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[Lovehurts2019]

I had sex with a guy 1 time March 31st and my period came April 1st  which it comes on time around the first or second of every month it usually last 3-5 days then I started having sex right after my period with my boyfriend.. The doc said I conceived around April 10-14 who’s the father?

[AnnieBrooke]

Your boyfriend, if he is the only guy you had sex with April 10-20 or so. What made you doubt the doctor?

[Lovehurts2019]

Idk I’m just scared I guess

[AnnieBrooke]

If you don't believe a doctor who has your records and your ultrasound readings in front of him, I am not sure asking around on the Internet is going to make you feel reassured. If someone on the Internet tells you something, you won't be scared? I'd be more likely to believe a doctor, frankly.

Here is some basic reproductive education. You do understand the significance of having a period, am I correct? When a girl has sex, she always is waiting to see if her next period comes or doesn't. If it does, she breathes a big sigh of relief, if she is not trying to get pregnant. (Alternately, if she is trying to get pregnant, she is very sad.) Why does she do this? Because she knows that a period indicates she is not pregnant. Why? One, a period means the embryo (if there was one) has not implanted. Two, a period in relation to the timing of the sex can show she was not even ovulating when she had the sex.

In your case, you had sex one day and the period came the next day. Ovulation is two weeks before the period comes. Your period on April 1 shows that your March ovulation was around the 16th or so of March.  An egg lasts only one day before it is no longer viable, if it is not fertilized. You would not have had an egg hanging around on March 31.

So, what about the situation is scaring you? Did the doctor say anything that you found confusing about the dates?

[Lovehurts2019]

It’s just I heard you can ovulate twice a month and right after your period

[AnnieBrooke]

You are giving so little information that I'm kind of at a loss as to what to say to address your concerns. If I'm understanding what you are saying, the guy you don't want to be the dad is the guy with whom you had sex the day before your period, nothing about after your period. Are you thinking his sperm lasted through the days of your period and then somehow crept out of a hiding place and got you pregnant when you ovulated later? Your doctor said you conceived in the April 10-14 time range. That would mean the guy's sperm had to live altogether at least 11 days in your system, if not more, and to find some kind of hiding place to stay out of the way when you had your period. Sperm can last a while in your body, but not more than about 6 days at most, and all the cilia in the Fallopian tubes move things down and out, not up and in, so the sperm would not have found a place to hang out for 11 days there. It's probably time to talk things over with your doctor and then stop worrying.

[Lovehurts2019]

Omg what you said is more of exactly what I’m feeling, like what if I ovulated around the 6,7 or so then he could be. I know she said the 10-14 but sometimes there wrong.

[AnnieBrooke]

Fears do not disprove medical information.  Folk tales "I've heard that ..." do not disprove medical information. Have you had an ultrasound that has given you a due date? When was that, and what was the due date?

You sound like you are being ruled by your feelings about having had sex with the person on March 31 and are letting those overtake your common sense. Why do you go to a doctor? Because she has had years of education and training and experience as a medical practitioner. Versus -- an invented a story to justify your fears. Fears and invented stories vs. a doctor's medical training and experience -- what to do, what to do.

(I might add, I think you misinterpreted what the doctor said about the 10-14. She probably said that sex on the 10th through the 14th would have produced the pregnancy. According to your cycles, even the 10th is a bit too early for you to have ovulated, but she would be correct to assume that unprotected sex that day could have produced a pregnancy. This is because of the 4-6 day life of sperm in your body. You could have had sex on only the 10th and have gotten pregnant when you ovulated on the 14th, just from the sex on the 10th.)

Anyway, your regular menstrual months say you would not have ovulated anywhere near as early as the 6th. If you had "ovulated twice a month and right after your period," you would have seen it in your cycles, you would have had much earlier periods. And the 6th would have been too late for the guy's sperm from the encounter before your period to be viable anyway.

[Lovehurts2019]

So I’m due Jan 5th.. Is there a chance I could have ovulated early like the 5,6,7

[AnnieBrooke]

It sounds like you ovulated on or around April 14.

[Lovehurts2019]

So what about if I can’t remember if my period came April 1st could I have gotten pregnant or ovulated early?

[Lovehurts2019]

So what about if I can’t remember if my period came April 1st could I have gotten pregnant or ovulated early?

[AnnieBrooke]

It's out of your hands and what you remember's hands, at this point. Once the doctor sees the baby on an ultrasound and measures the actual baby, you could tell him your last period was three years ago and it wouldn't matter. The doc saw and measured the actual baby and got the dates from the baby's size.