Sex with two guys same day.

[Heygirl_]

Okay Feb 26 or 27 of 2018 i had sex with my ex and he nutted in me. Feb 28 2018 was "supposedly" my last period. Well i thought it was my period not sure. It was very light spotting. Then on march 8, 2018 i had unprotected  sex with someone, literally a quickie as they call it. But he was the pull out method which i saw on his hand. Maybe like 3 to 4 hours later i had sex with my ex again and he nutted in me again. Then i found out around 2 weeks after maybe like end of march i was pregnant. Im pretty sure my ex is the father but need other opinions.

[AnnieBrooke]

And at that first ultrasound, did they say you were in your 9th week?

[Heygirl_]

I think it was 8weeks close to 9

[Heygirl_]

Actually yes 9

[AnnieBrooke]

OK. Well, it doesn't help that they said in your fifteenth week that your due date might be a little earlier than they said in the first ultrasound, but it is not the end of the world either. The first ultrasound will be more accurate than the second one. It suggests you got pregnant on March 14. This gives the one-night stand guy a hairs' breadth of safety but only that, since sperm can live in your body 4-6 days (though some research suggests it is not strong enough by day 6 to penetrate the egg). As you can see, I wasn't kidding when I wanted exactness in your dates and your reporting, your margins are really slim.

Regarding pre-ejaculatory fluid, it can carry sperm from a prior ejaculation the guy had before the guy got the erection with you. Never count on the fact that the fluid from the Cowper's Gland contains no sperm, pulling out is not a form of birth control. Pre-ejaculatory fluid is like a bus and the sperm waiting around in the urethra are the passengers, and they just hop on and take a ride into the vagina. At that point, pre-ejaculate does contain sperm. This doesn't always happen, it depends on whether the guy had ejaculated recently. But this is why a lot of girls do get pregnant from pre-ejaculatory fluid despite the guy pulling out. Don't fall for this one again. :)

In short, though it sounds possible that the one-night stand is not the dad, it is not 100% guaranteed that he is not. You really do need to do a DNA test once the baby is born. Everyone -- you, the baby, and both men, deserve to know for sure. Talk to your doctor and find out if the swabs for a legal determination of paternity can be done in the hospital, or call the family courts in your area of jurisdiction to find out what labs they certify for this kind of work. No drugstore tests, no just testing with one guy and assuming. Test with both, since one guy's yes backs up the other guy's no. If you are going to have trouble getting the guys to test, see a lawyer. And go and witness them doing the tests -- you don't want either guy to send a buddy in his place.

[AnnieBrooke]

I will add, since the next ultrasound suggested a slightly earlier due date than the one before it did, it simply means your baby is growing a little faster than the average growth curve, so every subsequent ultrasound will probably make it look like he was conceived a little earlier than the prior ultrasound did. This is nothing to worry about, ultrasounds at 6 weeks are often spot-on for guessing at conception but ultrasounds at 40 weeks can be up to 3 weeks off due to differing growth rates of the baby. In fact, your ultrasounds suggest that if you had had an ultrasound in your 6th week it might have suggested conception on the 16th, which would take the one-night stand guy out of the picture entirely.

[Heygirl_]

I just made a mistake. I went back thru my messages the one night stand happened March 7. NOT March 8. Does that make a difference at all?

[AnnieBrooke]

Every day that direction helps. This doesn't mean you should not do DNA testing, but it might help indicate that the one-night stand will get ruled out.

[AnnieBrooke]

Have you had an ultrasound that gave you an estimated due date?

[AnnieBrooke]

I am trying to get to why you think the events on the same day produced the pregnancy. If you did not have a real period on February 28, you could already have been pregnant. What has the doctor said about your due date?

[Heygirl_]

Yes. My due date is December 5, 2018.
As of today im 15 weeks, day 3. And i dont know im just scared. Its my first child. When the doctors asked me when was my last period i told them February 28 because that was the last time i bled. It lasted for a couple days. I feel like it could of been my period or maybe i was already pregnant, now that i think of it.

[Heygirl_]

Also because when i found out i was pregnant it weeks after i had sex with both of them so its like omg when exactly did i get pregnant.

[AnnieBrooke]

OK, you said you had an ultrasound? (At least, the first word of your answer was "Yes." ) When was that? And did the doctor say "Your due date based on the measurements of the baby is December 5" when he or she was reading the ultrasound data? If so and if the ultrasound was early, that is more useful than if the doctor pulled out a little cardboard wheel and computed your due date on it without referring to an ultrasound, or if you were told a weeks figure and went home and came up with the due date yourself. This is why I wanted to know what the doctor said about your due date.

As you have explained it, it does not look like you got pregnant on the day you had sex with both guys. Unfortunately, there is not a wide margin of safety between you from the one-night stand, either, only about a week if you take into account the length of time sperm can live in the woman's body. If the info you have came from a nice, early ultrasound (information from later ultrasounds is not as reliable for estimating conception), that's a good thing.

So, how early in your pregnancy did you get an ultrasound, and was it from the ultrasound that you got your due date, and did the doctor give you the due date?

[AnnieBrooke]

there is not a wide margin of safety between *the time when you might have gotten pregnant and the time you had sex with the one night stand*, not between *you from* the one night stand.

[Heygirl_]

The "yes" was for the ultrasound. The doctors went based of my last period and they did pull out this circle date chart thing and said my due date is December 5. Just recently i had an ultrasound sound thou and based on the ultrasound and baby measurements they say December 3. But doctor told me lets stick to December 5

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, at least they are checking the ultrasound against the info from the little wheel. When was your very first ultrasound and when was the "just recent" one?

[Heygirl_]

Also, when i had went for my very first ultrasound i cant remember exactly but i think i was already over like 7+ weeks. There was an extra 2 weeks. Not sure if im explaining this right. Soo when i did the math myself i got that i was already pregnant when i had that one night stand. I also was already not feeling well i think before the one night stand with headaches. But its hard to remember now that i have such bad memory since i read it is once of the symptoms

[AnnieBrooke]

Or are you saying that the recent ultrasound was the only one?

[Heygirl_]

My first ultrasound was May 4. Thats the date on my pictures on my iphone.  Then my second ultrasound sound was at May 25 and next month i have a 3rd one for babys gendee

[Heygirl_]

But also the one night stand, the guy didn't ***** in me he pulled out. But he keeps saying precum but i read online that precum has no sperm at all.