Most women are asymmetrical with their labias and men don't notice or care. Really, that is your own hang up and it will never be an issue for you with men. But I'm talking about your anxiety sweetie. That IS treatable. You can get help for that. There is no reason to hate yourself. We all have hang ups, things we don't like about ourselves and things to work on. That's part of being human. We are all the same in that regard.
Sweetie, how are you doing on getting some help with your anxiety? That's the real problem here. It is causing you to imagine all sorts of things, to over examine your body and to fret and worry when it isn't warranted. Can you please talk to a parent or someone that can help you find a counselor or doctor to begin working on what appears to be anxiety that interferes with your life?