8 has a conception date of July 16.
In fact, you had sex with your boyfriend all around July 16.
- (You do not say you had sex with anyone else around July 16.)
- June 9 was more than a month before July 16.
- Sperm in your body does not last more than 5-6 days before it dies.
- If you got pregnant on June 9, you would have had the baby three weeks ago, on March 2. You did not have the baby on March 2, as far as you have said here.
So, what do you think? Where is the evidence that the guy from June 9 is the dad? All the logic points one direction and you keep running to the other side. Moms often have to make choices and decisions that nobody is there to pat the on the head and make for them. In fact, you will be the one patting someone else on the head and reassuring them. That is your new job now, to think for yourself and for the well-being of your little one. If you can't get past this bothering you, see a counselor or therapist, it's always good to have backup. But this is not a logic question, you are apparently taking counsel of your fears, and that is a mindset it's time to get rid of in your life. You have more important things to do.
- You had sex June 9, and then had a normal period afterward.
- Your doctor did an early ultrasound and told you a due date of April 8.
- The doctor got this due date by looking at the growth markers and size of the actual embryo, he did not just draw it out of a hat.
- The due date has not changed over several ultrasounds.
- A due date of April 8 has a conception date of July 16.
In fact, you had sex with your boyfriend all around July 16.
- (You do not say you had sex with anyone else around July 16.)
- June 9 was more than a month before July 16.
- Sperm in your body does not last more than 5-6 days before it dies.
- If you got pregnant on June 9, you would have had the baby three weeks ago, on March 2. You did not have the baby on March 2, as far as you have said here.
So, what do you think? Where is the evidence that the guy from June 9 is the dad? All the logic points one direction and you keep running to the other side. Moms often have to make choices and decisions that nobody is there to pat the on the head and make for them. In fact, you will be the one patting someone else on the head and reassuring them. That is your new job now, to think for yourself and for the well-being of your little one. If you can't get past this bothering you, see a counselor or therapist, it's always good to have backup. But this is not a logic question, you are apparently taking counsel of your fears, and that is a mindset it's time to get rid of in your life. You have more important things to do.
Well thanks for talking about it with me yes I agree I'm not doubting him getting a DNA test if I was a man I would definitely want one as well and I just wanted to make sure on my end that he would be the possible father in this case so when we do the DNA test I won't be so worried that was all I was wanting to know do you think he would be the father based on my info provided
And I'm confused on where may 26th came from as a due date if I would have got pregnant in June?
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Sorry, my typo. March 2, not May 26, is the expected due date for someone who had sex on June 9. (May 26 is the date I put into the calculator for first day of last period, so it would come out as conception around June 9.)
In short, not only did the doctor look at the actual baby several times on the ultrasound and give you confirmation of the dates from the measurements of the actual baby, not from stories about when you had bleeding (and no, women don't have periods when pregnant -- they do sometimes have bleeding that they confuse with a period, but not periods), but also, if you got pregnant from sex on June 9, you would have had your baby three weeks ago.
You have nothing to fear from a DNA test, and should not be offended, either. Any young man who learns he is about to become a father has every right to ask for one. It is much harder to get taken off a birth certificate later than it is to be sure at the front end. Don't blame him or be mad at him for it. Guys get a lot of free sex, which of course they happily take. Sometimes the woman gets pregnant, and then they have to give up their GQ subscription and take on a lifetime of GRW (Guilt, Responsibility, and Worry) as well as a lifetime of paying for the child. Nobody should be blamed for wanting to double-check before jumping in wholeheartedly in such a situation. Obviously, you know you are about to become a mother. But he does not know for sure he is about to become a father. Give him the certainty he needs.
In your shoes, I would talk to your doctor or even call the family courts in your area of jurisdiction, and ask for the procedure for legal determination of paternity and what lab to go to or how to do it at the hospital. Use the lab the judge's clerk tells you is the certified lab, or do it through the hospital's system if they have one. Go with your boyfriend and watch him do the swab and watch the tech take it away. This is NOT a time for drugstore tests done at home. For one thing, courts won't accept them as valid. For another, they are easily faked. Go to the kind of place where they photograph you and your ID, or if it can be done properly at the hospital, do it there. But make sure your boyfriend does the swab, not some buddy who looks like him, and make sure a neutral third party takes charge of the samples as soon as they are swabbed. This is too important to mess around with.
In short, not only did the doctor look at the actual baby several times on the ultrasound and give you confirmation of the dates from the measurements of the actual baby, not from stories about when you had bleeding (and no, women don't have periods when pregnant -- they do sometimes have bleeding that they confuse with a period, but not periods), but also, if you got pregnant from sex on June 9, you would have had your baby three weeks ago.
You have nothing to fear from a DNA test, and should not be offended, either. Any young man who learns he is about to become a father has every right to ask for one. It is much harder to get taken off a birth certificate later than it is to be sure at the front end. Don't blame him or be mad at him for it. Guys get a lot of free sex, which of course they happily take. Sometimes the woman gets pregnant, and then they have to give up their GQ subscription and take on a lifetime of GRW (Guilt, Responsibility, and Worry) as well as a lifetime of paying for the child. Nobody should be blamed for wanting to double-check before jumping in wholeheartedly in such a situation. Obviously, you know you are about to become a mother. But he does not know for sure he is about to become a father. Give him the certainty he needs.
In your shoes, I would talk to your doctor or even call the family courts in your area of jurisdiction, and ask for the procedure for legal determination of paternity and what lab to go to or how to do it at the hospital. Use the lab the judge's clerk tells you is the certified lab, or do it through the hospital's system if they have one. Go with your boyfriend and watch him do the swab and watch the tech take it away. This is NOT a time for drugstore tests done at home. For one thing, courts won't accept them as valid. For another, they are easily faked. Go to the kind of place where they photograph you and your ID, or if it can be done properly at the hospital, do it there. But make sure your boyfriend does the swab, not some buddy who looks like him, and make sure a neutral third party takes charge of the samples as soon as they are swabbed. This is too important to mess around with.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Sweetheart, I know that in your heart, you do not really think that if you had sex June 9, and then had a normal period afterward, and then were told by your doctor from an early ultrasound a due date of April 8 [which points to a conception date of July 16], and that due date has never changed in all your ultrasounds, I know that you do not really think this means you somehow got pregnant by the June 9 guy on July 16. There is no such thing as magic sperm that lasts longer than a month. (If you got pregnant in June, I assume you have worked out what due date they would have given you, May 26 or something, right?) So, tell me what you really are worried about. Is it that you just feel like you did the wrong thing in having the sex on June 9? Is there anyone you can talk to about that?
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lol it's probably just my feeling of doing the wrong thing and the fact my bf is adamit about a DNA test I have no idea about stuff like this I have asked and talked to people about it and just wanted to make sure that when we get the DNA test based on all the facts it will likely be my boyfriend just wanted to make sure people do have periods while pregnant so I was doubting that as well
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